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dealing with death
about three months ago my ex-boyfriend died. i broke up with him b4 he got sick or i knew he was sick. after his death i had feelings of guilt. i thought his funeral would help he seek closure but it only made it worse. now all i can ever think about is how unfair it is. sometimes i have nightmares about him hating me. i used to go to a therapist before his death for other issues but and i didnt really like it b/c i never got any advice or anything. but sometimes the nightmares are too much to take and all i want to do is cry. and sometimes i cant cry hard enough to make the pain stop. and all the things ppl say like "hes in a better place" doesnt change the fact that hes dead. does anyone know how to deal with death?
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I don't have much experiance with death, but I can tell you, that you need to either go back to that therapist or go to a new one. It only feels like its not helping because your misery tells you this. You have to keep talking, because its not healthy to keep everything inside, because when you cry, they are big bursts of tears because all of that pain is in yourself, and nobody else knows about it. One night, (I'm depressed.) I was laying in bed getting sad, I only had my boyfriend to talk to, but he couldn't help, so when I cried, it was where I was screaming in my pillow, non stop crying. It hurts so bad, and then I kept telling myself to go talk to my mom, I woke her up in the middle of the night, andwe talked even though we never get along. We really don't, and it felt nice even though we don't have a good relationship. I went to bed feeling relaxed that someone else knows. I just got me something to eat, and watched my favorite show, Dawson's Creek! lol, sorry, I love that show. But anyway, you need someone to talk to about this death situation. I understand that hes in a better place doesn't change the fact that hes dead, but people just want to remind you that he is watching over, and is no longer in pain because hes not feeling that sickness anymore. So, hes painless now, and maybe that piece of information can help you seek closure. Good luck and sorry about your ex.
-TheTeenGirl
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Thats really something you should talk to your parents or religious leader about, because they could help you out alot better than some kids on the internet.
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well its not your fault that he died, and he probably doesnt hate you. just give this some time and cry, cry will make the pain stop if you do it enough. pretty soon youll get over this. think of all the good times you had together. hope i helped.
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Dealing with death is a very difficult thing and you feel guilty because you dumped him and then he got sick and "moved on to a better place" deep down you are thinking that you are some how responsible for his death but you are not.....
i understand that you have the nightmares about him hating you but he does not hate you he loves you and he watches over you everyday giving you protection and keeping you safe so when you feel sad look up and think of all the good times you and your ex-boyfriend had before the split up i think that you should talk to your mates and your parents also maybe you could talk to your ex's mom and dad because they can offer help aswell....
I hope my advice has helped!!!
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Death is a very hard thing to go through. And honestly, you will never get over it. But you dont want to, you want to remember him right? You need to remember the good times, the memorys..and not so much focus on his death but on his life. His good life, with friends and family. You need support and cant go through this alone. You need to have support from your family, his family, and his friends. You need to talk about him, talk about the good times..look at photo albums with his family...this will hopefully work for you. So focus on his life, and I am sorry about his passing! I will pray for you!
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