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The one thing I will not do is you homework. I will try and point you towards the answer or help you find the answers you looking for. Ultimately you will have to find the answer yourself.

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Should I stay? I feel like I don't really belong in the home I currently live in. I feel irrelevant and that they don't really care for me. My mother said I could live with her family instead. Should I go?

I would love to help; you with this question but I need more information especially how old you are. Your age is important for if you are under 18 legally you cannot move out of your parents home unless they allow you to. Even so until your 18 your parents are still responsible for your well being even if you are not living with them.

A parents legal responsibility to their children is to provide a roof over them, see that they are well fed. That they have clean serviceable cloths. That they are in good health and attend school on a regular basis. Your moving out does not negate these responsibilities

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My sister and I do not have the best relationship. Actually, it's awful. We were pretty close as little kids (she's two years younger) but that ended when I was 8 or 9. Im 19 now. I narrowed down the decline in our relationship to her taking my things when she was probably about 5. My mom told me it was because she wanted to be like me, try to have patience. Except it never stopped. She stole things from me up until I moved out of our parents' home last year. So as expected, our relationship is strained.

*side note, she's a bit behind for her age. She's almost 18, but acts like she's 14 or 15. Also manipulative. Can't tell the truth to save her life.

About a week ago, my parents had a BBQ, and my sister was allowed to invite friends. I was actually getting along with my sister really well, and she let me hang out with all of them. We had a great time. I was really hitting it off with one friend in particular, who is just two months older than I am, and i made a point of asking my sister that night, while we were all together, if it was okay if I hung out with them. She was probably reluctant, but said it was cool. Turns out, she's very much not okay with it. I don't necessarily blame her. I HATED when i had friends over and she struck up conversation with them. I'd stare her down, just generally be a bitch because I didn't want to share my friends with her. Now it's flipped, and she doesnt want me to hang out with this friend. She said until the BBQ, she hadn't seen said person in a year and a half. They would promise to hang out, and then "forget," bail on her, whatever. That, I don't condone. Ive had people do that to me. But this person and I genuinely get along, and they ask me to hang out.

What am I supposed to do? I feel guilty, but I'm not sure if Ive even done anything to feel guilty about.. I don't know how to resolve the situation. I asked my best friend for advice, and all she said was that I shouldnt hang out with her friend, "family first." My best friend is in Mississippi until January, she's been gone for 9 months. I have no other friends. I didn't start this friendship out of spite, and I dont want to end it soley because my sister is mad. What should I do???

Thanks in advance.

To me the answer is quite simple; you sister is being a baby about this. This friend is not really her friend if they haven't seen each other in a year and a half. They make plans together and then this friend bails on her. I don't see a friendship here.

My advice enjoy the friendship for as long as it last just be aware that she mail bail on you if someone better comes a long.

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Hello,

Both 27

I'm thinking of moving away from him because I'm still heartbroken as we split up about few months ago and i'm still hung up on him. (he initiated the split up). I miss him and cried the other evening. we're still on good terms and in contact. see each other once a week. I don't think I should stay anywhere near him because I love him still now, my question is, I asked him if I should move in a friendly term he said, what, No, (with surprising face) he replied like that the first time. I asked him again days later, he said it's up to you. I guess he don't want me to but since he's not saying much, why would he say 'it's up to you?' does he not care or is he just saying this? I have a headache thinking of it. from deep down I know he still loves me even though we only dated for few months and sees me once a week. he has a gf and I don't want to date anyone at the present. however, I'm just terribly sad. I don't want anything from him instead I just want to know, what would he mean by it's up to you? when I asked him back what kind of reply is that, shall I move faraway from you he said, it's your life. am I being paranoid guys? do i sound pathetic loser? i'm just trying to understand the situation, thats all. i'm sorry

At 27 you should be better at the game of life. His answers to you tell me he does not care what you do and it is not his problem to decide for you.

My suggestion is you break off all contact with him. He left you for a reason. Just because he still sees you once a week does not mean he loves you. Hopefully his once a week contact is not a friend with benefits contacts. He left you he is not entitled to having sex with you.

Breaking off all contact with him will benefit you for you will in one way or another see his true colors and value he places on your friendship. Do not just sit around pining for him. Get out and have fun. You can date others or just go out and have fun with a few of your girlfriends but he is not worth pining over.

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Sophomore in Highschool. All my life, school has come incredibly easy to me and I'm advanced in all of my classes but then there's math. Literally, we had our first test of the year in algebra and I got a 60% and it's discouraging me. I don't know what I am doing wrong-I go to extra help when the teacher has them, I do all my homework, I pay attention in class, and I take up free tutoring from other students when the school offers it (low income family, cannot afford private tutoring). It's so fucking annoying. I literally study my ass off and nothing shows. Teachers always say there is no such thing as naturally being bad at math, you need to work hard, etc, but it's not working. And in the SATs I gotta take next year, math is half the grade. The other half is reading and writing which I'm not worried about at all-steady 100s all the time in English class-and it really bugs me that my whole future could get fucked because of math when I don't even want a math based carreer. What do I do?

I understand as I sucked at high school math as well. It is the way math is taught that is the basis of the problem. I didn't find this out until I went into the military and they have different teaching methods.

Working harder is not always the answer, working smarter is. Algebra requires a logical progression and you must go step by step not skipping a step or you will get the wrong answer.

Right you know all this and you still have a problem. You need to go back and gedo the basics to give yourself a good base from which to work. THere are plenty of programs on the web you can access that will help you with the basics and move you back up.

Do all your other homework first, then give yourself 45 minutes of learning the basics and doing the exercises. Then chill out before going to bed. Forty-five minutes a night times 5 nights is 225 minutes of study, more time then is given in reality in a class room. starting with the basics and working your way back to grade level should help you.

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my employer wants me to sign an employment arbitration agreement. Have you ever heard of an employee demanding that an employer sign an arbitration agreement? what company would want to take away rights of the employee and what company reduces their employees pay at their discretion?? seem scamish to me as of if they have something up their sleeve

is this right/legal?

should I work for them or run away?

that whole agreement is odd to me

I'm not a lawyer and as far as I know there are no lawyers on this sight. My advise is you not sign that agreement without consulting a lawyer.

Employers take the position that we as employees do not know our rights especially at will employees. An "At will employee;" in simple terms is a non-union non -collective bargaining employee. My take on what you are being asked to sign is you are giving up legal rights you are entitled too.

As an "At will employee," your employer is free to reduce your salary and benefits without notice. Some states have laws protecting employees from such abuse. This agreement is and end run around those laws.

By not signing this agreement you can expect your employer to threaten you with if not actually terminating your employment. My suggestion is you start looking for a new job and stall as long as possible before not signing that agreement.

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My mom constantly tries to control every aspect of my life. I'm a 13 year old girl and I'll just tell you about a few instances I have gotten into. Today my mom told me in an angry tone to wash my sheets when I only just washed them last week. I have never seen my twin brother or my mom wash their sheets yet they expect me to do mine every week. Another time I was out with my friends and I get an angry call saying that my mom couldn't find the remote and she claimed that I lost it, but I couldn't have lost it because I never use the remote, yet she is 100% sure that I am the one that lost it and she threatened that if I don't tell her where it is that she would come and get me and take away my phone for the next week. She also has a lock on my phone that takes away all of my apps and I usually can't use it unless it is for homework. We fight everyday and she is always angry. I can't wait until I can move out. Is there any way I can fix this? Or make her trust me more?

I'm not going to make light of this for you but it is not unusual for girls your age and their mothers not to get along. It has a lot to do with puberty and the new hormones now surging through you. THese hormones, until you adjust to them, cause a problem with perception. Example the sheet problem. Most people do wash there sheets weekly it is just good hygiene to do so.The fact that you don't see your mom doing her sheets r your brothers does not mean she isn't doing them. The fact that she wants you to do your own sheets will be seen by many as good parenting. Teaching you things you will need to know as an adult. Controlling you cell phone usage is also seen by many as good parenting.

THe fact is you are 13 and for next 5 years you must live at home with your mom. When you turn 18 you may if you wish move out and there is nothing mom can say or do about it. For now though try seeing things as they are presented not as you think they are being presented. Try getting along with mom. Sit down with her and have a conversation. Talk about how you are a young lady, a teenager and that you have earned a bit more respect then she is giving you.

The object of the conversation is to get mom to remember what it was like to be 13 and needing more freedom. There is a fear factor here that all parents go through with their newly minted teeanagers. frank non yelling discussion will go a long way in getting the freedom you want and need to grow into an adult.

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Hi,

I'm a current chemistry undergraduate with two years left on his degree, wondering whether or not it would make sense to get the 2018 iPad for the remainder of my degree.

For clarity, this iPad would be used exclusively to download lecture notes and then write on them during the lecture in order to replace receiving physical lecture note and stuffing them into my bag and getting scruffy/lost. Also, my lecturers often ramble/ don't put in enough detail into the typed notes, leading me to try and scribble a lot of text in very small writing. After the lecture, I plan on writing up my lecture notes on physical paper and filing it away.

I own a windows laptop (I can't type notes, they'd have to be written).

I dunno whether these reasons would warrant a £400 purchase so any advice would be greatly appreciated!

If buying the Ipad will give you better notes and make the lectures more relevant then spend the money and get the IPAD.

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I moved in with my boyfriend about two weeks ago. When I did he told me I could decorate however I want.

Well this week I started redecorating. We went furniture shopping and bought all new bedroom furniture for us (splitting the cost). I bought bedding, everything for the kitchen, and for the living room. Everything went fine. Then I got to the two guest bedrooms and I threw out some of his bedding and bought new sets. The reason I did that was because his bedding was very old, junky looking, and smelled very musty. I thought he would be fine with it because I told him I was buying new bedding and expressed my distaste with the old sets. He told me that was fine and that he trusted I'd pick out something nice. Well I did. Then after I had already thrown out the old sets he got upset because he said they were still usable. I think this is silly because I bought us brand new bed sets and the condition of the old ones was so bad.

I also have a problem with the amount of cat toys he has. I understand that he loves his cat (as I have one too), but he has so many it's unreasonable and he thinks he needs more. He has around 5-6 cat towers, 3 cat beds, a large cat tunnel, scratching posts, and countless other large toys. I threw out one of the cat beds because it was disgusting looking and falling apart. Well then I came home and he had taken it out of the trash and put it back where it was. He told me it was because his cat loved that bed, but I've never seen his cat use it in the two weeks I've been here. Likewise, I haven't seen his cat use 90% of the toys. I told him I think some of them should go because they're just clutter, but he disagrees. I really don't like them though. I think they look trashy no matter where I put them and that they ruin the look of the apartment especially seeing as they go mostly unused.

Another issue I'm struggling with is the timing. I'm not sure I'm enjoying being here. I work at night and he works during the day, which I thought would be a good thing because we would spend a few hours between our jobs together during the week and days on weekends and the rest of the time I/he was gone would give us needed space. Then we both got sick and he's been eating dinner and then going straight to bed every night (around 6pm) so we're barely even talking to each other. He goes to bed and I stay up and do homework. This just isn't what I imagined. I wanted the cute cuddly couple living together and I feel like I'm just a roommate or a ghost haunting his apartment. We haven't even really been sleeping in the same bed because he either falls asleep on the couch or I'm afraid of waking him getting into bed so I just sleep in one of the guest rooms.

I just don't know what to do especially because I already sank almost 3k into the place.
I do still have my own apartment too so I can go back, but I feel like that would be the end to our relationship. I still want to be with him, I just feel like maybe the timing is wrong on moving in together or something.

Help?

One word COMPROMISE!!

Moving in together is a big step one that requires compromise from both. Yes he told you that you could redecorate and from the sounds of things you went at it with gusto. You say you told him what you were doing. Did you think to ask him or to get his opinion.

From the sounds of I read here you made many changes without truly consulting him. What was his for the most part is gone and I think he feels abandoned his place in his apartment gone.

This is not a question of who is right or who is wrong.You failed to include him, from what I am reading, in these changes. He failed to properly communicate his feelings.

Suggestion: The two of you need to sit down and talk to each other. Find out what each others expectations for this relationship are. Make time for each other and make sure that you both agree to any changes or how you are spending time together. This includes sleeping together.

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I’ve been searching for AGES.

I mean, I think my purpose could be having a gift to give to people, like time, effort, empathy, etc. but I don’t know.

I can’t talk to my therapist anytime soon, but I’m in desperate need of someone who is very wise to give me advice on finding my gift.

We all have some gift to give though it takes time and maturity to find that gift. As much as we would like to know what that gift may be it cannot be forced. Usually your gift will make itself known in your last years of High School or in your first years of college. Maybe your gift is to be a doctor who may find a cure for some disease. You won’t know this until you start planning for medical school.

For many years my son and I volunteered together at a volunteer rescue squad. One day he asked why we do this. It is a question asked of all of us and one we ask of ourselves. The simple answer is because we can. The truth of the matter is the reason or the why is different for all of us and it becomes apparent on a specific call. One Sunday afternoon I am at home with my wife listening to the scanner when a call goes out. I won’t go in to details other than to say my son’s action in part saved a man’s life. I knew this call would have special meaning to him so I went to the station to wait for his return from the hospital. He walked in looked at me and said “I know.”

That call showed him what his gift is. Today he is a career Paramedic/Fire Fighter with over 20 lives saved. Your gift may become apparent in a similar manner or it will be something you gravitate to. Just don’t rush it for rushing it will surely lead you in the wrong direction.

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29 female

I am going to a pool hall this Monday night with a friend that is another female. I have never been to a pool hall before and have no idea what to wear. I was wondering if they drink so we could have a designated driver because i dont really drink that much and i don't want to drink and drive.

I would suggest a pair of slacks or shorts if the weather permits with a nice blouse or sweater; again depending on the weather. Slacks or shorts are suggested as you will be bending over the pool table in ways that if you're wearing a skirt your panties or thong will be on display

As for drinking most pool halls either have a bar or BYOB is permitted. Having a designated driver is the right thing to do if your friends plan on drinking.

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I’m a 13 year old girl and I’m trying to lose weight. Recently I got back from a vacation and was a little jet lagged and I don’t like coffee so I thought I’d try a cup of tea to keep me awake and I’ve started to have a cup of tea every night while I’m sitting in bed reading etc. Is this bad for me? Will it get in the way of me losing weight?

Tea also has caffeine though a lot less then coffee. If you’re going to drink tea before bed I would suggest you try Chamomile Tea or Green Tea. The Chamomile is a relaxing blend that will actually aid you in getting to sleep. Green Tea is another Herbal Tea with caffeine that will help you focus so it would be a daytime or morning tea.

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I’m talking to this guy for the second time. I’m not a virgin although I’m not sure if he is or not. Although he is the type to be a virgin. We have talked freaky before we established the talking stage and I’ve sent a few nudes, but I would really like to take things slow. I know with his last gf she didn’t send nudes at all or have sex with him Bc of her religious stuff I believe. But he wants to go to lunch and stuff and I’ve been so anxious about that Bc I’m afraid he’ll try and do stuff based on a past horrid experience. But he is a super nice guy and and seems like he wouldn’t do something I’m not comfortable with. I’m just a super nervous person and don’t know what to do or say to him to clarify that I’d like to take things slow bc I want an actual relationship and something that will last. What do I do/say? What do I do about lunch/dates too? P.s. I’ve known him for about six or seven years and is a good guy.

How do I tell him I’m not ready for sex? THe best way I know is to tell him up front your not ready to have sex with him. Then when you make out with him make sure his hands stay above your clothes.

"I’ve sent a few nudes," DO NOT DO THIS AGAIN WITH HIM OR ANYONE ELSE. Not only are you breaking the law by doing so but those pictures are for ever out in cyberspace. If and when you breakup he can publish those photo's. Do you want future employers to see these photo's? It can and has happened.




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I live in a 4/4 student housing apartment where every room is rented out to a different student. In August I had 2 new roommates move in after the old ones moved out and I feel like they're being very rude and breaking common sense roommate rules.

For example, Every Sunday they invite a three to four people over and watch movies with the volume turned up very loud until midnight. Every night they seem to be up making loud noises until 12 and then they congregate in the kitchen and living room sometimes until 2 or 3am. During the day they seem to constantly be in the kitchen or living room too and I feel like I'm locked in my room all day and all night (minus when I'm working) because they've taken over and never seem to stay in their rooms long enough for me to leave mine and actually cook or watch tv.

I feel like I can never use the kitchen in our apartment because they just congregate around and in it all the time until I'm already asleep (around 2/3am) and I wind up going to bed starving. Then I can't make breakfast in the morning because they're already in the kitchen again! I swear I don't know when they sleep!

I also feel like you shouldn't have friends over more than twice or three times a week. They seem to be here 99% of the time. Every time I leave my room some stranger is hanging out in the apartment.

Am I crazy or is this really rude of them? Shouldn't they at least stay in their rooms part of the time so somebody else can feel comfortable cooking or relaxing in the living room?

You say your living in student housing. That being the case I would expect there would be rules to live by. Something you would have had to agree to prior to moving in.

It wounds to me that your roommates may be freshman away from home for the first time and not under the watchful eyes of a parent. You certainly do not have to live with their freedom rebellion. I suggest you contact student housing and ask to either move your roommates to a different apartment or move you. Student housing needs to have a discussion with them as to how to be good roommates.

Given that school has just started or will be starting in a few days things should change once the homework piles up and they start missing classes because they slept through them. When that happens they will be on academic probation. IF they don't smarten up they will be gone by the end of the first semester. You do not have to wait until that happens. See the student housing coordinator and have them moved.

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My boyfriend and I have always used protection (condoms) and to be totally open he has a hard time ejaculating because of a medical condition he has so it's only happened once in the two months we've been together. We have sex around twice a week for several hours, but we're always super careful about using condoms and if one gets too worn out, he always puts on a new one.

There was one time he rubbed against me without one, but it was my inner thigh and I didn't feel any precum.

I've also only had sex with him of course.

Strangely enough though I feel as though I'm fairly late on my period. I say feel because I'm not positive when the last one I had was though I estimate it was more than a month ago (I'll for sure be keeping track now).

I've also had cramps on and off that feel like menstrual cramps, but then didn't get my period. In fact, about two weeks ago I was absolutely certain I was getting it due to intense cramps, but never did.

I have been stressed out lately so maybe it's just that, but I'm starting to get worried and plan on taking a pregnancy test next weekend if I don't get it by then.

It seems pretty difficult to say I've gotten pregnant considering the circumstances though right?

Stress is the number 1 cause of missed periods. More so then actual pregnancy. Take the home pregnancy test. Follow the directions on the package as to when to test and how long after your last intercourse. Should the test be positive do not panic. Wait ten days and test again. These test have more false positive then false negatives.

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Can boys be pregnant?

NO! Only the female of species including the human female can get pregnant. You should have or will learn about the human reproductive systems in Anatomy Class.

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18/f/South Africa
When I was 9-13 I was sexually abused by my brother in law. The first time I came out with it, my sister didn't believe me. The 2nd time, nothing was done and the 3rd time, she finally left him and it stopped. I had a hard time coping with it in grade 7 (13) and started cutting. My best friend at the time knew about it and helped me. From grade 8-11 I was fine and thought i got over it. All of a sudden in the beginning of this year I started remembering things I forgot and it started affecting me. I started cutting again and it is always on my mind. I became really close to this new girl in my class, and she knows about it, so she and my best friend are the only people I can speak to. I actually can't handle it anymore. I break down almost every night because of new thoughts of the abuse. On my birthday in June, he messaged me to say happy birthday and that he regrets hurting me and I believe him. It sucks because I feel bad for him and miss the good side of him because he was like a dad to me. I just want to talk to him about it and just get closure, but I know my mom would never allow that.
Question is, why is this all coming back now and what do I do about it? I can't afford to go to a therapist and I don't want to tell my family about it.

You answered your own question when you said l "just get closure." Unfortunately talking to him will not get you the closure you need. As a dad 7 Uncle if I found out some one was sexually abusing my daughter or niece that person would be in jail. Your sister just divorcing him did not bring closure or any type of professional help for you in getting closure.

I'm going to suggest two things for you to do to get the closure you need.

First I would like you to contact an organization called RAINN. RAINN stands for Rape, Abuse, Incest National Network. Their number is 800-656-HOPE (4673). This number is answered 24/7 365 days a year with qualified councilors who will help you get the professional help you need and if you wish help you file sexual assault charges.

Second you need to stop cutting. By getting counseling you will stop cutting as you start to get closure. Until then when you feel like cutting do this instead. Get a big rubber band and let it hang from your wrist. When you feel like cutting snap the rubber band against your wrist. Doing this is safer, does not leave a scar and you will get the same satisfaction you get from cutting.

Pick up a phone and call RAINN now and consider filing charges against your former brother in-law. Do this not just for yourself but for his future victims. He did this to you he will do it to others and he belongs in jail.

You do not need parental permission at your age to contact the police. IF you would like help in doing so talk to a trusted teach or your school principal. They will help you make the police report.

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So this is my last year of high school and I'm not scared for it but I am scared of becoming an adult. I have super controlling parents that are really strict. I do hate my life a lot and I know a lot of people think that's just so typical of teenagers but I don't know. A lot of times I don't feel loved but alone. My dad acts like he loves me but he gets mad over the little things and yells. I feel emotionally abused and I don't know what to do. I want to enjoy my life when I am 18 but I don't have my papers such as social security, birth certificate,etc. I am scared to ask for the papers, and I know they won't let me move out because they're religious. I used to joke about it to my mom and she got so mad and told me never to joke about stupid stuff like that. I just want to enjoy my teenage years but they're all gone, I don't even go to school dances because my parents wouldn't allow me to hang out outside of our house, they allow me to bring my friend over but nothing else. I never experienced the high school life. I want to enjoy my life because I can't regain the 17 years I've missed. I don't even have money to move out, I am so impatient though I really need help and I don't know what to do when I graduate, I know I can't wait any longer and stay. Please help and give me good advice.

On the day of your 18th birthday you become a legal adult. Your parents can no longer legally tell you what to do or when to do things. OF course what they hold over you is the fact that you do not have the financial means to move out there for the old rule of; "You live under my roof you live by my rules"

The papers you speak of are yours to have and to hold especially you Social Security Card. There is no need to fight with your parents over these items as legal copies or replacements are easily gotten. Go online to SS.GOV to request a replacement Social Security Card. For your birth certificate contact Bureau of vital records for the state you where born in. A replacement copy can be obtained for a small fee.

Things that change when you turn 18.

1. Legally your parents can not open your mail or withhold it from you. To do so is a Federal Offence.

2. Your parents have no legal right to your medical records. Written permission to your doctors is required for parents to view or discuss your medical well being.

3. Your parents cannot make a medical appointment for you or force you to see a doctor for any reason.

4. You can legally remove a parents name from any joint bank account.

5. You have free will. Meaning you come and go as you please without curfew. Have a boyfriend to any extent you are comfortable with in a relationship,

6. you can apply for financial aid for any college of your choosing.

Your parents responsibility to you.

Legally once you turn 18 your parents are no longer responsible to feed, cloth or house you or your medical well being.

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So I’m a 13 year old girl and I got my period about 6 Months ago? ( not sure exactly when) And my period was starting to be predictable and then all of the sudden my period is 4 days late! I’m not sexually active (again, I’m 13) and I’m going on vacation with my dad and 4 step brothers in 3 days. Is it normal? When should I expect it again? Am I going to get it while I’m away??

I am not a female but I can answer your question. When entering puberty a females periods can be irregular or become irregular. Periods can stop altogether for several months or more. Female athletes can have their periods stop altogether if they train hard enough, which most do.

Just as important and may be why your period is late is anxiety and stress. Stress causes more late and missed periods then being pregnant. For many women stressing over being possibly pregnant can cause a missed period.

My advice is that you stop worrying about it for you know you are not pregnant to continue to do so will cause you to miss your period altogether. Talk to your mom or even your stepmom about this. Remember they were once your age and faced the same problems you will face.

My best guess is the anxiety or stress you are feeling has a lot to do about going on vacation with your three stepbrother.

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I never thought depression was REAL, or that people suffering from depression were weak... but now I feel it everyday. I do not feel any kind of hope for my or our country's (planet's) future. LONG list of disturbing atrocities by the human populace and by our governments. Selfish egotistical people with power and ignorant uneducated people pushing for entitlements instead of anyone honestly working. I don't know. I am ready for my life to end just don't want to hurt my family.

I have suffered with depression and it is not an easy illness to control or be cured from. I’m lucky in that I found the proper professionals to help me overcome my depression. One thing I learned while in treatment is our perception is off as the depression cause us to see things through the fog of depression causing thing to appear differently then they are.

I’m not saying that some of the things you feel is causing your depression are not real. Some are very real though they are beyond your control to correct. Control is an important part of depression for that which you cannot control causes anxiety, which causes real pain, which causes depression.

The best you can do is to accept what is beyond your control and to work at fixing what you can. How you do this with the help of professionals such as a psychologist and possibly a psychiatrist for medication and med monitoring. You start with a full physical, which is needed to rule out any organic cause for your depression. Ask your doctor to screen you for depression while you are having your physical. Then follow your doctors’ advice.

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Um so sick of my daughter I feel like I could live the rest of my days without seeing her face. Is this normal?

I would need more information as to why you feel this way. Depending on your reasoning your feelings could be perfectly normal.

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