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couples: time to do it?
I've been with my girlfriend for 8 months now and I think I am ready to actually do it with her she says she is ready but she always refuses I don't force her I love her very much I respect their I take care of her but as a person I believe it's Time, I im 16 and so is shewe are very mature so my question is how can I convince her to actually do it with her?
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Don't do it son. There's nothing good that will come with pressuring her to have a sexual relation with you.
If you truly love her, you're main concern would be to provide for her best interests, safety and happiness.
While sex, under the proper circumstances, can be an expression of love, it's main purpose is to produce a baby and nothing short of abstinence can guarantee that a pregnancy doesn't result.
As you consider yourself mature for your age, I advise you to be a real man and wait until you're both truly ready.
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First you do not convince, beg or force a girl to have sex with you. Doing so is sexual harassment, possibly rape both of which is a crime that you can be charged with.
When a girl says no to sex it means no and you MUST stop asking or pushing her to have sex with you. You cannot say anything to the effect of, "If you love me you will have sex with me." To do so is sexual harassment.
You two may be very mature but being 16 is still too young to be having sex. There are many other ways to enjoy your sexualities short of intercourse more appropriate for your age that do not expose the girl to an unwanted pregnancy. Condoms are only 85% effective in preventing pregnancy. While those may be good odds in Vegas they are not good odds for 16 year olds in the bedroom.
I would suggest you stop trying to have sex with your girlfriend for at least another year or so. Stick to Fingering, hand jobs and blowjobs for now.
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If she says she's ready but always refuses, then she's not ready.
It might feel like it's time for you, but it isn't time for her.
You do not try to convince her. You leave it alone until she is ready and comes to you.
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Obviously your girlfriend isn't saying what she means!
You're only 16-there's plenty of time still! Why are you wanting to rush?
I think you're lucky to have a mature head strong girlfriend who knows exactly what works for her and what doesn't.
I wouldn't keep mentioning it every week or whatever because it'll appear desperate. I think you need to wait for her to come to you with this one.
Perhaps mention it to her, explaining by no means is the sex the crucial part to the relationship. If she still says no, make sure she knows to bring up the topic herself when she's ready.
It's not fair that you should initiate everything. Tell her. Ok, well when you're ready just let me know.
That's what my bf did.
And if after its been a year and nothing has happened and you're dissatisfied, explain to her that the relationship is not fulfilling all of your needs. She can chose to change or you can chose to move on. A compromise has to be made somewhere because relationships are not all about the girl!!
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