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Affair.
i'm 15/f. i was at my aunt/uncles house today. me & my cousin were in the basement. her dad came down to look at his cellphone, then went back upstairs. once he left, my cousin said "i think my dad is having an affair." she opened up the text messages on his cell & they were from the same woman. they said "yeah what we're doing is so wrong i hope no one finds out" etc. my aunt & uncle have always had marriage problems, but as of now, me and my cousin are the only ones who knows about his affair. I asked my cousin if she's going to tell her mom and she said "NO WAY I'LL GET IN SO MUCH TROUBLE FOR LOOKING THRU HIS PHONE AND I DON'T WANT TO CAUSE ANY PROBLEMS!" She doesnt seem to care tho, but i'm so freaked out and my question is, what should i do, (should i do anything at all...?)
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when yoor dad is not around tell her mom yoo gotta she needs too no!!!
x3 grace x3
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Tell your parents or talk to your aunt yourself. I mean, would you like to be ran around on? I know if I told my daughter not to be looking on her fathers phone, and she did and found out that my husband was cheating on me... I'd wouldn't be mad at my daughter persay...I'd be mad at my husband. I would not want to live in a lie. Would you? Tell your aunt...because you don't want this to go on forever and her to be totally clueless.
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Talk to YOUR parents. Maybe they can find some way to keep it clean yet honest.
I hope I helped.
Good Luck
`jessie
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Well you should tell someone in your family or even straight to your aunt and uncle..they shouldnt get mad because u care for them! even tell them that your scared of anything to happen and all..but you should tell someone before sometthing bad really happens
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Tell your aunt... she has a right to know!
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Forget about those other stupid advice people. You should sing like a humming bird. Tell your parents because think of it your aunt is getting cheated on and she needs to know what kind of husband she's got. Think of it for real why would God show you the wrong that is going on in their life if you can't help or have a say. Remember if someone is doing something wrong and hurting another person someone is always being watched. Your the person that saw so if you don't tell your parents then you'll just be hurting your aunt. Besides your Aunt is trying to work out her marriage out and your dirty uncle did the worst and hurt your aunt and cheated. This won't be a one time thing he would cheat again if the woman he was with didn't say what their doing is wrong on the text message. Please go with my advice it's the best you can go with. Hope i helped!!
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Do nothing.It would only hurt your aunt.She will find out on her own (may already suspect, womens intuition is amazing) Or she won't. Maybe it will just end and she never has to know.
I know it's a terrible thing but you really have to leave it alone.
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No, you shouldn't do anything at all. I know that that is your family, but this is not your place, nor is it your business to tell on your uncle. <b>What is done in the dark will eventually come to the light.</b> Your uncle could be having an affair, and if so, one day your aunt will find out. But that is something that she will have to do on her own. If you tell on your uncle, then you could risk him, or your aunt, or even both of them being mad at you. Not to mention your cousin. I know it may be hard, but this is one secret you will have to keep secret.
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It's really not your place to say anything in my opinion.. But what your uncle doing is really wrong, if he was having problems with the marriage and wanted to be with someone else he'd do the right thing and get a divorce. I think if your aunt is smart she will figure it out, I mean.. you guys figured it out.. so I think she would..
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You should get your cousin to drop hints, but not be to obvious. Like, have you cousin leave her dads cellphone on, so you can see the messages, in a room that her aunt would walk into. If she figured it out by herself, you won't be to blame.
But, however, make sure you're aboslutely positive first. You don't want your aunt and uncles relationsip to be traumatized because you made a mistake.
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First off, make sure you're not jumping to conclusions. Really it's more of your cousins business but your's. But if you are postive that he is having an affair, your aunt needs to know. She might get hurt but it's better for her to know that to be keeping it from her. If you don't say something, you'll have this big secret on your conscience. In my opinion you should tell her and save her from a lot of pain now. She has to find out eventually. Or if you think your cousin will get mad and think your trying to break up the family or something try to persuade your cousin to tell her mom.
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--its none of your business. you found out by sneaking around and going thru his phone...it is not your place to say ANYTHING...thats grown folks business...believe me...he's digging his own grave...and any woman worth her salt knows her man is cheating when he's messing around. trust that.
you dont want your aunt finding out from you--the first thing a woman thinks when she hears her man is screwing around is...ohno not MY MAN. SHE MAY EVEN GET ANGRY WITH YOU...SO STAY OUT OF IT. Pretend you didnt hear anything and go about your business.
love ya
Louise
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from my pint of view i would becuz even if you that friends friend i would still want to save her aunt by getting hurt by this man. I hope you just follow your heart and do what it tells you to do! i really hope i kind of helped this is one is tough question becasue your scared and yes i would be scared to.! -liz-
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i think its your desicion but if it involves hurting your aunt then i think you should tell your mom or dad about it so they can sort it out with your aunt im sorry to hear about that and i hope i helped feedback please
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You should try to convince your cousin to tell her mother. Her mom would probably want to know, right?
I found out my one of my parents were having an affair when I was 8. I kept it a secret and it got worse and worse as the years went by. I got depressed and somehow the truth came out and things got better. My family is kind of broken now, but at least we're not living a lie anymore.
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Tell your friend that it doesnt matter about looking through the phone, it matters about the messages she read. Just tell her that this is your MOM and she deserves to know!! That is horrible, convince her to tell...or somehow have his cell phone open with all the text's or one of them...and have her mom "accidently" see it!
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That's a really tough question. What you should do, is put yourself in her position. Would you want to know if your husband was having an affair? xO ali
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