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Gothic Look
I've started using a gothic appearence. (I dressed in black a lot and use dark black make-up on my eyes and either brown or red lipstick.) Nobody even understand why I'm doing it. I'm sort of doing it as an expirement. (Sorry if I spelled that wrong.)It freaks out my teachers, classmates call me a vampire, my boyfriend acts scared of me, and my parents don't like anything about my new look. All I've changed is how I look. I don't want to lose my friends just for the sake of looking gothic. But, if they can't accept how I want to look, are they real friends? What should I do? Advice please!
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im a prep so i dont really know how you feel but they arent true friends if they cant accept you as you are. Talk to them and tell them that you want to dress like that and that they need to like you the way you are. hope it helped!
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you are goth thats kewl..it shows your not afraid to be who you wanna be even if other people dont like it! i give you credit for that..anyways, you dont have good freinds if there gonna not wanna be your freind because how you look! thats mean! you should dress how YOU wanna dress and be yourself.. and if they dont wanna exept that, there not good freinds at all ..
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If people can't accept you for who you are, and love you despite the way you dress, then theyre not worth your time.Nothing matters besides whats inside, so no matter what you look like your friends should stay by your side.
♥ashley♥
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go punk
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All that matters is in the inside. Who gives a flying moose's toe-nail if you look gothic. Your friends aren't used to you looking the way you're looking. They just have to get used to it. Wait a few more weeks and see if they strat to loosen up. Get back to me....
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They are not real friends if they cant accept that ! Just make new BETTER friends
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well, im a goth! PINK AND BLACK BABY!!! and parcially wicca, no one cares, and ur friends shouldnt care either
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You have to tell them that you're just experimenting, because they might not know that. Tell them that even though you're in different clothes, you're still the same person. After that, if they still can't accept you for what clothes you wear, then no, they're NOT real friends. You need to find friends who don't care what you dress like. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
♥ Erin
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well your trying to be different because your tired or being the same as everyone else right? well honestly usually when you change looks you change friends i mean if they dont understand you talk to them .. also i dont think you should use it as your "experiment" because people get the wrong idea, like friends ... hope i helped .. Love MauramOo
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No, they are not real friends. You should talk to your friends, family, boyfriend, and other people close to you who are acting different because of your new look. If you are acting exactly the same then they are caring too much about your apperance. If tthey still act weird get some new friends. I hope I helped! ♥ good luck
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heh, don't worry about what other people think! goths rule! I'm thinking about becomming goth myself.. like black clothes, hair, peircings etc.. I can't wait to actually do it.. I have the money, I get $650 after tax.. but I just havnt been botherd doin it.. well done on actually doing it!
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why would you start dressing like a gothic unless you wanted to hang out people that are 'like' you. The whole point of conforming to these subcultures is a search for individualism. You ARNT AN INDIVIDUAL because there are millions and millions of other people in this world that have just conformed into these different stereotypes. Your not a true goth because you have already labeled yourself as being one and it defeats the whole purpose of the whole thing!!!! have you suddenly become a satanist??? what you worship the devil now and sacrifice goats for fun on weekends? go back to being who you are and stop complaining about being singled out when the whole point of dressing like that is to get stares and STAND OUT stop winging you poser
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Just be like, this is who I am, if you don't accept me, that's your problem. Find people that except you for who you are, not what you wear. Don't worry, there are good friends at every school. And as for your parents and boyfriend, sit them down and explain to them your actions and opinons. Just ignore your teachers/classmates reactions to it. Be true to yourself.
Hope I helped!
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sounds like you got results to your experiment.
If you like the look keep with it.If your personality doesn't undergo a major change people will see this sooner or later.If they just can't get past the way you look then they are the ones with the problem.
First impressions are pretty strong.If you want to continue you'll just have to accept the fact that you'll be getting a lot of strange looks and you may even lose a few friends. The decision is all yours to make.
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You have to expect people to act a little different towards you. You changed, even if it is just how you look, and it may take people awhile to adjust to the new change. Everything will be the same way as it was soon, just don't get lost in the "goth" look and change who you truely are. When you lose who you truely are on the inside, you lose your true friends in the process.
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Well first off, yeah if you're dressing gothic and you've got friends that don't like it, they are true friends if they're confronting you about it... Trust me, lots of people I know hate the gothic style because it's so hopeless and depressive in it's fashion. If you want to look like a real human being that everybody is willing to accept, don't look gothic - no problem with wearing some black, heck I wear black T-shirts all the time. It just seems to me that you're mad at your friends because you're turnin gothic and they don't like it. Put yourself in their shoes - what if one of your friends starting doing stuff really strangely around you? You'd be a little angry and upset yourself. So before you get mad and such, take a look from the other side first. If you feel that looking gothic is more important than keeping your friends, by all means, go be gothic. I'm not saying you won't suffer consequences - it always works that way. So just take the other perspective into mind before you start playing with being gothic.
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Maybe your friends are just suprised that you suddenly changed so wildly! Try explaining to them your experimenting, maybe that'll work.
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well obviously they arent really friends...
the same thing (sorta) happend to me when i started getting involved with the "sk8er" thing. my friends got all weird and as a group we grew apart. then all the sudden they all 3 (we are a tight group) left me out of their plans and a sleepover. I got angry and they wrote a note to me saying that if i didnt meet them at the town center blahblah then we wouldnt be friends any more. so i went to the effing thing (wich i already had flippen plans) and they said it was all because they had to adjust with me being a "sk8er" that all of the problems started. i didnt argue and acted like they wanted me to while they pushed and pushed my buttons. it hurt deep down that my own friends would treat me like that but afterwards we all were good and we now are tight again
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well i guess yur friends should still like you, even if you change your apperence. but i believe that it might just be a new, unexpected change, so it might take a little time to get used to it. cause your apperence if who you are. and if they cant except it, you might need new friends, or at least till your old ones get used to it. i hope i helped.
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Hey, I can relate, I started wearing Tripp, spiked accesories,chains, those custom contact lenses, all that cool stuff. If your parents dont like it, try explaining to them that you're simply experimenting. Maybe you just like the color black, because its easy to match up, and all the accesories just catch your eye in their own way. Try this with your friends too. If they still don't liek the new look and give you a hard time, go ack to what they liked. If they like you again just for that, end them. Just 'dump them' persay. If they only like you for how you look, then they are not true friends. Real friends like you for who you are, not how you look.
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You're look doesn't change who you are. If you like they way you look keep dressing that way, but make sure you act the same way so that they realize that just because you look different doesn't mean you are. I can actually sorta say I've done the same thing. After awhile people do change their opinions of you. Its the people that treat you the same way that are the people who know you best.
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