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My eigth grade graduation (semi) is coming up & Im freaking out because its in June but Im not ready like my friends are. So, I have two q's ..1st is where can i find a cute inexpensive dress website besides Gojane.com? Also, I want to sing a song at the ceremony but I dont know what ..PLEASE dont say Graduation by vitamin C. thanks (link)
Go to DEB or somthing like that. Thats what I was going to say. I don't think that there are really any other songs for that type of thing. Sorry.


my sis' sweet 16 is coming up and my mom and i wanted to surprise her with a few things. im gonna make a powerpoint about her thru the years but i need to find a song about friends. i cant find any that really "work". me and my sis always fight but i wanna do sumthing nice cuz its a special occasion. ne1 no of any songs about friends? (link)
Lovers & Friends...by Usher, Lil John, & Ludacris

Graduation Song...you should play that one for ehr graduation though...it's by Vitamin C


Hi, im 14/ m and I just want to know what to do about me and my girlfriend, we have been going out for a year now and were across states. We always talk on the phone and we have gotten really close. But I am just wondering if when me and my girlfriend meet, Im worried that she will push me away. And Im afarid of that, does anyone halft to say anything about this...? (link)
I'm going through the same thing except we live in the same state and still haven't met...I need help to...anyone want to take a stab...its my b/f!!!


Hi, im 14/ m and I just want to know what to do about me and my girlfriend, we have been going out for a year now and were across states. We always talk on the phone and we have gotten really close. But I am just wondering if when me and my girlfriend meet, Im worried that she will push me away. And Im afarid of that, does anyone halft to say anything about this...? (link)
I'm going through the same thing except we live in the same state and still haven't met...I need help to...anyone want to take a stab...its my b/f!!!


im in senior yaer in school and we all signed our uniform last week,it hit me that were not gonna be together anyomore,im so scared bout the future and i dont want to lose conatct wiv my mates.the way im feeling is it immature or does everyone feel like this at this time? (link)
I think everyone feels the same. It's normal because you realize that you're not goin g to be with the same people anymore. This feeling should go away about 2 months (fully go away) after college starts.


i'm 15/f. i was at my aunt/uncles house today. me & my cousin were in the basement. her dad came down to look at his cellphone, then went back upstairs. once he left, my cousin said "i think my dad is having an affair." she opened up the text messages on his cell & they were from the same woman. they said "yeah what we're doing is so wrong i hope no one finds out" etc. my aunt & uncle have always had marriage problems, but as of now, me and my cousin are the only ones who knows about his affair. I asked my cousin if she's going to tell her mom and she said "NO WAY I'LL GET IN SO MUCH TROUBLE FOR LOOKING THRU HIS PHONE AND I DON'T WANT TO CAUSE ANY PROBLEMS!" She doesnt seem to care tho, but i'm so freaked out and my question is, what should i do, (should i do anything at all...?) (link)
Tell your aunt... she has a right to know!


My mom smokes, and I get second hand smoke from her, obviously.. When you're around someone who is smoking pot.. If you get the second hand from that.. And then have to have a drug test for like sports at school or something.. Will it show up as you smoked pot, even though you didn't, and it was just second hand??? (link)
Ask your dr.


the guy i like broke up with his girlfriend about a month ago because he liked me, but then he started going out with another girl. they just broke up. he knows i like him and he told his friend that i'm cool and hott but he needs to get to know me more. and i'm not sure what to do because i talk to him like everyday. any suggestions? is this a lost cause? (link)
Tell him stuff that he doesn't know about you. Like your fave color or something.


i have this friend, and he is a year older than me(im 13, he is 14). we met through another friend and we have talked for a long time. He is really hott and hard to resist. we both have webcams and we had gotten naked for each other and we would do stuff for the other one to watch. he had always had a girlfriend during this time and it never seemed to bother him. about 2 weeks ago, we were gonna go on cam again. i took off my shirt and my bra and he was watching and everything was like normal, then, when it was his turn to show, he used the "i cant do this, i have a girlfriend" excuse. i dont know if he really meant it or not or if he just wanted to see and not show. that doesnt really bother me...its just now...that him and his gf broke up, he wants me to show him stuff again and i dont want to anymore. what should i tell him with out actually saying that? please help...i will rate! (link)
Just be like "I can't do that anymore I have a boyfriend." Even though you really don't. It'll make him see that he wants you more...he might try pressuring you into doing it again but don't give in.


Well , i was eating lunch with my 'friends' and they were completely ignoring me, so then they were talking about going to a sooftball game at school and didnt even see if i wanted to go.. so then i just left and they said i ditched them, but they werent even acknowlaging that i was there. so then the next day at lunch i went to find them, but i couldnt, so i ended up eating by myself, but they were like oh you probably are just making excuses. so then after school they were walking together, and they looked at me, laughed and then went into the bathroom. this was the day that they were going to the softball game. so yesterday i was talking to lets call her "E" and i told her that i was upset that they were leaving me out on their plans, and she was like ' oh my god, your making this such a bigger deal than it really matters' and then 'oh my god, you know i have to go .' so they all are saying that im making a biggger deal out of this, but when i was making plans, i included them all in it, and then they didnt want to go if one of them werent going so we ended up not even doing it. but this time they didnt even bother to ask me if i wanted to go. sorry this was so long, but i need advice on what i should do. thanks! (link)
Their not even worth being friends with then. Find new ones and then they'll see what they're missing. It can't be that hard to find a friend. I mean honestly. They'll come crawling back to you and at first don't take them back then after a while be like "See what it feels like to be left out."


omg my parents are so annoying. they are constantly on my case about ANYTHING. for example, i got a 95 on a tuff quiz. they were just like blowing it off. and keep in mind im almost failing that subject. They make a big deal out of low grades but when i get a high grade they just blow it off. and when im home alone, they CONSTANTLY keep calling me like every 5 minutes. and now i sprained my ankle and they keep telling me to do everything normally. i hate when they call because your probly thinking"they call b/c they love you" but no thats not it. and my dad always tries to play around but he just doesnt know when to quit. and if i forget to do like the simplest thing, my mom flips out at me. my parents just are so annoying. How can i make them less annoying? if that makes any sense? (link)
Talk to them. Talk about the grade thing or like you having to take it easy because of your sprained ankle...I talked to my parents and their cool now.


Kay well there is this guy.. and we went out for 4 dasy then he COMPLETELY broek my heart.. when he broke up w. me for my BFF and then she was all like chicks b4 dicks.. and I thank ehr fr that! but then she got mad at me for something.. and then went out w. him for pay back.. they broke up in like 2 days and then he started liking me again (thankfully) but i said if you really love me wait until the next day and ask me.. and he did but he didn't like me anymore.. then almost 3 or 4 months later we started talking again me and him (oh and about January me and mah friend started talking again and everything is cool now) and like he and I always play question games.. and he alwasy says that he loves me and everything and like he always jokes around w. me.. and then my friend and him started talking again also.. and they are going out.. btu she cheated on him Friday night.. and they broke up (I think) and trhough all of this I haev always still liked him.. when he and her started going out.. I said.. I thought you didn't like her (becasue that what he said) and he goes well everything I said to you was just a joke.. and I was like WHOAAA! and now he is starting to talk again to me like he did before.. and I have NO IDEA what to do.. HELLLLLLLLLLLLLLLPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPP!!! pleaseee!



Oh yeah and this was from about late November to Now! (link)
Tell him to screw himself... you shouldn't be with a guy that can't make up his mind...1 day he loves her than the next he loves you then the next he hates you and starts going out with her and then they brake up and he comes crawling back to you. What kind of bull shit is that. He's an asshole and obviously has alot to think about if he can't make up his mind.


hey, im the girl that asked you about the friend that i used to have that wen i moved we stopped talking and were not that close anymore, and how now she has a new best friend and all.....well, i need more help....now, my boyfriend of 3 years(we love eachother to death dont get it twisted, and weve both done some pretty messed up things to eachother in the past...but now were gainin back trust and loyalty...) ..and well, i found out that he asked my "lost" best friend's NEW best friend to get wit him..he asked my "lost" best friend to ask her NEW best friend if she wuld get with him!!!!!!!....and i cant believe she would do that!!!!!...i cursed her out on the phone and all she said wuz," ash, i dont kno what he said to me earlier..im really drunk rite now.." ....!!! so...what do you think?? thanks so much in advance.
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Seems to me that she has her priorities wrong. She should be on your side all the way...and she should've kicked your boyfirend in the balls. Did youa sk him about it? You should ask him about it and see what he says. If he denies it, then you have a choice to make and I'm afraid that you won't be asking us what the right decision is. It's only one that you can make.


okay well i rlly rlly like this guy and we flirt a lot...but the problem is that i'm 14 and he's 16...he thinks it would be wrong to go out w/ me b/c im still in middle school...but i don't think its wrong at all b/c everyone else does it...do you think he's scared or that he doesn't like me?,...please helpp (link)
Well, I think he's probably scared that it will make him look bad by going out with someone in middle school, now that doesn't mean he doesn't like you, because he obviously does.


How do you know when you love someone? (link)
You just know. It's a special feeling that only that 1 cetain person can make you feel.


ok well my ex friend and i were friends ever since we were born!! and all the sudden july (which is the month of my b-day )we quit being friends. becuz we always plan stuff together like plan our b-days togetherand stuff and i had not seen her since feb we just talkd on the phone and online and stuff so one of her other friend came back from out of town the week we had planned our get together for my b-day and she said that she couldnt come becuz her friend got back from out of town. well we have planned that get together for 2 months. and i was mad and she said i shouldnt get mad that she has other friends. Do u think i should be mad?? (link)
Well if you had it planned for longer than 1 month than she should've came, even if she had to bring her other friend or leave or other friend at her house for a couple of hours. You have every righ to be mad...I'd be pissed.


f/13 im going out with this guy....lets call him bill. ok well i met bill at a convention thingy away from both of our hometowns. we got each others numbers and talked on the phone after we got back to our houses blah blah blah and now were going out. he lives about 2.5 hours away. now i was talking t this other guy who i recently went out with and ever since we broke up weve been pretty much best friends and talked on the phone all the time. he lives about 5 minutes away but he is moving about 30 minutes away(no biggie) lets call him fred. so im currently going out with bill right...and im was talking to fred on the phone and we still both love eachother more than anyone would believe and we got to talking about our relationship (i was thinking about dumping bill to go out with fred anyways) blah blah blah and i ended up asking fred out. of course he said yes and the problem now is that i have 2 boyfriends and ive never been the person that cheats. so what i want to know is how do i dump bill with out hurting his feelings and still be really good friends with him???? HeLp Me pLeAsE!!! ThAnX! (link)
Just be like, "I still love 'Fred' and he wants me back and I'm sorry but I think it's best that I take time and stop talking to both of you so I can figure out whose better for me."(You'll still be going out with 'Fred', but 'Bill' doesn't have to know that. I hope this helps you...I'm going to take my own advice and lie about loving someone else so I can brake up with the boyfriend I have now. LOL


I like this guy.. lets call him B.. and whenever i'm around him i get butterflies in my stomach.. then if im sad or upset..he's the only one that can cheer me up! is this Love?

I rate. (link)
Well...I felt the same way about someone..like whenever I heard his name or voice I got butterflies. It's only love if he's the only one mind, or when look at him everyone else goes away like you're the only 2 in the room. Appraoch him and ask him out or even over your house for a start.


Ok I'm scared to kiss my bf. I'm pretty sure he wants to kiss me too, but we're both really shy. How do I get him to kiss me or gather up enough courage to kiss him myself?
I'm 13/f by the way.
Thanks I rate 5's (link)
Ok... just talk to him. Say something like "I'm shy and don't want to make the first move." or whatever is the easiest way for to get the point across that you WANT to kiss him. Hope this helps you.


how do i make my day more stress free (link)
When I feel a lttle stressed out, I take the radio and take it into the bathroom. I make a bubble bath, and lock the door. It's peaceful and when I'm done I'm stress free. You should try it and let me know if it works.




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