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I got a big problem with college. I hate it every day I go drains years out of my spirit. I would rather be working and living it up on the weekends. Instead I find myself here. It's not that I am bad at college I am actually quite good. I've made the dean's list twice. My problem is I don't like it and it doesn't feel like its my thing. I am here to make my parents proud my mother had to drop out of college to have my brother and she never went back. I am like allowing her to live vicariously through me and it is killing my spirit. I would be the third person in my family on either side to graduate college but I am terribly unhappy even thought I know how much this will help my future. Any suggestions?
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dude.. If you have done 3 years? whats another 2? you'll be happy you stayed when you get out, work, and really live it up on the weekends.. and maybe your "too" good at it.. maybe you need to relax a lil, have fun, bang a few chicks/guys party etc hope I helped
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You could take some time off and get a job.The thing you need to know up front is thst the majority of people never go back.Your mom may get pretty upset about it.The thing is that most jobs don't pay a whole lot and college COULD make the future pay better.A lot of that depends on what you're planning on doing.
You could changthings and only take a couple of classes per semester or take some evening classes.This will of course take you longer to graduate.You have invested a lot of time in it and two years isn't that long to wait really.Do what you feel you need to do.It's got to be your decision...Just some suggestions.
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I would just do what makes you happy. Don't do it just because you know it will make your mom happy. I mean shes not the one living your life is she? So just do what you feel is right for YOU.
But you also might want to talk to your parents about how you feel. And if you're like more then 1/2 through college and you're doing well then i'd just keep going. But talk to your parents about how you feel.
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How much longer to go? Honestly, having started, I am a believer in finishing because no matter what you do later in life, the qualification will help you. But you do need to get your head around it. If you think serisouly about it and decide that you will finsih it, commit to it on the basis that you have decided you will finish for the sake of having the qualification and for the sake of sheer personal development. As long as you feel like you are doing it for your mum, it will be tough. That doesn't mean you have to stop doing it, you just have to stop perceiving it that way.
There again, if it is making you so unhappy that you do not think you could pull yourself through the rest of the course, then there is little point staying. Just take your time before you make such a decision.
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If you aren't enjoying college, and its killing you, then talk to your mom about it. But, maybe you should finish since you are doing so well, but you should really consider talking to your mom about it first. And, your dad, and tell them you really wanna make them proud, but your not feeling good at all doing it, and you wouldn't do it just to get out of working hard, but, maybe you should get your parents comfort, and if you know it will help your future, maybe you need to stay, because, no child actually wants to be in school, but they are made to go, and it pays off for your future plans. But, explain to your parents how unhappy you are.
-TheTeenGirl
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