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Um... hi. I'm Holly, 17. Live in Denver but I'm from Virginia originally. I don't know what to say... haha. I like to hang out with my friends and such, watch TV and movies. I'm also into fitness and sports, and I'm one of those freaks that actually likes school. I also enjoy helping people out, which is why I'm here. I have advice on pretty much every topic, and I try to help in the best way I know how -- I'm not one for giving sarcastic answers to questions and such.

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my friend hooked up with this guy for the first time yesterday...he walked out of the room laughing 5 minutes after they went in and she locked herself in the bathroom...according to the guy...she didnt know how to french so he left her...is there anything i can tell her to make her feel better or any pointes i can give her...ive tried everything, but shes still devistated and i would like to know if theres anything else i can do....thanks!!!

Just tell her that the guy smells like ass, and he wasn't good enough for her anyway. Talk him down, and tell her that she's an awesome person. I don't know what her kissing problem was, so I can't really give any pointers... but if I were you, I'd just make sure your friend knows she's awesome in EVERY respect -- and who cares if the ass-smelling guy liked her, anyway?
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Hello im 13 and I got this HUGE crush on my step-dads friends son who came to TX for vacation. Hes 16 but were only 3 years apart when you think about it. It seems really far away now. Anyways he stayed over for a week and a half. We were hanging out watching TV, fishing, playing with the dogs thats stuff. And he just went back up to Cali. I fell in love with him and I cannot get him off my mind. I dream about him, think about him like a million times a day, ask my step-dad constantly when he'll visit again. Im in MAD love and I have no clue what to do.
How do I get him off my mind?

-Jessica

First of all, I doubt it's actually love. Probably more of an infatuation, you know what I mean? But if you believe you're in love with him, then that's fine.
Anyway, to be completely honest, I doubt this guy feels the same way for you as you do for him. You're a much-younger girl, and he's probably pretty practical and he knows that long-distance relationships rarely work, especially ones like the one you're hoping for. I know you really like this guy, and it sucks, but you're going to have to get over him. When you guys get older (much older), then you may be able to have a relationship. For right now, I'd say that you should try to get over it.
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okay this miht be a bit wierd but like wen ever i get my period i feel all wierd like its leaking thru my pants or something at skool and i really worry that it might be leaking! idk what to do? i mean if some one saw that there were blood stains on the back of my pants and especially if it was a guy i liked wat would i do? thats like sooo embarassing!
help!

First of all, not weird at all. I'm assuming you haven't had your period for a very long time, so it's probably a little bit new to you. If you want to be more comfortable, just try to use a great pad or a tampon (not sure which you use). If you want to be sure that no one can tell if you bleed through, wear dark pants and a jacket that covers up that general area. For the most part, though, you can tell if you're actually bleeding through, and so long as you catch it in time, it won't be noticeable -- you'll know it's there, but as long as you don't spread your legs or anything, no one will see it. You could also do what I do: rubber ducky. If you have a close female friend, make up a code word (mine's rubber ducky) and she'll look for you, without making it obvious. It sounds worse than it actually is -- hey, I'd rather my friend be like, "Hey, you have a rubber ducky problem," then have a guy go, "Ewww, you've got blood all over your pants!" If the aforementioned problem does occur, then I really don't know what to tell you, I'm sorry! I've never been in the situation before.
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i usally do arounf 100 sit-ups everyday( not at once, but like 20-20-20-20-20) and i was wondering, how long will it be untill i see resultes?!

It depends on if you're doing the situps correctly, and if you're doing them EVERY day. Any muscle you build will basically disappear if you don't work out for two days in a row. But anyway, if you're doing them correctly and daily, you should see results within a month or so. But if you don't continue with the exercise, even if you have the results you want, you will lose that muscle tissue.
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the past week my boyfriend and I got in a huge fight. now he thinks I'll be mad at him forever and never trust him again. he says I don't care about him anymore. so I want to buy/make something that shows AND tells that I care about him and I'll always be there no matter what. My friend said buy him a little teddy bear and attach a note in its hand saying "I'll always be there no matter what." I thought that was cute but I need more ideas. I don't want to go anywhere, I want to give him something. Keep it cheap. Also give me a cute little line to say. thanks.

Instead of buying him something, why don't you write him a letter? Tell him everything that's on his mind, and make sure he knows that you want to know what's on his mind too. Tell him you want to work things out, and hope for the best.
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Ok well, I`m on my period and I have to go on a boat Sat. Tampons are def. outta the question because I`ve tried them and they DO NOT work! Is there anything I can do?

Does the boat have a bathroom? If not, you're probably screwed. I'd suggest using a great pad. If I was in your situation, I'd use a tampon (to at least put your flow on hold for a while) as well as a pad (to control everything else). But if you're not into tampons, I guess you're screwed, dearie. Get a really great pad.
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my boyfriend of 7 months got drunk the other night and planned on hiding it from me. i found out from someone else who was there. my boyfriend always promised & swore that he would never drink and how stupid he was. he ended up getting drunk with his friend and when i found out, i gave my boyfriend soooo many chances to confess and tell me the truth and he didnt. later he finally admitted it and i was so outraged that i broke up with him and told him i never want to see him again, and i hung up. he hasnt tried to call me or fix things up. my friends called him and said he was crying and too afraid to talk to me. i dont want to call him first...but should i forgive him? he broke my trust.

Show up at his door, and ask him to talk. First, give him a chance to say everything he has to say -- apologies, whatever. Don't interrupt him. Then ask for his undivided, uninterrupted attention as you do the same. Tell him that you really care about him and that you didn't mean what you said. Tell him it really frustrated you that he lied to you (and yes, witholding the truth is the same as lying). But make sure he knows that you forgive him (I'm assuming you've forgiven him) and you're willing to give him another chance, as long as he's willing to give you one.
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hey...well i have a friend, well i should say bestfriend because i've known her since kindergarden and now we're going to be in 10th grade...we're totally drifing apart she seems to be getting newer friends to replace me and i dont know, i kinda miss her but sometimes she acts like shes better than me, it may be just me but thats how i feel so i think that shes just trying to make me jealous with all her new friends and she cant like, hang out with me anymore. we're totally different and we hang out with completly different groups so, its kinda hard since she doesnt really know my friends and i dont really know hers. i havent talked to her in forever and everytime we do like on the phone for example, its like really quiet and theres nothin much to talk about...what should i do? should i just move on and forget that we were ever friends?...it'll be really weird and hard because we still go to the same school and our parents and friends will be all confused why we dont really talk anymore...thanx and sry this was long...i rate...

Talk to your friend. Tell her that you feel as though the two of you are drifting apart, and you really don't like it. Let her know that you really want to continue being her friend, and you don't want to lose everything you've ever had. Find out whether she's stressing over it too, and try to work everything out -- maybe there's something that happened that caused her to start drifting away from you. If that's true (and this probably won't be the case), apologize for it -- even if you don't think you're in the wrong. Make sure she knows that you love her and consider her to be your best friend, and you don't want to lose your friendship. If it doesn't go the way you planned, continue trying (but not in a stalker-ish way). It's better to be acquaintances (which is what it sounds like you've turned into) than not be friends at all. If worse comes to worst, DON'T forget that you were ever friends. Try to get more close friends, but never forget the close relationship you had with her.
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Hullo

Just wondering, is it true that phones/cell phones can deepen the tone of your voice, especially a female one? Thanks.

Sometimes. Depending on the phone, it can make your voice sound different, but not extremely. Sometimes friends won't recognize your voice, for instance.
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okay so basically my mom is having a hissy fit because well i switched shifts with this one girl and now im opening (working 8-12) and shes all pissed off @ me because she "doesnt wanna wake up that early." and shes saying that all i do is think of myself... wow was i really thinking of myself because i thought i switched shifts with someone else to help THEM out .. ANYWAY - and i told her about one of my close friends parties on Sunday and she was thinking about it. UNTIL she realized that my brother is having his girlfriend eat dinner over for her birthday.. So what am i supposed to do?! the party is 7-11 and shes eating over at 8:30.

I'm assuming your mom is your ride to work, so you probably should have done the considerate thing and talked to her before you switched shifts with someone. While it IS your job and you're doing the work here, your mom is still involved. Apologize to her for not talking to her first, but tell her the deed is already done and you can't necessarily change it now. Tell her that in the future, if you'd like to switch shifts with someone, you'll discuss it with her first.
When it comes to party vs. dinner, I guess you have to do what your mom wants you to do. Your brother bringing home his girlfriend is a big thing, especially if it's her first time eating at your house. Your mom and your brother might want you to be there -- and who says the girl doesn't want to meet you? And anyway, don't you want to be there for the disastrous bringing-home-the-girlfriend meal? (Well, if she hasn't gone through all this already... just going on the information you gave me here.)
If you REALLY don't want to eat with the family on Sunday, talk to your mom about it -- this means a relatively mature and rational discussion. Let her know that this party means a lot to you and that you'd really like to go. If you want, you can promise her that you'll be there the next time your brother's girlfriend eats over. And don't back down on that promise.
If your mom still says no, you have to accept that. No sneaking out, no throwing fits -- otherwise, you'll be grounded and/or you won't be able to go to the next party your friend has. So keep your anger on the down-low, even if she says no.
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Male 16
This is a complicated situation heres the story.
My friend started going out with a girl who hooked me up with one of her friends its been about 3 months and then my gf dumped me but thats not the problem the problem is me and my friends girl have become good friends but now shes starting to really like me and i cant go out with my friends ex unless it was alright with him (if she dumped him for me) and i dont wanna lose a friend so i need to know if theres is anyone to become just friends with my mates girl without hurting her feelings and without ruining hers and my m8s relationship
Any Suggestions? im stuck

Well, there's a cardinal rule to dating and friendship here: you NEVER date a close friend's ex. It's really inconsiderate, and chances are you'll end up losing the friend and the girl over it. So don't do that.
First talk to your friend. Tell him that you've heard around that this girl likes you, and you don't want to date her. But tell him that maybe he needs to have a talk with her about it, and see where she stands. Make sure he knows that you don't want to ruin his relationship, and you think that the two of them make a great couple.
Then, talk to the girl and tell her that you think she's great and all, but you don't want to break your moral values by dating her. Tell her that if she was planning some stunt (like dumping her guy for you), then she should probably think twice about it first, because you're not gonna do it. Tell her she's got a great thing going for her and that your friend's one of the coolest people you know, and let her know that if she ruins that relationship, she may never find another one like it.
If all goes well, the girl's going to look at you and say, "Dude, I never liked you anyway, you asshole." And you'll feel dumb but otherwise, no harm done. =)
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Well, I have been VERY depressed lately about different things. My dad makes me really mad. I'm tired of being depressed. I can't get to sleep at night. I hate it. My best friend is wonderful and she tries to help me. But nothing works. EVER! I feel so bad because she tries her best. I love her so much for helping me. I'm just.. I don't know. I'm always sad. I need help. And I can't afford some REAL help, if you know what I mean. SO.. Does anyone have any advice?? I will rate 4s and 5s!!

It sounds to me like you need to seek professional help. No, that doesn't mean that you need to be on medication. Look, friends are great, and they can really help out sometimes. I'm sure your best friend has the best intentions for you, but she simply can't give you the same help that a licensed professional can. Talk to your parents (your mom, preferably, since you're not on great terms with your dad). Make it known that you're really feeling depressed and it's affecting your sleep. Is it affecting anything else -- eating, your other friendships, relationship with your boyfriend (if you have one), et cetera? Tell them everything, and ask that they send you to a psychiatrist. It seems to me like that's your best bet.
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ok well me and this girl...lets call her cindy...are friends i guess but if we're around certain people she ignores me and acts like i'm not even there but if its just us then shes nice to me and we act like friends....so i don't get it are me and cindy friends or not?

I think you and Cindy should be the judges of that. Talk to her and ask her what the deal is. It seems to me like she's only using you as a fallback -- someone to hang out with when there's no one else. If you feel that way too, then tell her that. Find out why she acts differently toward you when you're with other people. Make sure she knows that you'd like to be her friend (if that's true) but you're not going to stay in the situation if you're being used.
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My boyfriend and I have been having sex since late June. Last night he asked me if i got it yet ( i got it june 30th, after we first started to) and i said no but im not worried about it im going to wait a few days because my comes so randomly. and it never comes on the same date. he is yelling at me about he knows he asked girls, but i think i know mmy fuckin period and a bunch of girls periods come different times and late. he is really stressing me out, should i go to a clinic to see or buy a test now?

You know your body better than anyone else in the world, and you know how your menstrual cycle works. You, for one, are not stressing about the possibility of a pregnancy. However, your guy is. I think that the considerate and sensible thing to do in this situation is to go ahead and buy a pregnancy test, just to make sure. It may not be what you want to do; however, it seems to make more sense to me.
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How do you get rid of blackheads? The strips don't really work for me..does anyone actually know what will work? Please don't just give me a product you saw on a commercial or something..Thanks..I rate high!!

Try St. Ive's Apricot Scrub. I started using it almost two years ago and I've only had one blackhead since then -- and that was when I went on a camping trip and forgot the scrub!
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okay im 14,female, i have braces,and i still suck my thumb, i need mucho help! like BAD i need tips. every time i try to stop i just can't its addicting. none of my friends know i do it. please HELP =) thanks ♥♥♥

Try sticking your thumb in nail polish remover. It tastes horrible, trust me -- I used to have the same problem!
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Hi does anyone have any good tips or know any websites on how to style wavey/curley hair without using a curling iron or a diffuser.

Thanks will rate high for good answers.

I use a really cheap mousse that I bought at the dollar store. You can also try Suave mousse. Brush through your hair after a shower, then flip your head upside down and run the mousse through. Then I part it in the middle, and spray some hair spray. It works for me, gives me a whole lot of curl.
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i have scars from acne on my forehead, i was wondering what can i use to have to scars fade awayy? any help?

Try that Mederma scar ointment... it worked on the scars my cousin got from having her appendix removed.
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Is it weird to give a boy a poem in a frame to say goodbye?
If so how else can i give him the poem or somethign else to say goodbye? Something he will remember me by.
Thanx i need answers quick
~Mo

I think that if he's the poetry-reading type, he'll love the thoughtful and creative gift. I personally love the idea!
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School's about to start, and I don't really want to carry a backpack around all the time this year. I was wondering if anyone knows where to get those cute shoulder bags that are rectangle-squarish? They have really cute Coach ones, but I'm on a low-budget.

You're talking about a messenger bag. They sell them everywhere nowadays. You should try stores like Target and Kohl's. If you're more of a mall-shopper, they may have them at Old Navy and such. Also, LL Bean has some great ones!
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