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Alright. How old do you have to be to get an abortion? I know that you can get it done at any age, but do you have to have a parent with you or can you have an adult 18 or older?

I'm 14. I'm not sure if I'm pregnant or anything. Just incase. And I don't really need you to tell me that I'm a slut, skank, or whore because I had sex with my boyfriend of a 1/2 year. I would like someone that has had an abortion to answer this question, if that's possible.

Thanks alot,& I rate.

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Well, i'm 14 too and i can tell you a think or two. Hun you don't have to have your parens be wit your to do a abortion. I for one believe in them. I strongly think there good cause a baby wit freak your life up in minutes and your whole life will be crushed, basically. so go for it just go to a clinic where no one knows u and tell the doctor to not phone or tell your parents. If he says anything to them it's against the law and violates your privacy and personal business and you can sue (good to know)!!

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Okey, well, I don't know if I like this guy or not. But well, this guy is my best friend. He likes me since he was in 2nd grade, and now he's in middle school. It's been a long time!! Then, this year, I'm moving to another country, and he's like sad and thinks that he doesn't have any chance to be with me anymore. And now, I've heard about him alot from my friend that he likes another girl, and I'm kinda jealous to that girl. And two weeks ago, I called and asked him about that girl. I don't know what to do. I really want to ask him, if he still likes me or not. That's the only thing I want to know from him , but I don't know how to ask him that question. And also, my sister always says "You like him", but I always say "no, I don't!" Then she would say like, "You always say NO, but you really like him, I can tell!" And I try and try to make her thinks that I don't like that guy. So, do you think that I like him or not, and give me some advice about how to ask him if he still likes me or not. Thank You..

Well i'm in sort of the same situation. If he's your best friend ask him like a friend would. Start a conversation saying i heard this.... Then it won't be just cause your curious. Then if he asked why tell him the truth in person or over the phone. No email or telegram. Either face to face or ear to ear is best. Share your feelings because years from now or sooner your going to feel a what if coming on. We both don't want that. First tell your self out loud that you like him. Cause if you can't even tell your sister how the hell are you gonna tell him man. say in the mirror i like him (his real name). Over and over until you can say it to your sister or a friend and then if you feel comfortable enough you tel him. Be strong, hun! HOPE I HELPED!

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well im 16 and im a gurl and im still a virgin in every way but what i want to know is ,is ok to masterbate and when you have sex for the first time does it hurt also when you masterbate does it feel different when you acually have sex or does the pleasure feel the same please help iam i disuging or normal

Yes it's perfectly fine to masterbate it's a very good feeling if you pleasure yourself right. I do it and i feel it's a good feeling to me. It does sting a bit and some blood comes out (just a little drop, no big). If it's with the right person at the right time or at least with the guy you wanna get down wit it won't feel that bad. Nore it's more of a sting, but a sexual sting. Now if you do it right it can feel really good at the point where you feel you have to go to the bathroom, but not exactly that kind of feeling. Just a sexual one. See what you do is with your finger you can feel the top with the hard ridges at the top rub back and fourth. Look it up on the internet they give you many ways to pleasure yourself. No your touch and someone elses touch is completly different things, trust me i know! HOPE I HELPED!

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when is the easiest time to get pregnant? okay i know this is going to sound really wrong but i really really really want a baby and my boyfriend have sex frequently without a condom but he pulls out because he hates kids, is there any way to make it easier to get pregnant? and i kno alot of people are going to think what im saying is really messed up so plase only comment back with advice not ridicule, im not expecting him to marry me or even take part in this i just am wondering...thanks

Don't do it. Buy sperm if you don't want the sex and just the sperm. What if you do get pregnant what's that going to do to him. You have to consider his feelings about it. Even though he probably hates kids he will still think of the responsible that he just created with you. I don't think in his life even if you take full custody of the baby he'll still know he has either a son or daughter out there that he made and is not taking care of by him. Don't put that pressure on him if you want a baby so bad look for a donater or sperm bank because those men can handle the responsibility of a kid out there that's theirs. Ask him first and really talk to him to see how you both feel together and see what level you guys are on with each other. First of all advice me back because I want to know your ages and see if you are ready for it educationaly, mentally, and money wise! Hope i helped!!

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okay well me and my friend *alexandra have been getting close lately because ive like been giving her massages and shes been like tickling my arm and all of the sudden the other day we were sitting there and we just kissed, and now everytime i seee her we go up in my room and like make out.. the only thing is IM a girl, and im scared.. but i reallly like her and i was wondering if any of you guys know anything i could say like hey you want to play this game and have it be something that we can both enjoy some what sexually? sorry if your grossed out but im scared and i really want to satisfy her. thanks..

Girl it's great that you can satisfy this girl you like. It's great that you'll actually doing something about it. Well you guys could try this games.... 1.Like you two french kiss or whatever and you can't touch each other with your hands, like rub her hips, face, feet, arm, etc. 2.Go to virtualKiss.com and they have kissing games for groups and couples. 3.Try showing each other your below vagina if you wanna take it that far. See who can eat each other out the longest. 4.Do 69 or role play. Like you be the school teacher and she be the student and get dressed up for it. 5.Go in the shower and wash each other. 6.Just look on the internet for ideas it helps. Don't be scared because you and her just brought a new thing towards each other and you shouldn't tease her by just making out when you feel comfortable like in 5 weeks you feel comfortable, but she was wanted you almost everyday. Talk to each other and let each other know your comfort level. This will be fun I promise you if you loosen up and don't care about what other people think about you two. That will make you pariniod because your scared and her frustrated because she really is comfortable with it and enjoys it. Okay, hope i helped!! need any more advice talk to me!!

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my 12 year old friend is wondering again when you pregnet is you stomic all hard or can it be jiggily like fat to?~?~?!~!~

both hard is either gas, baby pressure, or contraction. Fat is just the baby is far back or there is no baby, but stomach.

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Hi im a 17/f. Im not that out going but my best friend is a very social person. She introduced me to her Older brother who is in collage. My best friend invited me to stay the night at her house. while i was there it turned out that her older brother was throwing a crazy frat party at there house whle there parents were away. Later that night after partying for awhile my friends older borther came up to me and asked if i wanted to dance. after a while he said he needed to talk to me in private. Wwe went up to his room and started talking for a while. he said how he really liked me and how he didnt care how i was 17 and he is 21. by that point i could tell he was drunk. i said "i'll be right bak" not meaning to return. i walked out of the room and went down stairs and started dancng again. about 15 minutes later he came down and said we needed to talk again. so i went along with it. when i walked in first he locked the door pushed me down on the bed and started rapeing me. now im 5 months pregnant and im supposed to be heading off to collage ona full scholorship. i really want to keep my child but it will be hard to go to school and keep a child. my parents dont want anything to do ith me so they wont help out. what should i do. keep my baby and skip out on Yale or give the baby up for adoption and go to Yale? im so confused please help!!!!!!!!

Here it is, your smart and ready for a great life ahead of you and here's this asshole comes in and fucks it all up. Dear i ask you don't you have any relatives other than your mom and dad like grandma or grandpa. Maybe an aunt or uncle to help you. Don't drop Yale not one bit of this is your fault. You still have time to make your life great. I'm wondering did you tell your parents how you got the baby? Maybe by a rape by a 21 year old man with you as a minor. If you didn't speak the fuck up then say something now. Your parents are probably pissed bc your smart and have a full scholarship why mess your future up. Don't have your parents think that bad about you. What ever you do don't go to a community college or drop Yale. It's so hard to get into Yale for alot of people and for the future your about to have you need it desperatly. You don't wanna look back on your life and say i could have done that and these if this wouldn't have happened. Go for the goal, hun. If you didn't tell your best friend you need to tell her seriously and if she's a good friend she can help you and so can her parents. Let the damn court get in this you have just been vilated in so many levels. Get what you rightly deserve! I promise you'll feel better afterwards. Try to get more help like the people you know and if you try almost to the tip of everything and if you went to all these programs and stuff for girls like you so they can help you and that still doesn't work then go for adoption. Make sure to get open adoption to be connected to your child always and let the baby know who's Mommy. Don't feel ashamed and hate yourself you didn't do a damn thing and God will always love. Don't put so much stress on yourself be strong sweety. This happened to my family a few times and we solved it and the bad guy got what he deserved (PRISON). Not anyone should have any regrets and you shouldn't either cause that bastard can't control himself. If anyone blames you, you know in your heart it isn't near to being your fault.You'll be fine. God bless and if anything else go down you can talk at me for any help.

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i ahve only made out wiht a guy 1. i want to experminent wiht my best friend...im afarid that if i makeout wiht some guy it would be worng and he will laugh and i dont want that to happen...i just dont kno how to bring it up.....were both 13 and known each other for the longest time about 5years i dont kno what to do?

pleaz help ...ill rate high!

Try it, it maybe fun. I did it with my best friend at 13 years old. It's great to do. But make sure he's not a dog and you can trust him.

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There is this guy "friend" of mine that I met last year. After a while we were fully aquainted, we started hanging out. I really think he likes me because he has always treated me with respect and kindness. I went to his house the other day, and we started "fooling around". Now he wants to have sex, not as partners, but as friends. He said that this is not considered being a slut or anything because we are friends. Is this true? I really like him. I just got over a really bad situation with the last person I was with. Please help me.



*~!Ayla!~* ( I am only 13, and I'm a girl )

No hun, don't even go for it. I'm with my best friend and she's a girl and wants to do the same thing as "FRIENDS." She's so confused it's not even funny. Don't put yourself in that bind. I'm 14 and i feel your craving for it, but i wouldn't go for it. There may be a bad after effect!

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How old do you think you should be when you lose your virginity?

Be think it's great to lose it at 18, but i say whenever your ready and no rumors can be spread. Do it with a person you would absolutly trust and they trust you.

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I'm very shy and quiet, and I not a geek or anything but I'm not exactly popular either. There's this guy that I think might like me.. but he is really popular and outgoing, so I'm not sure if he really does like me or if it's just my imagination. Is it possible for a popular, outgoing guy to like a shy, not-so-popular girl? What are the chances? I don't know what to do because of my uncertainty.. should I flirt back or not?? Thanks in advance!! :-)

Well, dear i think if your attractive, witty and smart you'll get him. I'm not certain, but just act like your flirting, but don't let everyone else know your interested in him. Be a sort of a mysterious flirt, but don't be weird though. Don't do that stupid girly stuff. Act like a strong, but witty girl around him. This may change yourself as well in a positive way to give you more confidence in yourself. I used to be quiet like you and people tried to push me around 'til i got to a certain age and finally realized i have to have fun with it all. Don't act like you don't have any common sense because when i started to act outgoing more people noticed me for it and i felt more happier too, but i didn't act stupid though. Make yourself stick out from all the other girls and don't try to like all the things he likes that hardly ever works. If you guys have a few things in common work with that. Be yourself but with a better self-a-steem and you'll probably get him. Don't forget try to talk to the boy, observe him at first and then you start talking to him about meaningful things. I asure you if you act this way you'll probably get a few more guys looking your way. They did with me!! Good luck and hope i helped!!!

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*sorry this is so long but i really need help!* okay so my best friend has been with this one guy *bob for like 5 months. they never stop fitin n im always in b/w it! c *bob hated me for the longest time and he wud always start fites with my friend and tell her how she shudnt be friends with me... well she didnt listen but she also never stuck up for me! but dont worry im over that now! but just recently they broke up and fought every day since and then yesterday they got back together and broke up last nite. the problem is me and *bob put all of our feelings of hate aside and now we are friends! im really glad we dont fight anymore but now its causing problems with my friend! she always wanted us to be friends but now wenever we talk she usually comes up in the convo bc *bob still loves her! i feel really bad and idk wat to do! so my friend says she hates him and he makes her sick and stuff... but she still talks to him! (??idk y??) so now hes askin me to tell her that hes sorry and all this stuff and shes asking me wat to do! ive been in b/w all of their fites for 5 months and i really dont want to be involved anymore! i tried to tell my friend this but she doesnt listen and juss got mad at me... so my question is... do i help her? or do i try to stay out of it? please help me!

Stay the hell up out of that. Just be there for a support and listen person. Give a few opinions that's all!! That's a fucked up situation and if you got in the middle of that you would end up with no friends. Watch out and just be a support system for now!!!

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there is this kid in my grade that likes me, the only problem is that he is a total geek and i don't even like him as a friend (not because he is a geek though, because he is annoying)
Now he told everyone that he IS stalking me and that he likes me!
what should i do without hurting his feelings?

If he likes you and cares about you go up to him and tell him that he's hurting you and that it's scaring you what he's doing. I'm sure when you tell him that he'll think he's hurt his "Queen" and stop. But then he'll try to be buddy, buddy with you. Just be as nice as you can because remember everyone likes a girl with a good heart. Hope i helped!!

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My boyfriend like to fidle around with my chest, and oh do I not mind, I think it is pleasureable and feels incredible, but he also will ask me to touch myself like he does. The thing is, I don't mind touching my breats like that, I like the feeling of me touching them and it kind of turns me on. Is this weird or wrong?

Girl, it's definitly not weird or wrong at all. That just means your hormones work really really well. Have fun with it. Don't worry about it as long as you guys us protection you can get ya freak on!!! Hope i helped!!!

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Ok.. im goin to be a godmother... and... i have no clue what to wear!! its in the middle of may and the baptisim is gonna be in Atlanta Georgia! i am 13 years old.. almost 14.
Thanks!

Okay, you should wear a nice light colorful dress. The dress should be heavy fabric, but a light sun dress with a little sweater or jacket because it could be cold in the church. Make sure the jacket and sun dress aren't connected. If it's too hot your going to burn up. Be sure to wear your hear up in a cute style too. Congratulations on the baptism and being a godmother i'm a proud auntie of a cute little boy 8 months and 4 days!! Hopr i helped too!!

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Me and my boyfriend did it on the 11th (i remember because i went to my friends party afterward). The first time we did it we used protection then we took a break and did it again but didn't use protection bc we didn't have any and I know that was stupid of me. The second time we only did it for about 5-10mins. A week or so passed and I took a test to see if I was pregnant, I wasn't. On the 25th I was suppose to have my period which didn't happen. Should I be worried or whats going on plez help I can't ask my parents bc they'll never look at me again.

Dear don't panick but you might be screwed hun! You shouldn't have not use protection. You should be on birth control and why the heck are ya'll fucking like it's the end of the world or something. Why can't ya'll been with each other standing on two feet for a while. If you find out your not pregnant first, thank God you aren't them quit screwing your bf for a little bit and see how he will act toward you when you don't give up the booty for a while. I seems to me all ya'll do is screw. I agree with "i need help now" advice colmnist that you do think like a 6 year old on benodryl. You should be a shamed. But if you are pregnant i give my heartache for all that crap your about to deal with for "HAVING FUN!"

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i'm like way too young (in my opinion) 13/f to have sex. my hormones are rageing though how do i satisfy them, should i turn to mastrubating? i do not want to have sex i just want to feel like i'm not thinking about doing it all the time... does anyone have advice on
1-how to resist sex
2-how to mastrubate

please respond *rate high*

It's the same about me too. I'm 14 and a female. I couldn't handle it so i had sex with my really close best friend,(which is a girl). It wasn't bad but if you don't want to do that just hang on and masturbate a little to get a little tension off. Other than that just don't have sex if your not really ready or confident in yourself. Hope i really hoped!!

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I am 13, I live in The Conroe area in Texas and I am very sexually active. It seems as if all my guy friends preasure me to do it. Like my friend Kellen... he always pushes himself up on me and I try to say NO but he does it anyways... once we start It doesn't really bother me.. but I really wanta stop!! and every1 asks me if I like Kellen or if we did have sex I always try to deny it cause I don't know what to do... Kellen's friedn Andy, always trys to have sex with me too! but I don't know! I don't want it to happen! what can I do to get them to stop? PLEASE help me!

Stop! before you mess around and get pregnant. If you don't wanna stop make sure you use PROTECTION PLEASE!! I beg you, i'm happy for you that you can get some booty. Because i'm 14 and i haven't had a formal boyfriend or girlfriend yet.Another reason to stop is because this could turn into a really bad friend fight and you could be the one that is caught in the middle and all of a sudden you blamed and have no friends.Hope i helped

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i'm 15/f. i was at my aunt/uncles house today. me & my cousin were in the basement. her dad came down to look at his cellphone, then went back upstairs. once he left, my cousin said "i think my dad is having an affair." she opened up the text messages on his cell & they were from the same woman. they said "yeah what we're doing is so wrong i hope no one finds out" etc. my aunt & uncle have always had marriage problems, but as of now, me and my cousin are the only ones who knows about his affair. I asked my cousin if she's going to tell her mom and she said "NO WAY I'LL GET IN SO MUCH TROUBLE FOR LOOKING THRU HIS PHONE AND I DON'T WANT TO CAUSE ANY PROBLEMS!" She doesnt seem to care tho, but i'm so freaked out and my question is, what should i do, (should i do anything at all...?)

Forget about those other stupid advice people. You should sing like a humming bird. Tell your parents because think of it your aunt is getting cheated on and she needs to know what kind of husband she's got. Think of it for real why would God show you the wrong that is going on in their life if you can't help or have a say. Remember if someone is doing something wrong and hurting another person someone is always being watched. Your the person that saw so if you don't tell your parents then you'll just be hurting your aunt. Besides your Aunt is trying to work out her marriage out and your dirty uncle did the worst and hurt your aunt and cheated. This won't be a one time thing he would cheat again if the woman he was with didn't say what their doing is wrong on the text message. Please go with my advice it's the best you can go with. Hope i helped!!

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14/f
I'm a Christian so I want to be a virgin till I'm married, but lately it's been real hard to stay that way. I'm letting my hormones make me too curious. (I've never actually even seen a penis before.) I get really horny a lot and sometimes I ever masturbate to get over it. I'm way too young to have sex but lately I've wanted to give a handjob or even get laid. How can I keep motivated to stay a virgin? I know I'm not ready for sex.

Girl, i'm 14 and a female believe me it's happen to me that i've masturbated a lot too. I don't like to masturbate because i feel it's nasty and lonely feeling. So me and my best friend, she's a girl too, we decided to relieve ourselves from some of our curiousity. We didn't have sex, but we experimented above the belt. Best believe me that i have been much happier since then. I would advise you honey please don't wait until you get married to get it on because what if you get that special guy and get married, but there's only one thing wrong. He's not good in bed. As a woman we can be picky so your dreams will be unfulfilled and you will have trouble in the marriage! Sorry to tell you this hun, but it's the truth. My aunt was just like you she wanted to wait 'til marriage then she found out on the wedding night he wasn't all that in bed. He sucked big time. They ended up in a divorce. I don't think you want to commit a sin by breaking a marriage just because the sex wasn't to your exspectations. So i would advise you to have sex with a person you care about at a reasonable age like 19 or 21 or when your ready before marriage. The guy soes not have to be in love with you pursay, just you guys really like each other. Trust me you'll thank me in the long run. By the way me being with my best friend made all those desires controllable. Please don't become a nun over this because that would mean you would be hiding yourself from the world and that would be pitiful!! There are other ways out(except death of course!) Hope i helped.

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