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Does he not care anymore?
Hello,
Both 27
I'm thinking of moving away from him because I'm still heartbroken as we split up about few months ago and i'm still hung up on him. (he initiated the split up). I miss him and cried the other evening. we're still on good terms and in contact. see each other once a week. I don't think I should stay anywhere near him because I love him still now, my question is, I asked him if I should move in a friendly term he said, what, No, (with surprising face) he replied like that the first time. I asked him again days later, he said it's up to you. I guess he don't want me to but since he's not saying much, why would he say 'it's up to you?' does he not care or is he just saying this? I have a headache thinking of it. from deep down I know he still loves me even though we only dated for few months and sees me once a week. he has a gf and I don't want to date anyone at the present. however, I'm just terribly sad. I don't want anything from him instead I just want to know, what would he mean by it's up to you? when I asked him back what kind of reply is that, shall I move faraway from you he said, it's your life. am I being paranoid guys? do i sound pathetic loser? i'm just trying to understand the situation, thats all. i'm sorry
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He probably cares AS A FRIEND. But overall, honey he has a girlfriend now. Even with you telling him how you feel, he's not stupid he knows you love him, he's still staying with this girl. That's nothing on you, it just means that he isn't for you. That's hard...I know. But if you love the wrong person THIS much, imagine how much you're going to love the RIGHT person.
All my best,
Mary
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I agree with adviceman, the guy is interested in you and has moved on since you mention his new girlfriend. Seeing you once a week does not mean he loves you with the kind of love needed for a romantic relationship. there are many kinds of love including the love between parents and their children and between siblings and you don't love them romantically. There is friend love too. So even if he says I love you, it would mean as a friend now even though we were once a couple. Since this is bothering you, the ability to get over him, you need to cut him out of your life totally or it won't happen.
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At 27 you should be better at the game of life. His answers to you tell me he does not care what you do and it is not his problem to decide for you.
My suggestion is you break off all contact with him. He left you for a reason. Just because he still sees you once a week does not mean he loves you. Hopefully his once a week contact is not a friend with benefits contacts. He left you he is not entitled to having sex with you.
Breaking off all contact with him will benefit you for you will in one way or another see his true colors and value he places on your friendship. Do not just sit around pining for him. Get out and have fun. You can date others or just go out and have fun with a few of your girlfriends but he is not worth pining over.
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