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Well I am in relationship since 2011..i told him everything about my past life..he never used to pick ph calls in front of me..he didn't even tell me everything about his life..i tell him even about my family problems but he never tells me about his..he hangs around with gis friends but when I go with my friends everytime he creates an issue and spoils my plans..he keeps saying that he is very possessive about me but I don't understand where his possessiveness goes when we quarrel n part..he never calls me to settle up things..he has an ego problem but do I have to say sorry to patch up everytime!!he has a colleague in his office who likes him..hw likes her pics n gives comments on fb..whereas he blocked me on fb..not only that he blocked me from every social media n messengers..when I got to know about that girl I told him to unfriend her...he did unfriend her..but recently he again befriended her on fb n they both like each other's pics..they might chat also..n they talk to other over ph for hours...other staffs in his office even tease them as couple..is he cheating on me?he shows no special interest in me then what's the point to heat on me!!he could easily break it off with me n go in relationship with her..on the very first month of our relation he said it doesn't matter to him if I am in his life or not coz he needs none..he keeps breaking his oath on my life to drink alcohol n instantly makes issues for his alcohol consumption...i knew that he used to drink even before our relation started..all is friends support me..but now he n his mom are accusing me for his addiction..they are saying that I keep hurting him so he drinks..sometimes I wonder does he really love me? (link)
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When you have an addiction, you'll blame other people for it. And his mother is probably just hurting that he has an addiction and doesn't want to realize it's his fault.
So never ever take the blame for someone else's problems. This obviously isn't your fault.
This isn't love. This isn't a real relationship. The fact that he has you blocked on all social media sites is a red flag. Why would he block you?
So break up with him. He's obviously a bad boyfriend and is into another girl. Don't wait around for him and don't listen to his excuses.
Just let him go and move on. He's a waste of your time.
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My friend told me how I raped him months ago. We were both drunk and the incident occurred. But it's been 5 months and he tells me this. He still calls me over to help move in and set up the house. He asks for advice and assistance from. Even now when he's sick with the flu he asks me to take care of him. I have contemplated going to the police and turning myself. It's been two days and I'm thinking Monday , but he has no desire to take any recourse or make a case. I feel that he's just being nice and I tell him to stop it, that it was my fault . But for some reason it's like he doesn't care.....why?? (link)
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Even though what you did was an awful thing, he is moving on.
I think if you turn yourself in, they'd talk to your friend and if he doesn't admit to it or anything, then there isn't anything to report. I'm not 100% sure on that but that's what I'm thinking.
Besides that, learn from this. Don't drink that much, you don't want to hurt anyone else.
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To make a long story very short, I was in a relationship with this guy and we broke up about a month ago. The breakup was bad, because he broke up with me for another girl that he unintentionally got pregnant. He apologized later and I have since forgiven him. We started to become friends again, and it was good. A week or two goes by and he starts talking to me about liking this other girl. That would be fine in most circumstances, but he also said he still had feelings for me. That confused me for a while, but then I figured out how much of a liar he was in the relationship. The next week I told him that I still loved him and how I felt about his lying behavior. I told him because I couldn't get the thoughts out of my head and it was driving me crazy. After we talked about it, now he acts like we aren't friends. He says "we're cool" and there are no grudges or anything, but he won't hang out with me outside of the events I have to see him at. Those events are weekly, by the way, and now I'm left feeling like I have to pretend everything is fine in front of all of our mutual friends. Its not fine, and if those people knew what he did they may not want to be his friends. I know this sounds really messed up, but I still want to be his friend in spite of all the things we've been through. My real question is how do I go about rebuilding this friendship if I can? Should I apologize for telling him how I felt, and making him feel weird? I mean whatever I do, I know this guy will lie to my face, because I've caught him so many other times. However I don't want to loose a great friend I used to have, I've already lost him as a lover, I can't stand to loose him as a friend too. Is it hopeless, or is it fixable? (link)
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There are a lot of things you need to sit back and think about before making a decision on what to do next.
Firstly, this whole lying thing he has going on. Now, I wouldn't want a friend who lies to my face. And you said you've caught him do it so many other times. So since you still want him in your life, he probably has other qualities that are actually good. But how can you rebuild anything with someone when they just lie? When can you trust them?
Besides that, I don't think you need to apologize for telling him how you felt. I don't see why. You were being honest with him and that's a really important thing in friendships. But apparently he doesn't think honesty is a big deal.
So if you've sat down and thought about these things and still want to keep him around for some reason, then you need to move on first. It's only been a month since you guys have broken up. That's not long at all. You're still hurt that you "lost him as a lover" so you still need some time.
My advice is to give yourself some more time to heal over everything that has happened. I know it'll be hard being around him and especially that you guys have mutual friends but you will have to act calm and cool like it's no big deal, even though it is a big deal to you. Just be cool, go out and have fun and don't worry about him right now.
Once you get past this stage, then you can decide whether you still want him as a friend and you can actually rebuild a friendship because you won't be wanting more than that.
If you want more than just a friendship, you'll never really rebuild it.
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I met a guy online. We have been messaging each other for about 4 months. He wants to meet but I'm a little hesitant about it. Mostly due to safety reasons and his behavior. He always wants to rush things. On the dating site we met on, he gave me his number right away and guilt me into calling him by threatening not to speak with me again. I didn't call him until I felt ready, which was two weeks ago. Yesterday, I caught a bug was sleeping in bed for a day and a half. I checked my phone after I woke up and saw that he left me a bunch of text messages. I even missed his call. He really wants to met by next month. (link)
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You have to trust yourself on this. If you feel uncomfortable, there is a reason for that.
If I was in your situation, the whole threatening not to speak with you again would have been a red flag and I would have stopped talking to him.
I also wouldn't date someone who spams me with text messages but that's your call. He might just really really like you and want to meet you but it is weird.
I also think it's weird that you guys met on an online dating site and have been messaging for 4 months. Usually, you meet people maybe within the first week or two to see if there even is chemistry.
You do have to think about your safety but as long as you meet in a public place and maybe just let a friend know where you're gonna be, then you're fine.
So my advice would be to trust your instincts.
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I told my crush I like him and he responsed that he 'kinda' likes me back, thinks I'm cute, but rather not do anything about it. We are in high school and I'm wondering if he was just bs-ing it and how much truth is in it. He said I mean a lot to him and then started to joke around and say he doesn't want babies lol (to fix the mood maybe). But I don't know if he was serious about the whole liking me back thing. Is there some way to find out? Also is there some way to make him like me back more? (link)
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It just sounds like he's interested in you, but doesn't want to date you. Or that he's developing feelings but hasn't figured them out.
There's not really a way to find out unless you talk to him again to get a more clear understanding of what he meant.
Either way, he said he would rather not do anything about it so you know where he stands with that.
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Hi! I'm a 17 year old healthy female, and my boyfriend and I had sex during my fertile week with out protection multiple times using the "pull out" method. I know that some guys don't always get it right and there Is precum, so I'm a little nervous I could've gotten pregnant. Any advice? Thank you! (link)
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Yeah, you could be pregnant.
If you don't use condoms and you're not on birth control, there will always be a possibility.
So if you don't get your period, then take a pregnancy test and go from there.
Next time get on birth control and use condoms so you won't have scares like this.
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I've been with my girlfriend for 8 months now and I think I am ready to actually do it with her she says she is ready but she always refuses I don't force her I love her very much I respect their I take care of her but as a person I believe it's Time, I im 16 and so is shewe are very mature so my question is how can I convince her to actually do it with her? (link)
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If she says she's ready but always refuses, then she's not ready.
It might feel like it's time for you, but it isn't time for her.
You do not try to convince her. You leave it alone until she is ready and comes to you.
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Is it normal for teen to hate their super weird friend? Alright, I don't have many friends at school. Well I do, but I'm held back by one person- my "best friend." I had sat with this kid since school started. We had other people, but drama happened and we fell apart. Anyway she's the only person I sit with at lunch. At first I didn't mind, but then I started noticing weird things about her. For example, this kid eats her hair, picks her nose and eats her buggars, she runs everywhere she goes (when she does she lifts her legs high like a young child's), she wears pants so tight you can see her butt-crack, and much much more. What's bad is that people notice! They make fun of her and then put me in the same boat as her. I have other friends who are sweeties, and I know they feel for the both of us, but they can't extend themselves to my friend because she's so darn anti-social! This friend is the only person I sit with and I feel so ISOLATED! I never liked her that much, and she made fun of me in gym class! She's not that great of a person. I hate her! I truly hate her! I don't know what to do! Please help me before I go crazy!
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It's not weird to feel that way, especially with someone who you don't have much in common with.
And she shouldn't be making fun on you, so that doesn't help.
I'd suggest finding other friends to sit with at lunch. If she questions, talk to her privately and let her know that you feel isolated when it's just you two sitting together at lunch.
If she doesn't get mad or anything, invite her to join you. If you really don't want to continue being friends with her, then just find other friends to hang out with.
But if you don't like her because she does all those gross things then maybe talk to her about it? I don't blame you, I wouldn't want to hang out with someone who did that stuff either.
But some people just weren't ever taught what they should and shouldn't do. So you should talk to her and let her know how you feel about all that and what's socially acceptable behaviors.
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My parents started not caring once i turned 10, as they never planned a party since, so i think it led to me kind of having a complex about age. while other kids celebrated turning 13, 16, etc. with their friends, i just would get a cake, and if i was lucky, like $20. i feel like i missed out on those important birthdays.. you're only those integral years once. is a 43rd birthday really as special as a 16th? i feel kind of anxious about it. birthdays instead went from being fun party days to sad days i hated. when i have kids, i want to celebrate all their birthdays, even when they become adults. even if they're far away in college i'd send a gift or something. it's not like my family couldn't afford birthday parties even at our house. but it's like.. it stopped mattering to my parents, and they wonder why i had trouble with friends and everything. if my future child had trouble making friends i'd organize activities and help her branch out, not just ignore the problem. my mom even goes to blame me for my lack of friends, even when i'm literally nice to everyone i meet. she just tends to not apparently be on my side with such matters, and can be as hurtful as a bully at times. don't get me wrong, i'm grateful she gives me food and clothing and what not but for someone who is so social and has so many friends i don't understand why she didn't help foster that sort of thing within me, when it caused me years of anguish, but i digress.
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I think it's different for each family.
I think I only had one birthday party. The rest we didn't do much except maybe a cake.
I know other friends who had the same thing and then some other families celebrated each and every one with a party.
If you're really struggling with why your parents didn't organize parties and stuff, ask them. But don't blame them for your trouble with friends. There are people who grew up with no family but could still make friends. So it's up to the person, not their parents.
It would be nice to always have parents there for you and it would be nice to blame them for some problems but it won't help you at all.
Who knows why she didn't plan parties or really go all out for your birthday but if you want to know, ask her. There could be tons of reasons.
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I've been dating this guy from my class for 1-2 months and he really really loves me, and i think it's because I'm his first girlfriend plus he's really closed up person.
We have been really close these few months, he had his first kiss with me, but as time passes i see that I'm loosing my feelings for him, plus he looks like the guy who's threatening me and he doesn't communicate a lot and I talk a lot, i can talk with days without shutting up, and it bothers me that he doesn't talk a lot and i told him to talk more, but nothing changed.
I feel guilt, and it's killing me a lot, but somehow i know that if i break up with him he'll do something bad to himself and he will get hurt a lot, because i know how much it hurts to someone break up with you.
So how do i break up with him without doing it bad or hurting him a lot? (link)
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Obviously no matter how you break up with someone, it will hurt.
I don't know how old you are, but if you're still in school, then tell a counselor if you're afraid of him hurting himself.
But that shouldn't stop you from breaking up with him because that won't be fair to him. So if you really think he'll hurt himself, then tell somebody.
And don't break up with him over the phone or through a note or something.
In person is always best, and not around other people.
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I know I might come off as sounding like a crazy insecure girlfriend but I just need some reassurance here. My boyfriend and I, we've been together for a little over a year. It hasn't been easy but we've always worked through it. He was with his ex for 5, but she ended up cheating on him and they broke up for good. He tells me that they're still friends and at the point where they can be cool with each other now, not have any tension. So I know they will still text each other every once in a while. She doesn't live here anymore because she's a flight attendant so she's all over the place. Anyway, my question comes down to social media, instagram. Is it wrong for him to go back through her recent old selfies and like them in a row. He usually doesn't like them when they're posted because hes not on but I've noticed that given a week or two, he'll make sure he goes on her page and 'likes' them. She always likes every one of his whenever he posts one. I personally feel they shouldn't even be talking but I guess thats just my opinion. Should I tell him I dont like it? Then again I dont have her instagram on my account, I have it on another that he doesn't know about, so I cant even begin to explain to him how I know. He tells me he loves me and I can feel it but if he does those things too, then what does that mean. (link)
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I don't think it's a big enough deal to bring up to him.
I don't think it's wrong of him to go to her page and like her photos. It is weird, not going to lie but it isn't wrong.
Maybe he just gets curious as to what she's up to. A lot of people will visit their exes page, it doesn't mean that they still have feelings for them.
So you're probably just being paranoid. Don't keep looking at what he likes or else you'll drive yourself insane.
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My husband and I's one year anniversary is coming up in a few months, and so is a very close friend's wedding, her wedding date: our one year anniversary. I'm at a loss of what to do. My husband wouldn't be able to come with me to her wedding, and my friend would be extremely hurt if I didn't go. What makes the situation awkward is I knew when picking my wedding date that my friend would be getting married that same day. I had no choice however (my husband is military). I reassured and promised her since she got engaged that I would be there at her wedding. In fact, as soon as I got the wedding invite, I texted her and let her know I would be there and how excited I was. My husband always knew I'd be going, but I guess it just clicked for him I'd be missing or first anniversary. He's very upset, anniversaries are very important to him. I tried reasoning with him that we could celebrate another day, but he's not having it. What do I do? I will always pick my husband over anything, but shouldn't he be more understanding? Should I be present for the most important day of my close friend's life and hurt my husband? Or be there with my husband for our one year anniversary and risk losing my friend? (And I have very few true good friends) (link)
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If I were you, I'd be going to the wedding.
Of course you don't want your husband to feel bad. But this will (hopefully) be the only time they get married and you and your husband have more anniversaries to celebrate, it wouldn't even hurt to celebrate a different day.
If he loves you, he'll understand how important your friend is to you.
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So I'm confused about my relationship. I've been dating this guy for about 2 months now, and I go back and forth on if he's truly that into me, or not. To begin with, he's older than me. I'm 18, he's 22, so there's automatically a lot of judgement that comes along with that, which might have to do with some of my concerns. Basically, he says he likes me, drives about a half hour both ways in order to see me, pays for everything when we go out, texts me almost daily, finds excuses to touch me, seems interested in learning about me, and came on a trip to Vermont with my family. However, he never asks to Skype or call anymore, hasn't told his parents about me, doesn't want to hang out at my house if my parents are there, I'm the one who asks to hangout (however I usually ask pretty far in advance), and doesn't want to make it official. My friends and family all refer to him as my boyfriend, but I don't know. I recently had sex with him and it was amazing, but I worry that I shouldn't have because we aren't technically official. He's said he's not messing around, but I still worry because he doesn't want to flat out say we're boyfriend and girlfriend. Am I being silly in my insecurities?
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It does sound like he likes you.
Some people just like dating for awhile before deciding to put a title on it.
The last guy I dated wanted the boyfriend and girlfriend title after dating for 3 months. Which is fine to want, but I wanted to wait longer. I was still serious about him though.
So I think it's just a personal preference to get to know someone a little better before deciding to tell everyone.
But he texts you daily and drives a long way just to be with you so just keep it going and enjoy what you guys have right now. Over thinking can ruin things.
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I just want to try to explain in the best way possible on why I was acting the way I was my night. It's just all of your qualities are perfection. Your outside beauty is just what every girl would die for in a guy. Every time I look at you, I imagine a thousand girls capturing you in the center of their circle telling you how much they want you and what they'd do to make you theirs. And they'd all fight over you. I don't just imagine that by how bright your smile is, how it can make anyone smile, or how your eyes are your own shade of that beautiful blue, or your perfect size in torso and arms, or your perfectly messy hair, but your personality too. They want your kindness, your obsessiveness, your optimism, your humor, your caring heart, but most of all, they want that pure happiness that you're able to give any girl. The reason why I want you to have the best things the world has to offer is because I love and care for you so fucking much, but mostly because you deserve all of those things. I love you enough that I'll let you go if there's something that you want that couldn't involve me. I've never been like that about any guy before, because I love YOU. Like I said, to me, your happiness is a million times more important than mine. I put your happiness before mine ALL OF THE TIME. And that's why I hate myself more when I'm extremely depressed, because I literally have no control over it, and I'll say things I probably don't even mean. But Jake, I know I'm suicidal. I've wanted to kill myself for four years now, and I was literally about to attempt again. But when you said if I couldn't live for myself, to live for you...I'll do that then if it makes you happy. (link)
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You'll know when you're in love and you sound like you know.
Although it doesn't sound healthy :/
It's pretty much the same points Dragonflymagic went over.
To be able to truly love someone, you have to love yourself. You're suicidal and negative thoughts aren't self love and this is something serious. You should seek help for it.
And I'm glad Dragonflymagic pointed out that you love him enough to let you go and you already suffer from depression. So if he decides to move on, it'll be worse than usual.
And you also say you have no control over your depression and you'll probably say things you don't mean. Do you really want to hurt people like that? Especially him? I'm sure you want him in your life and the last thing you want to do is hurt him, so go see a doctor.
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Hi! I'm 13 going on 14 and there is a guy in school that I like. He's not good looking to others (but is to me in a weird way) and all my friends turn up their noses at him. We flirted over Skype and in class for a while and he eventually asked me out.
I panicked. I was scared about what others would say and how badly this would go. I think I'm a commitment-phobe. So I made up this guy and said we were already dating. I know it's one of the worst things to do and I feel horrid.
We're still friends and we still flirt (after I said I broke up with that guy) and I thought he still liked me. A few days ago, he said over Skype that he was so alone. So I comforted him and did what anyone would do. He said all his friends were dating and I said I wasn't. It was the biggest hint I've ever given... -_-'
He didn't get it and went on to say the girl he likes won't ever like him. I'll spare you the long story but this was some complete bimbo who would never look twice at a sweet guy like him. I find that horrible.
Even though he likes this girl, he always says to me that I'm pretty on my worst days and that any guy would be lucky to have me. We still flirt all the time! I feel like he is sending me mixed messages though.
Do you have any advice to give me on any/all of this? I feel too embarrassed to tell my friends because none of them like him. Thank you in advance if you reply. Sorry about the length. I at least hope I entertained you with this. :) (link)
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You're growing up and still learning about dating.
You shouldn't let your friends opinion effect who you date. Unless they have real concerns on why they don't like him like if he does questionable things, not a very nice person, ect.
I'm sure he's still interested in you but you already turned him down. Do you want to date him? If you do, you should tell him how you feel.
If you're too embarrassed, then you shouldn't date right now. You're young and care about what other people think but if it's a good guy, you shouldn't have anything to be ashamed of.
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If you have sex, there's a possibility of getting pregnant.
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My cousin and her family have stopped talking to me and my family. We were very close and used to see each other every weekend. We have approached them and asked them whats the matter. And even offered to apologize if we have done anything wrong, but they do not want to discuss nothing and have just scrapped us out of their lives. Not sure on how to handle this situation??? (link)
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You've already done what you can do. Sadly, you can't make other people respond.
So maybe just give it time and eventually see if anything happens.
I mean you already apologized if you guys did anything, the ball is in their court.
Maybe it's something completely different going on.
So just give it some time.
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I'm feeling terrible. I can't stand my brother any longer. Actually, he lives in another city, and is spending his vacation time at home. Thing is that he won't do anything at home, he doesn't help us with anything and sleeps the whole day! I hate him! How can I cope with this situation? It's aweful, since I don't want to confront him either; I just want him to go away!
Thanks in advance!
(p.s please, I don't want ''adviceman 49'' to reply to this message, I mean it. Thanks again!) (link)
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It's hard to answer without knowing both of your ages or knowing if you live with parents, ect.
Well if you do live with parents, my advice would be to talk with them since you don't want to talk to him yourself.
Unfortunately, you can't make him go away. I don't know how long he'll be there but if it's not for a long time, then try to hang in there. If he's there for quite awhile, then the only solution I can come up with is talking to parents or talking to him yourself.
You don't need to attack him and complain to him, but just ask him to help out.
But other than that, I'm not sure what else to do. Hang in there.
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One day my Friend told me her and her boyfriend decided to do something because they both were horny. The
ey couldn't do what they normally do which was dry humping because someone was in the way of that so they couldn't get on top if each other, they decided to pull their pants down with him behind her laying down and rub against each other. she's a virgin and he's is a virgin to . she put his penis on her pussy and he pushed it felt as though her hole was expanding but a little bit of his head was in her pussy. If he was to pre-cum is it possible she could get pregnant . she said he told her that he did see the pre-cum on his pussy til after he finish peeing. I herd you can get pregnant by just rubbing a penis across ur pussy with pre-cum on it, is that true? (link)
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It's possible. I actually know a girl who got pregnant and she had sex for what she said was seconds. It was her first time and she barely considered it sex but it happened.
Just because precum does contain sperm.
So even if she doesn't get pregnant, they shouldn't mess around like that until she is on birth control and they're using condoms.
It's better to be safe that sorry.
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I am currently I a relationship with a girl which has been going on for about a year and a half. She is from Norway and is currently at her home for Christmas. She will be back in January.
I have recently started thinking about breaking up with her and I can't seem to understand why. She is probably the cutest girl I've ever met and nice but for some reason she's not what I want.
The only thing that's stopping me from ending it right now is that I don't want to hurt her. I could easily stay with her and keep it going and I'd be content with that but that is not the right choice.
I really don't know why I feel like this and I just want some advice on how I should deal with the situation. (link)
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I completely agree with Dragonflymagic.
Why settle for what you're not looking for. I'm positive she's a great girl but there's still something that isn't there for you.
When you're young, a lot of break ups will happen because someone is finding themselves.
I have no idea if you have an idea of what you want in life. Either way, this isn't something you want. And you should focus on yourself. It will hurt her more in the long run if you keep this going and it'll be holding her back from finding someone else who is right for her.
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