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Why would someone be friends with you if you raped them?
My friend told me how I raped him months ago. We were both drunk and the incident occurred. But it's been 5 months and he tells me this. He still calls me over to help move in and set up the house. He asks for advice and assistance from. Even now when he's sick with the flu he asks me to take care of him. I have contemplated going to the police and turning myself. It's been two days and I'm thinking Monday , but he has no desire to take any recourse or make a case. I feel that he's just being nice and I tell him to stop it, that it was my fault . But for some reason it's like he doesn't care.....why??
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Even though what you did was an awful thing, he is moving on.
I think if you turn yourself in, they'd talk to your friend and if he doesn't admit to it or anything, then there isn't anything to report. I'm not 100% sure on that but that's what I'm thinking.
Besides that, learn from this. Don't drink that much, you don't want to hurt anyone else.
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He is willing to do this, forgiving you and overlooking it since you were drunk at the time. That should be a lesson to learn to know your limits with alcohol and never place yourself in a situation of not being in mental control of your actions.
As I said before, if the person raped is not willing to make a report to the police, then there is no rape report or evidence for the police to go on and you just end up making yourself look like a fool.'
What needs to happen is for you to learn to forgive yourself.
You ask why he doesnt care. I don't think that's the issue, he does care. If he didn't care, he would not have mentioned it to you. But he realizes that a one time mistake like that doesn't need the type of consequences you feel you deserve. He has part fault in the occurance by being so drunk himself. If he had not been and was sober, as another male, he surely could have fought you off, it's not like he was a weaker female.
Forgive yourself, watch your drinking or quit, and move on with life.
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