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My mom is controlling
My mom constantly tries to control every aspect of my life. I'm a 13 year old girl and I'll just tell you about a few instances I have gotten into. Today my mom told me in an angry tone to wash my sheets when I only just washed them last week. I have never seen my twin brother or my mom wash their sheets yet they expect me to do mine every week. Another time I was out with my friends and I get an angry call saying that my mom couldn't find the remote and she claimed that I lost it, but I couldn't have lost it because I never use the remote, yet she is 100% sure that I am the one that lost it and she threatened that if I don't tell her where it is that she would come and get me and take away my phone for the next week. She also has a lock on my phone that takes away all of my apps and I usually can't use it unless it is for homework. We fight everyday and she is always angry. I can't wait until I can move out. Is there any way I can fix this? Or make her trust me more?
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I'm not going to make light of this for you but it is not unusual for girls your age and their mothers not to get along. It has a lot to do with puberty and the new hormones now surging through you. THese hormones, until you adjust to them, cause a problem with perception. Example the sheet problem. Most people do wash there sheets weekly it is just good hygiene to do so.The fact that you don't see your mom doing her sheets r your brothers does not mean she isn't doing them. The fact that she wants you to do your own sheets will be seen by many as good parenting. Teaching you things you will need to know as an adult. Controlling you cell phone usage is also seen by many as good parenting.
THe fact is you are 13 and for next 5 years you must live at home with your mom. When you turn 18 you may if you wish move out and there is nothing mom can say or do about it. For now though try seeing things as they are presented not as you think they are being presented. Try getting along with mom. Sit down with her and have a conversation. Talk about how you are a young lady, a teenager and that you have earned a bit more respect then she is giving you.
The object of the conversation is to get mom to remember what it was like to be 13 and needing more freedom. There is a fear factor here that all parents go through with their newly minted teeanagers. frank non yelling discussion will go a long way in getting the freedom you want and need to grow into an adult.
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