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Complicated situation
Male 16
This is a complicated situation heres the story.
My friend started going out with a girl who hooked me up with one of her friends its been about 3 months and then my gf dumped me but thats not the problem the problem is me and my friends girl have become good friends but now shes starting to really like me and i cant go out with my friends ex unless it was alright with him (if she dumped him for me) and i dont wanna lose a friend so i need to know if theres is anyone to become just friends with my mates girl without hurting her feelings and without ruining hers and my m8s relationship
Any Suggestions? im stuck
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Well, there's a cardinal rule to dating and friendship here: you NEVER date a close friend's ex. It's really inconsiderate, and chances are you'll end up losing the friend and the girl over it. So don't do that.
First talk to your friend. Tell him that you've heard around that this girl likes you, and you don't want to date her. But tell him that maybe he needs to have a talk with her about it, and see where she stands. Make sure he knows that you don't want to ruin his relationship, and you think that the two of them make a great couple.
Then, talk to the girl and tell her that you think she's great and all, but you don't want to break your moral values by dating her. Tell her that if she was planning some stunt (like dumping her guy for you), then she should probably think twice about it first, because you're not gonna do it. Tell her she's got a great thing going for her and that your friend's one of the coolest people you know, and let her know that if she ruins that relationship, she may never find another one like it.
If all goes well, the girl's going to look at you and say, "Dude, I never liked you anyway, you asshole." And you'll feel dumb but otherwise, no harm done. =)
♥ Hope I helped.
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Well maybe you should wait and see if she really likes you and if she does just let her know that you want to be friends unless you want to go out with her then you should talk to your friend about it and see what he thinks about it. If your friend doesn't agree with you on that then you have to decide whats more important your friend or the girl.
Hope I Helped :)
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ok well i think you and your friend gf can onli be friends. it will b wrong if ya hoop up after they break up. if they break up talk to him about u n his ex still being friends.
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Um yes there is. All you got to do is just say look I'm a great friend and I know this because I don't go out with my bestfriends ex girlfriend. (Trust me chicks are the same way we tell our friends to not go out with our ex's or something) Sometimes it works out sometimes it doesnt. But yeah if you really like her. (Telling you this because you didn't make that clear if you liked her or not) Then I think you should tell your bestfriend that you have feelings for his ex and see how he takes it. I'm just like you I don't want to lose any friends because of a boyfriend or whatever. If he totally loses it then just tell the girl that you would just rather be friends. If she doesn't take it well screw it. Hope I helped! Even though I'm pretty sure I didn't sorry.
Buh Bye,
ShanN*<3*
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Talk to your friend and tell his girl that you need to talk to them both.. ♥ Dez
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You need to explain to her that you two can't be together, and if she can't just be friends with you when she's with your friend, then she needs to stay away.
<b>♥</b> Melissa
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I had the same situation like this in my life before. And my friend really hated me because her boyfriend liked me. All I did back in the past was avoiding him, but it did not work. So I just told him that I just wanted to be friends, and that's all. It means that all you can do for now is to tell her that you don't wanna to go out with her, well... actually.... tell her the truth!! She needs to know that... You should tell her before you'll hurt everybody's feelings, I think.
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well... Let's see... I think I've been in this situation before. but... truthfully... you need to be completely honest with her... You need to tell her exactly how you feel... Basically tell her what you just wrote here... Honesty is the first thing which should come before anything... So basically what Im telling you to tell her... Is that... You'd rather just stay friends with her... That you believe maybe in the long run... going out... might ruin your guys friendship... and that you dont want to lose your friendship with your guy friend... and that you wouldnt date one of your good friends girlfriends.... Alot of people are like that.... Truthfully... It's a good way to be... =)
Hope This Helps :/ Good Luck
**Jackie**
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