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So where should a girl keep her hands when making out? I dont know what to do. Help? Thanks

Put your hands on his lower waist. Thats always hot. Like on his pelvic bone.

Then again you could always go for the classic, neck, shoulders, chest.

You could go for the lower back too. That spices things up a bit.

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So I have an aunt, an uncle, and three cousins that moved out of state. It broke my heart when I first heard they were leaving, and I only get to see them once a year. I was so close to all of them, especially one cousin in particular. Let's call him A.

A and I have been like best friends ever since we met. We were close about everything, and had the kind of relationship where you could talk about everything together because we weren't afraid to. We trusted each other & have only fought ONCE! We have an incredible bond like no one else... nobody can ever break that bond.

Whenever we get together, it's never awkward between us. The Tom-Boy just comes right out in me and I love that. He brings out something in me, a side that no one else can bring out.

It's probably been about 2 or 3 years since they've moved and I've grown used to it. He's 12 and I'm 13. We're both at the age where we understand what's going on. We can only see each other once a year and it breaks my heart.

On a higher note, we've been communicating through e-mail which is great. It's so fantastic to still be talking to him even if it's not in person. It lets me know he's always there to talk to me even though he's 2 million miles away. :)

So my question is, how can I tell him I miss him without sounding all sappy and mushy?
We've never talked like that before.

Thanks!

It's hard when someone so close to you moves away like that. But just think, it could be worse. At least he's still around, and your family, so he's always gonna be there.

Call him up sometime, and just tell him "I wish you still lived here" or "It really sucks that we can't hang out everyday like we used to" something casual like that. That's not too mushy. You're family, you're supposed to miss each other.

Another suggestion, maybe invest in a long-distance calling plan so that you can call him a couple times a week so you guys can catch up and still be a part of each other's lives. Modern technology makes it a lot easier for people to stay connected. AIM is a good way too.

Also, I don't know if this would be an option to you, but talk to your parents about maybe saving up some of your allowance to buy a plane ticket to go visit him a few more times a year.

I'm sorry for your situation. I'm sure that he misses you too and wants to hear from you more often.

I hope that I helped.
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I have 2 best friends. Basically we all hang out together, but now that it's summer we all have separate things going on. So my friend, who i'll call P, has a very paranoid and overprotective mom, who i don't understand one bit. she let her go on a plane trip to a different state for a band trip, but won't let her go to the mall. the other night it was about 7:45 maybe 8:00 and we wanted to go see a movie but her mom said it was too late, but after she was gonna sleep over my house. so instead of a movie we wanted to practically walk up my street to get ice cream, so my friend HAD to call her mom to let her know so of course her mom said no b/c it was too late and was gonna be dark and she didn't want her walking home in the dark. so not only does she limit what she can do, but my other best friend and i. we're 15, and she'll be 15 in august. it's not like we're stupid girls who drink, do drugs/smoke, we're smart. we wouldnt leave each other in the middle of the road or something. her mom is so paranoid and my friend never opposes her mom. she's just like okay mom, instead of mom its not even dark out yet nothing is going to happen! if my mom was like that i'd be soo arguing her. should i talk to my friend about this and what should i do?? thanksss so much.

You should encourage your friend to have a talk with her mom about some of these rules. Maybe if she explains that her moms strict curfews are restricting what you guys can do, she will loosen up a little bit.

However, I'm sure that she is just as upset about it as you are. She probably realizes that her mom's rules are affecting the group. Putting too much pressure on her or getting mad over it will only make her feel worse and it won't do much in the way of building your friendship.

You can always try to reason with her mom, but there is a good chance that that won't do much. If not, then you might have to work around these rules. Plan your day out in advance and give her mom your game plan so that she knows exactly what you are doing and she isn't freaking out and calling every half hour. Then plan on watching a movie at someones house when it gets to be after-hours.

I know that it is hard, and sometimes it may be tempting just to not hang out with her, but it's hard for her too. Be a good friend to her like you would want her to be for you. Sometimes you have to mae sacrifices for the people that you care about.

Hope everything works out okay.
Sarah

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My boyfriend just came back from a month long trip to Europe. During his trip, I know he was with a girl named Kate almost every waking minute.(It was a group trip with kids from around the state) He knows I don't like her much, but I try not to think about it. Well now that he's back, they have pictures together, her on his back, him hugging her and things like this. It makes me nervous, I can tell he loves me. But part of me is terrified of what he might have left in Europe. What should I do? Is this wrong of me?

No, it definatly isn't wrong of you to feel this way. It's really hard to see that. I can tell that you haven't freaked out on him too much over it, and I think that's really good of you, because a lot of girls would have and it doesn't solve anything.

If you know that your boyfriend loves you, then don't let it get to you. He's here now, with you, not her. Until he starts to act weird and becomes distant, try to forget about it and move on. It sounds like he's not a bad guy.

Best of Luck.
Sarah

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okay. if a girl say like 13-14 was walking around where a lot of people are, say a carnival or fair. they said hi and waved like losers [haha] and were just trying to get people to say hi..what would you do if they said hi to you? me and my friends were doing it and 2 people said hi, one group gave us a dirty look, 1 person said bye and another person just looked at us..(they were around guys that 14-15) hah just want you opinion. thanks (:

Sorry, I'm not a 13 year old guy, but I think that you are going to get pretty much the same answer from anyone on this site.

Anyone who isn't 13, and even a lot of people that are, will find that incredibly obnoxious. I would really suggest that you not do that. I'm not trying to be mean or anything so don't take this the wrong way, but a lot of times you don't realize that what your doing is obnoxious, so i'm just trying to help. If you see a cute guy walk by, just kind of smile sweetly but don't like burst out laughing or anything, and let him approach you.

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When I am teasing a guy like through his pants, his penis will like "throb" up and down, is that normal?

To be very brief, yes, that's perfectly normal.

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i liked this guy since right before school ended and he and i would like look at each other and smile alot, but at the time he had a girlfriend so i didn't bother. then all of a sudden they broke up and he said he was crazy about me one day and we started talking on the phone and hanging out.

well, he didn't call for about three weeks, and i was extremely hurt.

so i called him to hang out in the pool with me & my friend and his, where he was all over me and starting his crap about 'being crazy about me!' again. So he called that night and said he wanted me to be his gf and he liked me SO much.

a few nights ago i called and he said he was at work, but he was really short on the phone and he never called back. then i texted him the next day but he never responded and he hasn't called since. i'm not going to bother trying to call him or w/e because i was the last person to make any attempts to talk, but honestly i can't get over him! and i'm so jealous when i see him talking to other girls on myspace. ughh i can't stop! idk what to do.

Well right now all you can do is wait. It sounds like he hasn't made up his mind about what he wants. Even if you were to start dating him, would you really want to be ina relationship where on one day he's in love with you and then you don't hear from him for weeks at a time? I know I wouldn't.

Try not to think about it too much. Go out with your friends and have fun. Meet other guys and flirt around a little bit. If he does start calling you more consistantly, then great! But don't rely on him, because he's obviously not reliable, so if you do , your only going to get hurt.

I'm sure he will come around eventually.
Good Luck!
Sarah

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i need help really fast.

whats the order of the four harry potter movies, so far. i know "order of the phoenix" is last.

can someone put in order for me...

the sorcerors stone
chamber of secrets
prizoner and azkaban
and goblet of fire

is that the order? thnx

5. The Order of the Phoenix
6. The Half Blood Prince


I love those books

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i just found out i'm pregnant.
i'm very nervous that my water will break out in public, is it alot of fluid or is it not that much.

also i'm nervous about peeing my pants in public.
if i do, like would i pee alot, or would i be able to catch myself and only pee a little.

please answer these, thanks.

It all depends on the woman. It can be a lot or a little. But the whole water breaking in public thing is mostly just on movies. I'm not saying that it never happens, but it is very rare. Usually you go into labor before your water breaks. I wouldn't worry about it.

As for the peeing part, you will most likely be able to conrol it to the point where it isn't all over the place. You will probably get leaks, but it probably won't be that bad.

Don't worry and Congradulations on your pregnancy!
Sarah

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Ok well in my family to everyone it should be that the oldest sibling should be smarter then the younger one but the younger one should be better looking then the older one since they have mroe youth.

If it's reversed or something is messed up with that, it's sad, embarrassasing, or like a 'hah you suck' feeling.

Well after being depresed and out of therapy I've finally kinda worked a little bit with my looks and now everytime we have to go visit my relatives (which is once a week), the first thing they say to my little sister is HAH YOUR SISTER IS PRETTIER THEN YOU LOL YOU'RE UGLY!

which really upsets her and every time they do it I can see that she's really hurt and is about to cry.

Is there any advice you can give me? I wish I could say something helpful to her but I can't. I have a lot of friends but when they talk to me about their problems i odn't have anything motivative to say like CHEER UP! It's nto realyl in my nature.

Well, first of all, It's ridiculous of your family to say that about your little sister. It's totally uncalled for. When they do it, just kind of roll your eyes at them and don't go along with it. Just kind of look at your sister and roll your eyes so she knows that you don't really agree with what they are saying.

If you can say something to your sister, it would be really helpful. Just tell her, "They don't know what they are talking about" say something encouraging, like "My looks changed a lot as I got older. They are probably only saying that because I look more mature." Assure her that she is pretty and highlight her other traits that are positive. That kind of abuse, especially from your own family, can really leave a mark on a person for the rest of their life. I know that it might be hard for you to say something to her, but your support would really help. You need to talk to her. It's more important than you might think.

Good Luck.
Sarah

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ok well i have this friend named jen and she is generally really annoying. ive known her since 2nd grade and shes always been like this. people pretend to like her and stuff and a lot of her friends think that she is really annoying and wish she would shut up. shes nice tho and people dont wanna be mean to her. problem is we're starting high school soon and she will not have any friends the way this is going. shes an only child, kinda rich, really spoiled, and a wannabe prep. she brings up the stupidest jokes that are not funny, she has an obsession with school-as in if there is a test its all she talks about, laughs too much, and is very stalkerish. she wants to be my bff but im like the total opposite. guess you could say ima tomboy, i dont like shopping much-[shes obsessed with name brands] and i like hanging out with guys mostly. my friends think shes so annoying and so do i but how can she change this. she knows that she has a problem and wants me to help her with it. uhh i dont want her to be like a loner or anything cuz shes nice and stuff. thanx =]

Just sort of (in a nice way) point it out to her when she's doing it. Tell her that she just needs to be chill and stop trying so hard.

When your with a group of people, just let her know when she's doing something that they might not necessarily like. You don't have to be best friends with her, but I'm sure she appreciates having someone like you to help her.

A lot of people go through this stage, but eventually she will come into her own and stop being so obnoxious. Until then, your help would probably be appreciated.

Sit her down and let her know all the things she does that could be founs annoying and tell her that she's a really nice person and that you think she would have a lot more friends if she didn't act like this.

She sounds like a good girl. She can't be too far gone. I'm sure with your help, she will grow out of it.

Good Luck!
Sarah

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Ok well my boyfriend just broke up with me yesturday and we went out for like a week and 2 days or so and like idk hes cheated on almost all of his girlfriends and he told me that we should just be friends for right now because we will barely get to see or talk to eachother because of his work and summer school and stuff but maybe we can pick it back up when hes done with all of that and then he said how like believe i like you alot and alot of people know i do and stuff but like idk before he asked me out he was going out with this other girl and i was talking to him online today about how my crazy ex won't stop calling me and he said he would like beat him up and stuff and then i asked him if his ex still called him alot and he said nope but shes right here...and i dont' know he always talked about how much he hated her and stuff but now shes over at his house and then i was like oh are you guys going back out or just hanging out and then he didn't answer and like 2 minutes later he got off line....do you think hes going back out with her? it makes me soo mad though! pleasee help me!

It's impossible to say whether he's going back out with her or not, but if he's at all worth your time, then he isn't. It would be a pretty jerk-like move to start going out with her right after he broke up with you.

He was probably just annoyed that you were asking him about it, especially right in front of her. Not that he has any reason to be, it's just that if a guys a player like that theye don't typically like feeling like someone is keeping tabs on their love life. I've dated many, and I know where your coming from. It's the most frustrating thing in the world sometimes.

As for saying that he hated her... I had the exact same situation with an ex-boyfriend. Guys like that just tell you what you want to hear, and when they say that they hate an ex-girlfriend, it's kinda like their going on the deffensive. That's always a red flag to me that says "I don't hate her, I was upset when we brooke up, and while I like you more than I like her, I would still hook up with her if we weren't going out"

It sounds like this guy just wants some time to be single and mess around with other girls. He probably misses his old ways. But sooner or later, he'll realize that he actually wants a relationship (they always do) and he'll come crawling back. Until then, don't call him or talk to him unless he calls you. Do what he's doing... play the field. It will make him jealous and make him miss you that much more.

Good Luck girl ;-)
Sarah

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I'm a guy, 16, and just need some advice on how exactly to flirt with girls. Like how do I flirt with this girl i like, without sounding annoying doing it and having her like it too? Thanks.

Well I can tell you one thing NOT to do... be really touchy. Don't put your hands all over her because I guarauntee that she won't like that. If I had a dollar for every guy thats done that to me, I'd be rich. I gave them all the rejection hotline number =)

Yea, I definatly agree that you need to compliment her, not anything too obsessive, just be like "you look lovely tonight" lightheartedly.

I know that this might sound dumb, but play games with her. Tap her on the shoulder and make it look like it wasn't you, or try to trip her while she's walking (and then catch her)

Tickling is always fun because it's a good way to get close to her without being to upfront about it. That is, of course if your already hanging out with her. Just randomly start tickling her waist. My ex-boyfriend used to do that all the time when we first started hanging out and i didn't mind because it wasn't creepy.

Oh, and don't be too serious. Call her names (that sounds kinda bad but you catch my drift?) Like silly names, like goober. It's not as dumb as it sounds. Don't call her names like idiot or freak becasue that's just not cool.

And I know that this is classic, but don't grab her waist or poke her in the stomach. Every guy does that and it's not cute, it's incredibly annoying and immature.

Just have fun with her and don't get too serious. Suggest that you play cute little games like tag (outside) or truth or dare.

If you play tag, when your it, when you tag her, pick her up. Now I'm rambling, but I think you get the point. Maybe?

Good Luck!
Sarah

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Ok ive read things and it say that the 7th book is the last one. Is that really true I mean like wat are the odds that she'll make more? I know this sounds a bit selfish but I just can't believe that it's the last book.
Give your opinion.
Katiee

She said that she is considering making another one, but not to count on it. She also said that everything that you want to know about the series will be revealed in the last book. I think that too many people are making way too much money off of these books for her not to write another one.

I hope she does, we'll see.

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i'm still just a little trippy, would something caffeinated, or an energy drink help at all?

Thats questionable. If your still feeling really tired and have the general stoned feeling then yes, an energy would help you a little bit because it'll (obviously) give you energy haha. If you mixed with any pills or you were crossed, then no don't drink them because you'll get really jittery and you won't be able to sleep it off. Really bad trips just generally suck, drink a lot of water, but a red bull might help a little. It kinda depends, what kind were you smoking?

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im high, i've been high for 24 hours.

i need to lose it, im sick to my stomache, im dizzy and sometimes i get a headache.

whenever i touch something there's like a second delay from me feeling it.

Trust me, all my friends are constantly messed up on some substance, most of the time it'salot more hard core than weed. You're going to be fine. You need to drink a lot of water. It won't get it out of your system, but it will help the nausea. You need to go to sleep if you can. I know that it will suck at first because when you lay down and close your eyes your more than likely going to be dizzy. Don't take aspirin or anything like that. I know from experience that it will make it worse. I know it's hard to resist the food cravings, but you need to stick to water and solid foods like crakers. Stay away from greasy and unhealthy things that you usually would crave. It's gonna be pretty hard to read this if your as messed up as you claim, but try to sleep it will definatly help.

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i want to hook up with this guy like hand job and stuff but im nervous how do i go about trying to do stuff with him like a hand job/BJ or w.e


please help

thankss

Well you need to start out by kissing him. You can't just jump into giving a blow job. Flirt with him a lot. Look at him in the eyes whenever you get a chance. Don't be too permiscuous though, thats just a turn-off. Ask him to hang out though, and when you hang out with him (alone) play with him. Be flirtatious, and play around with him, movies are always good. If your sitting on the couch with him, flick his leg and then smile at him or nudge him with your elbow. Then tell him to come sit with you. Something like that. Get close to him and look into his eyes. Let him make the move. Once your kissing, ask him if he wants you to give him a blow job/hand job. This is ust a courtousy, because he is a guy so he will want one. Have fun with it.


Good Luck!
Sarah

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okay well my mom saw my myspace pictures of me drinking and smoking and shes mad and she said im grounded for a month but thats like all summer and were going to have a talk when i get home and i dont no what i say do lie or what can i say"?

Unfortunately, this situation just sucks. I had a similar thing happen to me, my mom read all my text messages and found a lot harder stuff than that on there. She thought I was completely straight-edge at the time, so I was in some trouble (she threatened to send me to rehab, the whole nine yards) The reality of it is, you were caught re-handed and there's nothing you can do at this point. You just need to be really apologetic. Tell her that you had experimented a few times but that you regret it and learned your lesson and that you would never do it again. All teenagers do at some point or another, so I'm sure that, yes, she will be upset at first, but she will get over it. As for the one month, right now, in the heat of things, you ust need to accept it. For the next few weeks you need to stay out of trouble and be really nice. Then, when things die down, you can talk to her about it and tell her that it's your summer and you really want to see your friends. Start small, like asking to go to a movie with some people, and work your way up to going to parties and such. It really didn't take but 2 weeks for me. I'm sure your mom will understand.


Good Luck!
Sarah

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I've been trying really hard to like focus on loosing weight. But it's actually quite difficult. I'm at like, 200 lbs and I was wondering if anyone could give me tips on how to lose weight for the summer? Like, what helps you stop your cravings for fatty foods? And what are good foods to eat & how to excercise.

PLEASEPLEASE

ok. well idk if you would be open to this or not, but if you are, there is this diet that i am on called the idiotproof diet. it's amazing. you lose 11 pounds in 11 days. no other diets have worked for me but this one is amazing. it does cost $40 but if you can pay it, its worth it. if your interested, go to

http://fatloss4idiots.com/?hop=elduderino&tid=161

and it will tell you about it.

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my boyfriend and i have been going out for a year now, but i know he talks to other girls online. recently, i went on his myspace, he said i could, and read some of his messages. one from his ex that bothered me said

"hey. i wanted to continue our conversation. what where you saying when you said you still like me but like her more?"

another one was from a girl that i have no clue in heaven she is and it was this long love letter saying how she could never get over him and "that night back in october was amazing." we were going out i october.

what should i think? the thing is, his ex lives across the country from us, but i'm still worried. and the other girl lives in our city. what should i think or do about this?

I would say that you definatly need to confront him about it. Yes, you read his messages and he will be mad about that (unless he gave you permission) but what he did was worse. Confront him calmly about it, and first come clean about reading them, and apologize. Then ask him about the girls in the messages. Don't yell at him, because thats not going to make him regret it. If he gives you some ridicuous excuse, then the reality of it is, you caught him and theres nothing he can do about it. If he has a logical reason for it (cant think of many right now, but we can give him the benefit of the doubt for right now) then let it go. It was only myspace and fighting over it isn't going to solve the problem. Just let him know that you don't appreciate it. Don't freak out, but don't be too nive about it either. If he really is cheating, tell him you need to take some alone time (don't break up with him, just tell him that you don't want to see him for a while.) But stay calm!

Good Luck
Sarah

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