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my best friend just called me 2 minutes ago. I was over her house earlier but her Dad said I couldnt stay for dinner which is weird because i do alot. Im practically part of their family. But anyways, my friend calls me and goes, "My mom has breast cancer." Then she had to go but she promise she`d call me back. PLEASE help! Anyone. I need something to say to her - Im crying because her mom is like so close to me and my family. I have never been through this and i dont know how to comfort her. ♥
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My ex-boyfriend's mum has breast cancer. He was really depressed for a while, but the most you can do is just BE there. And let her know you're there, and that you aren't afraid to talk about it. I think the only serious conversations I had with my ex were during that time period when she went back into remission.
Don't focus on it, darling. I mean, don't REPRESS it, but don't focus all your time on it. It's just going to bring you down. It's NOT a bad thing to go out and forget for a while.
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A way to help her would to just be there and listen to her, everyone is different when they need comfort, so just make yourself avalable to her. And for yourself.. maybe talk to your parents about it and they could probly help you.
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im so sorry, for you and your friend..
my best friends father died 2 days before christmas and i didnt know what to do.
when i heard it, i locked myself in my room and stayed there for 2 days. i couldnt go to the wake, i couldnt even talk to him for well, ever since. DONT DO WAT I DID
you should be there for her but dont treat her differently, DONT constantly follow her and dont ill say it again treat her differently. Make her laugh, give her a good time, and just listen to what she has to say.
irish
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aww i sorry. i know this is hard time for you and your fiends family..but try to stay strong, your friend needs someone and even if you feel you cant..it will be a comfort to her if she has such a great friend to depend on. to comfort her you dont always need word, just a hug or smile can make someones dark days just a little brighter. everything is in god's will from there. stay strong and good luck. *KaysEe
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Well, the right thing to do is offer her your shoulder to cry on if she feels like crying. You cant say anything, because it might be the wrong thing to say. Medicine is developing every day, so im sure that theres a cure for her mother. You cant say that to her because shell start thinking "what if they cant cure her?"
So just be there by her side, thats what real friends do. If you really wanna say something, chose your words carefully.
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My mum has breast cancer at the moment- she has just had her operation like three hours ago. I find it hard to deal with, but don't panic yet. When your friend calls back, make sure you know how bad it is. Stage one growth is slow growth of the cancer, (which is good), stage 2 medium slow growth and stage 3 fast growth (not all that great.) Ask your friend if she knows the stage. If it is a lower stage it will be no problem and she will simply have to have an operation and radio therapy. This may make her tierd and possibly a bit sick (the radio therapy). If it is a higher stage she will have to have an operation, kimotherapy and radio therapy. Kimo therapy is unfortunatly not very nice- she may feel weak, sick and tierd with loss of appetite.It is possible with kimo that she will lose her hair.
Don't stress too much- when anyone says "cancer" people are all like "oh no someones going to die"!. Medical treatment today is fantastic, she will be fine. Tell yourself this.
I must admit I have not been able to tell my friends about my Mum yet. If I did I would like to be told that all the cancer growth will be gone in about a month. And its gone now. Just say everything will be normal quite soon. It will all be over and done with, then forgoten. Be strong, comfort your friend and make sure you are there for her at all times. It sounds like you are really close friends. Remember it was hard for her to tell you, so don't dwell on the subject for too long, just act caring. I know quite a bit about breast cancer and dealing with it now, so if you are worried again send me a question. Good luck,
Zoinatrobe.
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Breast cancer Is easy to beat.. If she is strong.. she will make it.. she will be fine as long as she gets treatment.. dw babe.. she will be fine!
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Awww sweetie I am very sorry! I dont know if your religous but I am definatley going to pray for your friends family! Just tell her that you will be there for her no matter what. And that if she needs a shoulder to cry on or a hug..that you will be there! she needs to know she has support from loving friends and family! I know your falling apart but you need to be strong for your friend, her mom..and everyone else! Get support through eachother! If you need to talk about this I'm always here. Email me at vsgangstaboo420@yahoo.com or leave something in my inbox!
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