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Is he really that into me?
So I'm confused about my relationship. I've been dating this guy for about 2 months now, and I go back and forth on if he's truly that into me, or not. To begin with, he's older than me. I'm 18, he's 22, so there's automatically a lot of judgement that comes along with that, which might have to do with some of my concerns. Basically, he says he likes me, drives about a half hour both ways in order to see me, pays for everything when we go out, texts me almost daily, finds excuses to touch me, seems interested in learning about me, and came on a trip to Vermont with my family. However, he never asks to Skype or call anymore, hasn't told his parents about me, doesn't want to hang out at my house if my parents are there, I'm the one who asks to hangout (however I usually ask pretty far in advance), and doesn't want to make it official. My friends and family all refer to him as my boyfriend, but I don't know. I recently had sex with him and it was amazing, but I worry that I shouldn't have because we aren't technically official. He's said he's not messing around, but I still worry because he doesn't want to flat out say we're boyfriend and girlfriend. Am I being silly in my insecurities?
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Hate to break it to you. I think he's using you for a booty call or is hanging out with you but keeping his options open just in case he decides to date someone else. If you really like him n want him to be serious about being with you don't have sex with him. It'll be hard but you can do it good luck
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It does sound like he likes you.
Some people just like dating for awhile before deciding to put a title on it.
The last guy I dated wanted the boyfriend and girlfriend title after dating for 3 months. Which is fine to want, but I wanted to wait longer. I was still serious about him though.
So I think it's just a personal preference to get to know someone a little better before deciding to tell everyone.
But he texts you daily and drives a long way just to be with you so just keep it going and enjoy what you guys have right now. Over thinking can ruin things.
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2 months may not be enough time for him to feel secure enough that he doesnt care what other people think.
He may be one of the males who do not like texting or calls and enjoys face to face much better. It doesnt mean he has any less interest in you. I don't know of many people who tell their parents who they are dating if its only been a short time. Dating is to find out if you're really into each other and there are no red flags. Just because your family has accepted him as your boyfriend doesn't mean others are going to want to know. Many relationships go a handful of mos. and break up, sometimes up to a yr before they break up. Perhaps he wants to be certain you both are meant for each other and will get to the point where you dont just like each other, or love each other, but wait until he's IN LOVe with you before telling others about you. Some guys are quiet and keep a lot of their thoughts and feelings to theirselves and doesnt necessarily mean they don't care about you. give it time. Later in the relationship, use this quiz to check if the guy loves you or not.
7 Questions to know if he really loves you
1. Does he say I love you. For some, it's a hard thing to say but they show it to you in other ways. When he says “I love you”, he is viewing that as a commitment to you. It is not a flippant phrase.
Saying I love you too early like during first couple dates is a warning about the guy. Its a very good chance he is needy and wanting a woman to be his mom. Other phrases from a guy count too, like you're awesome, I adore you. You're the woman I always dreamed of.
2. Does he make you a priority in his life? Guys have more than one priority...things very important to him but you should be one of top 3.
What he does for you or how he acts can't be faked easily because it's hard to lie with your body. Things he does without having to be asked, making dinner, picking up something for a collection you have, making time for you, even if it's a walk or a long phone chat. If the guy likes you, he'll make time for you at least a quarter of the time.
3 Does he tell friends about you and like to show you off? Have you been introduced to his family and friends? If he keeps you separate, he's hiding something or ashamed or fearful of something
4. Does he care about your pleasure during sex? Is he only into seeking his own pleasure or your's too. Does he open his eyes and want to have both your eyes connect while making love?
5. Does he respect and encourage you? Respect means, does he value your opinion, do you share decisions and treats you as a partner. Are you encouraged by him to have your own friends and hobbies outside the relationship and encourage you to seek your dreams and uphold you in that.
Jealousy is not love, it's control. It's okay to be protective, but jealousy shouldn't be what prompts the protectiveness
6. Do your friends and family like how he treats you? Others make a great gauge for judging a guys character.
7. Does he look at you with lust and passion in his eyes, with a hunger and thirst for you? Does he give you admiring looks, does he still want to sneak peeks down your shirt. What he sees is Very important since guys are visually stimulated. If he isn't looking anymore, he has lost his interest. All men because of this natural trait, will also view other women but do so discreetly, without being an ass about it. Don't expect a man to look at only you. If he doesn't look at other women at all, it may be a sign that he is gay. You do want a man who is visually stimulated by women.
How many points are true for you with your guy?
7 true He treats you as a Queen and he is an exceptional man
5-6 true He loves you. Just don't focus on what is lacking.
3-4 true He loves you enough to make the relationship work for him. If it's enough for you, then be content. If you feel like you're settling for less, let him go and look for something better.
1-2 true He's a douche-bag, a user or controller. Leave immediately.
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I think he's definitely into you, but he could just be scared of the judging and things people might say, even though I don't think it's that big of a deal. You should talk to him about it! If you want it official, tell him that and see what he says. It's always best to talk these things out. You're not being silly.
Hope this helps~
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