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love triangle
i like a guy who has been in a relationship with another girl for two and half years. he says they are done but last week over fall break he went nine hours to see her, has pictures of them everywhere, constantly texting her, etc. he shows signs of liking me but i do not know how real it is because we never really hang out unless he wants me to spend the night with him (we never do anything) and seldom texting. what should i do? quit trying? give him space? keep trying?
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Sounds like this guy is an idiot. Don't you watch movies? A guy will always say he's going to break up with them, but they don't. Because they're a player. Don't bother with it. It's going to hurt, it's going to be hard. But it's so much easier to have this be done and gone so you don't have to worry about it, than getting in deeper. Also, you knew that he had a girlfriend, next time, just say I won't be with you until you are DONE with her. For all you know, she could be pregnant or what not. Always be mad at HIM never the girl. You don't know this girl, she could be completely innocent, and it sounds like she is. I had a boyfriend who did that with girls all the time. We met when we were 14. And I knew he was a cheater. He would keep me as his main, but would have girls on the side really I think just to talk to and mess around with. And we had sex maybe...8 times a day at most. So it's not like I wasn't giving it up. I just remember thinking, how can a girl who knew I existed do that? I think women should stand together and never get mad at each other. Protect one another. It hurt because you'd think that as a girl herself who had gone through what I had, she might have some respect for me. We've been together for 4 years now, and we're still together. We have one daughter, and a son on the way. He's changed so much. But nothing has ever hurt me more in my life, than having him be with someone else.
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Been there, done that.. and let me tell you, it's not pretty.
If he didn't want his girlfriend, he would just break up with her - it's that simple.
What it sounds like he's doing is having you as a back up, y'know, just incase things get messy with his own relationship - he will always have you to fall back on. You don't want that. You don't want to be someones bit on the side for when he's bored.
If he wanted you, he would be with you.
Definitely move on. Yes, it's gonna be hard if you have feellings for him, but you deserve better. You deserve a boy you can call your own.
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To be honest, I would move on.
If a guy wants to be with you he will do anything to hang out with you and will go out of this way to talk to you. No offense but this isn't a love triangle it sounds more like you're being used because he can't be with his ex. You don't deserve that so move on and find someone who is going to give you the attention you deserve!
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