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My crush 'kinda likes me back'
I told my crush I like him and he responsed that he 'kinda' likes me back, thinks I'm cute, but rather not do anything about it. We are in high school and I'm wondering if he was just bs-ing it and how much truth is in it. He said I mean a lot to him and then started to joke around and say he doesn't want babies lol (to fix the mood maybe). But I don't know if he was serious about the whole liking me back thing. Is there some way to find out? Also is there some way to make him like me back more?
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Ladylala gave you a great list of things to look for as signs that someone is equally interested in you. These are things we do mostly subconsciously, with seldom a plan to actually do so. There are others things subtle/body language to know when someone is interested, while it wont help you with this guy, it's a good thing to know for the future. Have you ever had someone step up close to you that you didn't like, about an arms reach away or closer. If you don't like a person, your body reacts by taking a couple steps back to create more space between you because it feels uncomfortable. If you go stand close to him in conversation and he doesnt step way to create space between you, thats a sign the person is attracted to you, another is calling apeing, of mimic ing of what the other does to some extent. If your hand goes up to touch your hair or head for some reason, his will too, your change positions of your legs while seated, he will immediately do the same, or while speaking the other persons leans forward towards you. These are classic body language signs in addition to Ladylala's list.
Girls and guys may sometimes have a different ways they interpret certain words so confusion comes into the picture. Some people mean that they are attracted to your looks when they say like, but it also can mean that they like you for who you are as a person. But that 2nd part is hard to know if you havent spent much time with the person and have only been able to observe them in passing at school or at work. It's kinda hard for a person to say that you mean a lot to them if they haven't had a chance to get to know your personality and thats one thing you didn't share, how much time you and this crush have spent around each other. When I use the word crush, to me it means I am really liking the person for what I can observe about them but I have not had much chance to interact with them for the person to get to realize if they have interest in me in return. He may have felt helpless as to what to really say and tried to joke to lighten the mood but his choice of a joke may not be too far off the mark. His parents may have drilled into him to not get any girls pregnant at his age and to wait until he is an adult officially and can make such decisions for himself and take responsibility for his actions. His parents may equate dating with making babies for all we know. Or it may have been an offhand way to warn he'll date for fun but not for anything serious with love feelings. None of us can know for sure what was going on in his head or what his parents stress on him so all my guesses could be wrong. If you really want to know, you'll have to ask him. But guys are also afraid of a girls emotional outburst either in anger when they tell the truth and it's something the girl doesn't like or it makes her cry. So for those reason's, they won't always be truthful. You're more likely to get the truth if you tell him you're curious and not going to go emo on him no matter what his answer, you just want to know what he's really thinking. But then you have to know you can handle whatever he says without an emotional breakdown or even pouting disappointed looks. If you can gain that much trust from him, he'll probably tell you true where he's at.
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It just sounds like he's interested in you, but doesn't want to date you. Or that he's developing feelings but hasn't figured them out.
There's not really a way to find out unless you talk to him again to get a more clear understanding of what he meant.
Either way, he said he would rather not do anything about it so you know where he stands with that.
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He Likes you just wants to stay friends so your friendship isn't ruined. If you really wanna know for yourself if he likes you Look for these things when you're around him. You catch him staring when he thinks you're not looking he looks in your eyes when you talk to him holds long meaningful conversations compliments you talks about yOu a lot his friends tease him when you're around he teases you He gets nervous and his palms sweat you two talk a lot he smiLes at you he hugs you. In my opinion he likes you but don't wanna lose your friendship. If you want him to like you back be yourself and a happy person.
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