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im 15.f. i have this friend thatt is not close friend but we do trust each other alot...but were not like realli long time known friend we met this year..and became reali good friends.. she has a b.f and and his name is (D) so then this guy named (D) was talkign to me andhe goe simgoing to break up with my g.f tomorrow..and when i found out that (D) is the same guy my friend is dating i was in shock ..i called right away after talking to him and told her everything she stared crying and said shell call me back and i was liek ok...
but now they broke up ad me and him are talking and he keeps asking me to goona date and like what ever and it old him shes my realli good friend and that i cant do tat to her and he goes wil wait an dimlike will wait a long time...and he oes like not long long but enough time..and now i dont no what to do....and please dont say tell her abot it and ask heror something like that because that not the possibilitu i have right now..yea i do liek him and ye ai like my friend to but it wwasnt beacuse of me they broke up ....
so please i dont no what to do......help!!!
i will rate u thanx =) (link)
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well, I guess it just depends on what kind of personality your friend has and how serious their relationship was. Is she easygoing and not possessive? That could tell you how she may react without coming out and asking her. However, if she is your good friend, I would hold off until time goes by and you can actually ask her how she feels about it. She might feel weird about the whole thing and think maybe you had something to do with them breaking up. Would you feel strange if you were in opposite positions? I guess it really depends on what kind of relationship you have with your friend, and if she would mind consider if you like this guy enough to put your friendship in jeopardy. good luck
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Ok, so i've liked a lot of guys in my life, but I have done NOTHING with any of them does that make me a slut? If I liked so many guys? ...
I mean alot of them i found out are friends w/the guys i used to like and some of them get mad and call me a slut. When I have done nothing with any guy, I'm just the kind of girl who moves on quickly if it doesn't work out between me and a guy, is that wrong?
Some guys ask me sexual questions and i answer but does that make me a slut, when i still haven't done anything with a guy? I've only made out with guys but i have not yet went past that yet. So does that make me a slut? and how do i deal with these guys? (link)
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No,that does not in any way make you a slut. People may try to call you a slut if you slept with all these different guys--but as it is now, you are definitely not a slut. You're just indecisive. :)
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hey i really like the jeans with the holes in the knees, i've checked hollister and american eagle and they both don't have them and abercrombie's jeans are too expensive, does anyone know where i can buy them? like a hole in each knee. thankss! (link)
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Or you could take jeans that you already have and make holes in them. You could use sandpaper and rub the knees out really really good and the holes will come naturally, or you could rip holes in the knees and wash them a bunch of times to get the frayed look.
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Well I am 15 turning 16 on May 22. I live in Anaheim, California. Anyways, I am looking for a job. And I wanted to know what would be a good place to start, being my first job. I really like: music, kids, photography, being around people. And anyone know any good places that pay very well around here. Thanks in advance! (link)
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I suggest that you try and find a job at a photography place. there are small ones, or there is Sears photo, Waterline studios...just to name a few. You don't neccessarily need experience, and maybe you would have to start just working at the counter, but eventually you could be the one taking the pictures. Those places usually bring in a lot of babies and small children for photos. I think it would fit you well since you like kids and cameras. good luck on the new job
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theres this movie called the green river killer & its really good they have a book to it but im wondering wether its worth a read or not? - suggestions? (link)
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I read the book before I saw the movie. The book is way better, but it is a little slow. I got a tad bored reading it, but some parts are really interesting. Also, it is way more accurate than the movie, as is usually the case. If you really liked the movie, you will probably like the book more
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I used to feel I was a very strong minded person, now I realize everyones problems are the same, just they come out in different ways. You see, I was a confident person, maybe I still am, but my life just isn't going right. Anybody who looks at me sees my once was confidence. I walk with confidence, and my countenance is confident. I look more confident then I feel at times, though I usually feel confident, when I feel unconfident, I still look confident. I have a lot to be proud of, and I'm taught to not feel like dirt for anybody, or to let my sadness show. See, I'm 14, a cheerleader, I was the freshman homecoming princess- only 1 freshman girl got on court-me, and I'm pretty according to many. I get good grades, boys chase after me, my family history- like my ancient and recent bloodline is very accredited. I'm not famous or anything, but my bloodline is like being related to the queen of 1/4th of a developing country. My problem is that I'm loosing it. I'm loosing my friends because of a pursuasive bitch- my "Friends" know i wont get mad and start drama if they ditch me, but if they ditch her, she'll start somthing. They all hate me and sneak around about it in the most indirect obvious bitchy way, and the gossip is horrible. I'm gossiped about a lot, people say its just jealousy, now I don't know. Lots of my friends are changing for the worst, so we're separated, and the good ones, I loose contact with in ways I can't control. I live under strict rules because im the only girl in my nuclear family, and my extended family females, especially my age have obvious issues. I feel as if my issues are worse than all theirs, but hidden very well. Thats just the way I am. Though I am the skinniest girl in my family, I'm not skinny, I'm not overweight, but I have strech marks. My hair is ugly to me, my grades aren't good enough, I'm not allowed to date or go out with my friends ever, so they get mad,forget about me, and the boys who liked me turned on me, they harrass me verbally, and it hurts. It makes me want to avoid them, not go to school on certain days- which I can't do, and lowers my confidence. People think I'm stuck up, and I feel like I don't have friends, I dont know who my real friends are, and my parents just say "I told you so." My family causes me grief, and people don't get me like they used to. I feel disgustingly hairy and ugly, and I smell bad nomatter how much I bathe (daily, lather untill i turn white), deoderize and purfume myself. I'm booring and nobody wants to talk to me. My parents will never let me get help. People point out my flaws such as these, yet people who claim to like me say opposite. I don't even know what i think about myself, and I dread school all the time. I sit with only 1 girl at lunch half the time. I don't know what to do anymore-I usually know the answers. I'm not suicidal, a cutter, anerexic or bulemic, but bipolar disorder, and ocd aren't foreign in my family. Lots of my family seems to have a facade of high self esteem when they really dont, and i think depression runs in the family, along with excessive stupidity.When I was 6 through 10, family life was hard, and when was 10 and 13, life wasn't easy. Now, things are going wrong. I don't know what to do, and what can help me, without my family freaking out. Big things are expected of me. I used to be really religious, then it drifted away, I guess with good times, and now im not as on fire for God as I used to be, this worrys me, I hope the devil isnt trying to work his way into my life.If you can help in any way, thanks, but if you even took time to read this, thanks. Just your opinion on my situation is fine. My family isn't full of good listeners. Thanks again. (link)
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First off, I would like to say that just from your question, you sound like an intelligent profound young woman. It sounds to me like your heart is in the right place but your ultimate surroundings are not letting you be the person you want to be and really are. Its hard to hear someone say "Your a teenager, you'll grow up" but in some ways it is true. You are at an awkward age, and I am 24 but I remember clearly going through some of the same things. My parents did not understand who I was and wanted to be, I was always put down for just being me, they would not let me go out with friends and boys at that age either, and my friends did seem to forget about me...it upset me, but eventually I realized they did not, its just that people are obsessed with being social at that age. If you were a confident person, get that back, if you still are, dont lose it. Think in your head or write down all the things that you like about yourself, mental, physical, talents, etc. I bet you have A LOT to be confident about. And is that one girl you sit with at lunch your friend? If you feel like your other friends don't like you, then I suggest find new ones. If you are concerned with being in the popular crowd, maybe you should branch out and get to know other people, theres a lot of people who won't find you boring. Do things that make you feel good. Its really hard being around people that put you down and give you grief and ignore you, but keep in your mind all those things you like about yourself and keep up the confidence. Dont worry about being confused about religion, its very natural and most likely one day you will know what you think and believe. You probably don't smell as bad as you think, your cleanly and take care of your body. The most "popular" girl at my highschool had stretchmarks, I have stretchmarks. and again, its hard to hear, but things will get better in time, being a minor and young is a very tough time. I think you will be just fine. Don't know if I helped at all...but felt I should reply
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So I've been going out with my current boyfriend [Jimmy] for almost 10 months. I love him, I really do. But sometimes, I have my doubts. He's controlling, demanding, he doesn't let me hang out with my friends, he doesn't even let me go WORK OUT without him but I can't let him go so easily, but nowadays my friends are showing me how bad it's getting.
I'm not even allowed to hang out with my best [girl] friend! It's ridiculous, I know. But I've been putting up with this. [consider the fact that I've been with him EVERY SINGLE DAY for the past about 8 months]
& There is guy named Eddie that I went out with last year. & Everytime I see him in school, I get butterflies in my stomach. I don't know what to do. My friends have set me up on a date with him for tomorrow [Friday] & he said he wanted to catch up on old times with me.
What do I do?
I love my boyfriend.
But I think I might like my ex-boyfriend, Eddie, again..
& He is not AT ALL like my boyfriend.
He's caring, shy, sweet.
But the reason we broke up last year was because he always put everything in front of me & we never had time for eachtoher.
But now, he insists that he changed. & I'm just so worried.
Can anyone please help me?.. (link)
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the previous columnist summed it up well, but just to back her up and give you extra motivation DUMP THE CONTROL FREAK. you may love him, but things will only get worse, trust me. You are your own person, you can do whatever you want, workout when you want, see your friends, etc. Nobody should tell you how to live your life. good luck. Eddie sounds like a winner, Jimmy sounds like bad news
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A few days ago I had thrown a sleep over.
I invited my two best friends and they wanted to invite this girl from school. She's the 'most popular' you could say.(We'll call her pop girl)
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So, the pop. girl said yes and everyone was able to come. So we were all having a pretty good time. It was like 1 am and I started getting tired. I drifted off on accident and the rest of the girls stayed awake. In the morning they were all laughing at me and making strange faces. I said, "What's the joke?". They laughed even harder. Then, out of nowhere the popular girl pulled out a package of goodnites (training pants) and a pair of barbie underwear.I have a bad bedwetting problem, but I was pretty confident with goodnites. This week when my mom went shopping, she could only find the underwear styles ones (they look like pull ups), and not the boxers I usually get! Anyways, the underwear was actually my little sister's. My mom must have put it with my stuff on accident. So, there I stood humiliated. I tried to explain about the underwear and I lied about the goodnites, but they didn't believe me. =\! So now the pop girl and even my 2 besties are telling everyone in school. HELP! Why would my besties turn on me? What should I do. I tried confronting the pop girl at school and she just laughed at me.
-thanks. (link)
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Well, first off, i think your two best friends should be more supportive of you and stand up for you if they are in fact your best friends. This is nothing to be ashamed of. We all have inperfections and whether it was your training pants or not should not matter to your true friends, and they should care how you feel when you are getting made fun of for it. As for "pop girl" she sounds like a HUGE LOSER and it is not worth your time to give her any of your attention. Someone who needs to make fun of someone else and spread rumors are insecure about themselves. One day she will be at the other end of it and know how she made other people feel. My advice would be to sit down and have a talk with your bestfriends and tell them honestly how they made you feel really bad, and ask them why they did it. chances are they just want to be popular like that other b**ch, but this will not help them get there. And definately ignore pop girl, she is not worth it. Decide if these two girls are really your true friends, because true friends don't hurt eachother. good luck, and don't feel bad, you are perfectly normal and the better person in this situation. Just remember never to do this to someone else.
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I have these bumps on my legs (randomely, I don't think they're shaving bumps). They're kinda pimply...? No whiteheads or anything and if I squeeze it nothing comes out. I don't think they are ingrown hairs either.
They don't hurt/itch or anything, so is this worth going to the dermatologist for? They just kinda bother me because my skin isn't smooth, ya know?
They seem to disappear weekly but I get new ones weekly in different places, regardless whether I shave or not.
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I agree with the above, but I found that scrubbing well with a loufa will get rid of the bumps and using a natural lotion helps too.
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im not sure if i have one.. ive got a gut kinda.. not so much that it rolls over my pants but its still a gut. and i was wondering... whats the best way to get rid of it? (link)
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The best way to get rid of it is from doing cardiovascular exercise. Crunches and sit-ups will tone your stomach, but you will NEVER see the muscles unless you lost the excess fat first.
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i have 2 parakeets & they are shreding up
paper like crazy and putting it in a pile
with seed does this mean they are makeing a nest?
I REALLY NEED TO KNOW ASAP. (link)
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If you have had these birds for awhile and they did not shred paper before, then they are most likely making a nest. of course they have to be male and female...
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so, ive been having this problem lately .... ive been smelling of body odor. i wear deoderant every day. before sports, before school, before gym, anytime i need it i use it. and ive tried 2 different kinds of deoderant. whats going on?! what can i do?! whats wrong with me?! (link)
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i would say keep experimenting with different deodorants, but a couple things that would help would be: drink lots of water (it flushes out your system) and watch what you eat. some foods like garlic and onions will make your sweat smell stronger.
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What are the common symptoms of pregnancy and when do the symptoms start happening? Thank you! (link)
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The earliest pregnancy symptom I had was that my breast were bigger and a little sore. I knew I was pregnant from that fact before I even took a test. Then comes morning sickness, fatigue, and increased appetite. and of course missed period. Some people experience spotting, which is a small amount of blood discharged when you are not on your period. other symptoms are congested sinuses and headache. You can take and accurate test two weeks after your missed period.
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Two months ago, I thinned my hair out to about half the mass that it was, horribly dumb choice but whatever. Now my hair is greasy halfway into the day, its so annoying. I stopped using conditioner to make it look nicer, but it still gets pretty nasty around late afternoon. How can I get it to stay cleaner longer? (link)
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you already made a good choice to skip the conditioner. Some shampoos, especially ones that are shampoo+conditioner in one make your hair oily as well. Try experimenting with other shampoos to see how they work on your hair. Also, it really really helps to not wash your hair everyday. washing frequently strips the hair of its natural oils, tricking it to produce more oil. it may take days or sometimes a couple weeks, but your hair will get accustomed to not producing so much oil if you wash it less frequently.
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Ok this question isnt supposed to be offensive to anybody, im just wondering opinions. Today kids are having sex younger and younger, some kids are like 13 years old. I was wondering what you all think of that. Personally i cant believe this is happening to the world haha. I was just wondering if anybody out there agrees with me or if you dont agree with me, why? This is just out of curiosity. Also, if this is how things are now, imagine in 10 years, whats gonna happen!! haha, ok thanks! (link)
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yes, it seems like kids are having sex earlier and earlier these days. I personally think it is a bad decision to be having sex at 13 or 14 these days because of stds and pregnancy. But then you look at the past, and it was normal for girls to get married and have children at 13 or 14. I think that is normal too, because when a woman gets her period it is the body's sign telling her she is ready to reproduce. However, as I do believe that was normal, I do not agree with it nowadays because of all the risks and girls are way more immature now to be having children at that age.
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16/f
5'5
163 lbs.
I'm so sick of being fat. I've tried almost everything! I just can't stop eating junk food. I need to be 135-140lbs by June. So I have 67 days to lose 23-25 lbs.
I recently heard about a detox diet? Or a cleanse involving lemons?
Could someone please elaborate on those?
I am also open to other suggestions! (link)
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There is certain types of "junk food" that is not necessarily bad for you. Try browsing the natural foods store for candy bars and low-fat chips. moderation is key. Some very high fat foods to cut out of your diet is soda, juice, cheese, steak, hamburger, sugar, anything with hydroginated oils in the ingredients, high fructose corn syrup, and white bread rice and pasta. Read the labels on everything you eat. If you are going to eat bread or pasta, make sure it is 100% whole wheat. Just by cutting those things out you are guaranteed to lose weight. Add exercise and lower your portions and the weight will just fall off. Eventually you will not even crave those high fat junk foods after eating healthy for a few weeks. I don't neccessarily recommend going on a detox diet because if you go back to eating what you used to you will gain all the weight back. However, since you are a junk food junkie, it may be helpful to clear your system of the impurities and start new. the one you are talking about it the master cleanse detox, it is water mixed with maple syrup (100% pure syrup) lemon juice and cayenne pepper. You can lose about a pound a day or more, but mostly water weight at first. Drink that all day whenever hungry for as many days as you like, probably do not go over 8 days. The key to this detox is to slowly go back to solid foods. On the first day, drink water and juice, then after slowly add in soups mostly broth and raw veggies and fruits. After two or three days, add back the carbs, but do not over-do it and DO NOT GO BACK TO EATING HIGH FAT JUNK FOOD AND WHITE CARBOHYDRATES. your body will be "clean" and you do not want to erase the work you have done. you will want to eat healthy. Your whole body will thank you and you will feel better mentally and physically. GOOD LUCK. I also do believe that you are overweight, and extra weight is not good for your heart or rest of your body. It also does not matter if you are skinny and eat junk all the time, you are still unhealthy. The best of luck to you, any further questions or support, feel free to contact me. peace
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Like three days ago i gave my bf a bj and after he wiped the cum off of his hands with a paper towel. I'm not sure how soon after, but after that he fingered me. Is there any chance at all of me being pregnant? (link)
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I am positive you had no chance getting pregnant from that.
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so my boyfriend has an attraction to my feet haha. i think its pretty funny and a litttttle weird but i was wondering if anyone had any ideas of how i can turn him on using them. all and any ideas would be great! (link)
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well, actually it's more common to have a foot fetish than you think. Yeah, a little strange, but whatever floats your boat right? I'd say little stuff like going barefoot whenever you can, wearing a toe ring, painting your toenails dark red... having him massage your feet, suck your toes...basically he will probably like anything that lets him near those feet! have fun
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i feel like im super skinny.well i dont think so but everybody else does. i want to gain like 10 pounds.How do i gain weight so i will look better? (link)
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I agree with what the previous person said, but I just wanted to add that avocado, nuts, egg yokes and peanut butter and almond butter is very fattening. you could build muscle up too, it weighs more than fat and can be more dense. Treat yourself to some ice cream every once and a while. Have fun!
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I read a book from one of the alice series but it talked about how one of the girls didnt want to wear a tampon because they were saving their virginity fo when their older are you considered that you are not a virgin if you wear a tampon because im 13 and wear tampons for sports (link)
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You are still a virgin. When a tampon is inserted it does not break the hymen, which is what happens when you have sex for the first time. You'll lose your virginity when you have sex for the first time.
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