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Hey, My name is Ryan, And I will be your shrink for the day, I have 18 years of life experience, trust me I have been through it all, loss, births (no I didnt give birth silly), Parents divorce, my own bad relationships, I have fixed heaps of relationships, basically, I'm the one who will lay it out straight! if you dont want the answers everyone seems to give like those stupid answers that never really help, then come to me, I condone the realists approach, the ways that REALLY work :D so ask me about ANYTHING..

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Lets assume you are seventeen, and youve been going out with your boyfriend for a while, who has been your best friend for 4 years. And you know you are ready and its the right thing to lose your virginity to him. You are completely prepared and use protection (both condom and birth control.) Do you think although you're ready, seventeen is still too young to have sex?

while most people give up their "V" at the ages of 13 - 15 then no.. It's not too young.. if your both ready.. and your serious about it.. and its going to be special.. then go for it.. if its just going to be some out of the blue ugly shitty crappy sex.. then why bother? I mean.. Im 17/m and still a virgin and PROUD OF IT!! but I dont plan on screwin someone till Im sure they are a sure thing.. something that will last a while.. and not just end the moment we do have sex.. you know what I mean?

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ok there is this guy name josh and we went out over the summer then broke up a day before school started. I still like him. we havent tlaked in a while but the other day we did a little bit. Last week my friend asked him would he ever go back out with me, and he just smiled. but he has a girlfriend. Also, alst week someone asked him would he ever go out wth this girl name brooke nad he said nnooo .. but he didnt say yes or no when someone asked about me. Then wed. at church, he sat near me but not right next to me .. it went me, his friend murphy(murphy likes me) and then josh and we talked in a group for a little bit. Do you think he still likes me? what should i do? im 14 and female and i need the truth .. please dont just tell me what i want to hear .. i need to hear the truth!

Well, he seems to like you.. but he is afraid to admit it because he also has a girlfriend.. and he probably really likes her also.. and doesnt want to hurt her.. but it seems there is a chance that if he ever breaks up with her.. he will go for you.. you will be first in line.. however... if he breaks up with her to be with you.. he isn't worth your time.. it seems if he does that.. he is just upgrading.. and as soon as someone else comes along.. he will drop you for the "Latest Model" then also.. it seems he might be trying to set you up with "Murphy" but I couldn't tell.. maybe murphy just beat him to the seat next to you and was too shy to ask murphy to skoot so he could sit next to you.. so yeah.. thats my opinion.. hope it helps :)

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I've started using a gothic appearence. (I dressed in black a lot and use dark black make-up on my eyes and either brown or red lipstick.) Nobody even understand why I'm doing it. I'm sort of doing it as an expirement. (Sorry if I spelled that wrong.)It freaks out my teachers, classmates call me a vampire, my boyfriend acts scared of me, and my parents don't like anything about my new look. All I've changed is how I look. I don't want to lose my friends just for the sake of looking gothic. But, if they can't accept how I want to look, are they real friends? What should I do? Advice please!

heh, don't worry about what other people think! goths rule! I'm thinking about becomming goth myself.. like black clothes, hair, peircings etc.. I can't wait to actually do it.. I have the money, I get $650 after tax.. but I just havnt been botherd doin it.. well done on actually doing it!

17/m

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I got a big problem with college. I hate it every day I go drains years out of my spirit. I would rather be working and living it up on the weekends. Instead I find myself here. It's not that I am bad at college I am actually quite good. I've made the dean's list twice. My problem is I don't like it and it doesn't feel like its my thing. I am here to make my parents proud my mother had to drop out of college to have my brother and she never went back. I am like allowing her to live vicariously through me and it is killing my spirit. I would be the third person in my family on either side to graduate college but I am terribly unhappy even thought I know how much this will help my future. Any suggestions?

dude.. If you have done 3 years? whats another 2? you'll be happy you stayed when you get out, work, and really live it up on the weekends.. and maybe your "too" good at it.. maybe you need to relax a lil, have fun, bang a few chicks/guys party etc hope I helped

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I am 14 years old, and i like a guy that goes to my school. He is going out with the biggist slut ever.. & I like him alot! Everyone thinks they are wrong for each other. I need a way to win him over. I donno what to do cuz me and the girl hate each other. He won't listen to any of his friends and i know he wont listen to me. We would be the best couple ever! So if you have any advice please feel free to give it!!

did you ever stop to think what "He" wants? If you love him so much.. you should let him make his own descisions.. Just tell him if he ever realises she is wrong for him.. you would like to be with him.. but if you like him as much as you say you do.. leave him be.. trust me on this!

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hi i'm a 18/f and i'd like to address this question to guys and guys only.

what type of makeup do you like on a girl? how little and how much? what are makeup turn-ons and turn-offs?

the reason why i'd like to conduct this simple survey is because i'm starting to see younger girls wear A TON of makeup on when it's unnecessary. i'd like to know what kind of makeup looks you guys are attracted to so it'll give all us girls a hint on how to do our makeup! thanks!

most girls are good looking enough to not even need any makeup.. but if you feel the need to.. not too much or you end up looking like a whore.. maybe a bit of foundation stuff.. mascara.. and maybe some lipstick.. i like the minimalist approach..

(I know some of the names of the shit like "Foundation" and Mascara" coz I used to do stage shows and had to wear makeup *shudders*)

17/m

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Okay this is all very confusing, I'm sorry and I hope it doesn't make ya'lls head spin but here is my problem.

I made out with a guy totally unaware that he had a girlfriend.
Well recently, I got in contact with his brother, and she was over there. I mentioned something to his brother about us making out, in jest. She got on and immediatly asked me if whatI say is true.

I said, yes. It was. I wasn't gonna lie.

She told me that they'd been dating for three years straight, and she thought she might be prengnat. HE told me nothing of the sort, that she was just a friend.

After much hassle, she called me and told me she'd confront him about it. She did, and he denied it, and she told me "I don't believe you, I trust him."

Things are blowing up, random friends of hers are IMing me like crazy, and his brother is sort of half and half beleving me, yet feeling dedication towards his brother.

Of course the whole attention thing is on them..its oh "Krista* made a big deal about it.." "OH krista is trying to ruin a relationship" when that totally wasn't my view or anything.

How can I help what she saw? I think its been hurting me more then it has them. What do I do?

I want a logical way to get back at them, or to show them that I don't give two dead rats.

I want the girlfriend to know that it IS true no matter how much he denies it, though it doesnt matter much to me if we messed around or not.

HELP!

xxthanksxx

offer him sex.. invite her to his place. and make sure she walks into his room just as you two are about to fuck.. lol.. that'd be so funny.. XD.. make sure you dont get naked or nothing.. just as you are getting your clothes off.. haha

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Pfff.. I just realised how BORING my life is!!! I wake up at six, go to school, come back at 4, do homework, go on the computer, sleep. What a nice life eh??? NOT!! its just soooo boring! i have nothing better to do. Any ideas?

My life, wake up at 11:30AM on comp till about 1:30PM, head to work.. get home at 11:30PM watch some TV, Comp, sleep and do it all over again.. trust me.. your life aint all that borin.. just do stuff on the weekends.. hang with friends etc

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I've been having a few problems trying to get into the chatroom lately. Everytime I open it up, it will say that it's loading Java Applet... After about 5 seconds this message shows up: java.lang.class.NotFoundException:Chat.Class. I've tried loading in several times with no luck. I'm horrible with computers so I have no clue what "java.lang.class.NotFoundException:Chat.Class" means. I've never had problems with the chatroom before and I've never been banned from it either so I don't know what the problem would be. If someone amazingly wonderful with computers could help me out that would be PERFECT! Thanks so much if you can help!

it seems people cant use it properly.. It may be a problem with java server.. it may be overloaded.. or whatever.. just give it a chance to clear up.. it'll sort itself out.. try again tomorrow or try downloading mIRC.. you can find a mIRC client really easy through msn.. just look it up :)

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my best friend is mad at me because i wont break up with my boyfriend because moves really slow and weve been going out for a really long time and weve only kissed once and he is the type of guy who gets nervous to do those types of things. i like him alot so im willing to wait for him to be ready to do whatever. she doesnt think he is the right guy for me. he is a great guy and the only bad part about him is that it takes him forever to give one single kiss. do i break up with him if we dont even kiss? or do i just deal with it and stay with him? and ive already talked to him about it a few times and he says hes trying his best.

Maybe you need to take the lead foot to get the relationship to progress.. If your heart feels he is the right guy, then trust your heart... your friend doesnt know whats best for you with relationships.. only your heart can tell you that.. look deep down.. and if you wanna stay with him.. you probably need to help the relationship progress.. just walk up to him and kiss him.. pash him.. just go there.. you will be happy you did.. and he probably wont be so shy about it no more.. I was the same till a bunch of my friends made me kiss my girlfriend.. then made me pash her.. I felt better after.. and I realised kissing wasnt really such a big deal after all.. now I do it all the time.. sorry so long, and hope I help

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is it normal to every so often not have your period for a month? i have never had sex and im 14 thanks..

I'm male, so I'm just going to take a stab at this, from what I have heard, In the first couple of years of puberty, when you start getting your periods, they can be irregular.. so sometimes they wont come, and sometimes they will come bad, and sometimes they wil come twice a month.. so its normal.. hope I helped :P

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Would making eye contact a lot and smiling at each other because we are both shy count as liking each other? It's just a simple question that I need the answer to. Please tell me.

I will rate the first people to give me an answer.

not nessisarily.. lots of people look at each other and smile.. its a greeting, but if its a real, I'll look at you all the time, and make sure I make eye contact etc, then, yeah, I cant see why It wouldnt be flirting..

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okay there is this guy, matt, and he's a- well- a bit of a slut. we are good mates and last year he got with my friend. not sex or anything but fooled around. i was totally cool with that coz he's a nce guy and everything. but a month or so later i realised i had feelings for him. i told my friend and she was like OMG go for it!!! he had a party, so after a few drinks to soften the blow, i told him i liked him. he was like. OMG i've liked you for ages. i was so happy!!! he kissed me and we were making out when my friend banged on the door asking for me. i ran out and my other friend had passed out. i looked after her and made sure she was okay. when i came out of the room i saw matt kissing his ex. after pouring my heart out to another guy friend i got over it and we kept being friends. we still are. he was like so into my sister so i introduced them but warned my sister about him. they hooked up (not sex) but she wanted nothing else. he was cut up about it but got over it. i havn't spoken to him much lately coz i been busy. but i ran into him at the mall yesterday. we chatted for a while and today he sent me a message saying hey gorgeous, i'm thinking of you. and i dunno whats happening. n e 1 that can help it would be appreciated!!! sorry it's so long. i rate!

How old are you?

Yeah.. Dont hook up with this player.. unless you wanna play him back.. now that would be funny :D

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I have a best friend, we fight ALL the time and last night she invited me to this skating thing.. so I went. Well I got there and she was ignoring me for this little 6th grader and her other annoying friends I want to be her bestfriend but when she treats me this way I just want to stay away from her.. what do I do?

erm.. she is just using you as someone fun to pay out as she knows you will just keep coming back for more.. ill give you the best advice possible.. leave her! dont be friends with her.. find new friends you dont need her!

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ok,
there is tons of girls that like me at my school and they all want to go out with me, so i need to know if i should become a "player" and go out with all of them at once or let them take turns?

pick one you really like.. you don't have to date them all.. if you become a player now, you will be a player for life.. and girls dont like players.. if you start dating them all they will all find out.. and you will have noone.. if you let them take turns.. word will get around and noone will want to go out with you coz they know it wont last.. and you will have noone.. so just pick one you really like.. and stick with her!

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When a guy puts his arm around a girls waist do u think the girl should put her arm around his waist or like his shoulders??

no.. she may not feel comfortable.. like.. it may be uncomfortable for her.. its entirely her choice.. if she doesnt want to put her arm around him.. it doesnt mean she dont love him.. just that she may not feel comfortable with her arm around someone.. hope i helped

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Hey I have wrote before but I took out some of the names out of the choices that I wanted you guys to help me with.. I like unique names btw.. not like John or Matthew.. just so my baby will be most likely the only one in his class with that name.. Here's a list below and maybe if you find one or something I may like suggest it please!
Jayden
Daryk
Carsyn
Aiden
Kaden

thanks a bunch!!

Dion? My nephews name is Dion.. it sounds odd.. but after 13 months of saying dion.. you get used to it and it becomes such a cool name :)

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how can you reduce air resistance in the sport of surfing? *for a project. thx in advance

wearing a wetsuit.. and shaving head... air resistance is to do with you and your body..

water resistance is to do with the board.. ie to reduce water resistance you rub the board with wax to make the water bead off the top and the board just glide along the water..

hope I helped

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my best friend just called me 2 minutes ago. I was over her house earlier but her Dad said I couldnt stay for dinner which is weird because i do alot. Im practically part of their family. But anyways, my friend calls me and goes, "My mom has breast cancer." Then she had to go but she promise she`d call me back. PLEASE help! Anyone. I need something to say to her - Im crying because her mom is like so close to me and my family. I have never been through this and i dont know how to comfort her. ♥

Breast cancer Is easy to beat.. If she is strong.. she will make it.. she will be fine as long as she gets treatment.. dw babe.. she will be fine!

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I'm really scared. I will soon have to have 2 teeth pulled! I was wondering how much it hurts, can you feel them actually pulling the teeth out, and how long it takes for it to stop hurting after you get them pulled. Please help! I'm really scared!!! I rate 5's by the way.

they dont give you lauging gas!!! HAHAHA thats stupid.. no... they give you local anasthetic or however you spell it. you dont feel any pain.. just feel them probing here and there.. if you feel pain.. tell them ow or something.. and they will give you more local.. I had a molar pulled as it was formed with a major defect (a massive hole) and it hurt.. so i told them it hurt and they gave me more anasthetic.. and yeah.. it never ever hurt again.. good luck!

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