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How to convince my parents to move.
So my parents and I have been pretty unhappy about where we have lived for awhile. Our house is nice and the neighborhood is as well, but being so close to family and all of the other things that have happened in this city have made it miserable. Every time I bring up moving they say that they will work on it, but they don't at all. Please help!!! disclaimer: no i am not a child who just wants her way, it is truly something that would benefit everyone. (as my parents have too much stress with work and family)
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I know you mean well though I doubt you can convince your parents to move. The why of it has to do with circumstances you are probably not aware of?
Such things that come into the decision making process are:
1. Their jobs; how far can they move without jeopardizing their jobs with long commutes.
2. The cost of commuting to work; how does this affect the budget.
3. Their current mortgage. Is the house worth what is owed on the mortgage or less then what is owe on the mortgage. It is possible if your home is less than 10 years old your parents got caught up in the recent mortgage problems and may be what is called upside down on the mortgage.
4. Then there are schools and property taxes that have to be taken into consideration as well.
5. Are you living where you are because your grandparents need your parents close to them?
Unless we are forced to move for employment reasons it is not easy to make a decision to pick up and move. Then of course there are the actual costs of moving. You need money for the down payment on a new house which is 10 to 20 percent of the purchase price. Then there is cost of moving from one house to the other.
It is not as easy as it seems to just pick up and move. I'm sure life might be easier if you did move away from the family if they are the cause of the stress your parents are under. Moving though may not end the stress it may just add to it; something to consider as well.
You don't speak about the "other things" so I cannot speak to them. Since I don't know your age I cannot speak to why your parents say to you that they "will work on it." It just may be easier to placate you with that answer than to have an adult discussion with you as to why moving is not an option.
Your parents may also feel that why they are not willing to move is not something you need to know. The only way to find this out is to ask them directly. A question you may want to think about asking if you really want to know if your parents are dragging their feet on this suggestion or simply placating you with an answer and ignoring your suggestion.
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