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Teen Sex, and I NEED ADVICE!!
There is this guy "friend" of mine that I met last year. After a while we were fully aquainted, we started hanging out. I really think he likes me because he has always treated me with respect and kindness. I went to his house the other day, and we started "fooling around". Now he wants to have sex, not as partners, but as friends. He said that this is not considered being a slut or anything because we are friends. Is this true? I really like him. I just got over a really bad situation with the last person I was with. Please help me.
*~!Ayla!~* ( I am only 13, and I'm a girl )
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Ok, first off I lost mine at 13 (8th grade) but this is a different situation, I lost mine to a boyfriend who I thought I loved very much & we were together a very long time, very strong bond, ect. If I were you I wouldn`t lose it to a friend because there are many things to take into consideration:
1. Your feelings, he could drop you if you ever get emotionally involved.
2. It HURTs ... A LOT, you might not want to be going that far that young, your first time isn`t all it`s cut out to be!!!!
3. You`re risking a reputation as a slut.
4. Are you sure you want to lose it to a FRIEND? He might not even care about you as more than just a "piece of ass". Which is kind of redundant to #1.
5. You could be risking STDs and pregnancy at a VERYYYYYYY young age.
PLEASE take all of these into consideration before making a deicsion, I can`t tell you what to do I can only warn you about the after-effects of each decision!
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Trust me . You dont want to give in. Once he gets what he wants, he will drop you like a fly. Plus your still in Junior high. You should atleast hold off untill your around 17 or 18. It maybe hard but it will be worth the while, because your partner will be more mature and experienced. But i also suggest waiting untill marriage. That always wwworks the best.
~Princess Ava~
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idiot... your dumb dont fuck anyone if your only 13.. god dont do it youll get pregnant and be a slut and he'll just leave you after. im telling the truth.
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Your ONLY 13 and you already are gonna have sex.? I vote no. I think sex is something that is special and should not be done with this so called 'friend' but with the person you love. Please take my advice and turn him down.♥
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no!!!!!!!!!!!
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i think its a bit young...
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13 is too young to have sex. way too young. 17 is the proper age in my book. don't have sex. tell him you don't want to have sex, and tell him that you're too young. if that doesn't work tell him you want to wait til marriage to have sex and that will set him straight.
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DO NOT HAVE SEX! you are still young. i am 13 too. keep your virginity as long as possible. if no one finds out about it you shouldn't be called a slut.
if you do decide to have sex with him, make sure he doesn't have any contagious STDs. also make sure he wears protection.
hope i helped.
~~Chelsey~~
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Tell him that you want to wait a little longer before you have sex. If he gets mad/upset, or says he "Wont talk to you again" joke around and say... i don't wanna lose my v-card again, or something of the sort... and it is very well considered being a slut
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I think you should wait. Some girl at my school is 12 and just ended up getting pregnant because some boy told her the same thing. Don't do it. Wait until your married or wait until you have a boyfriend who loves you for you and who you love a lot. And make sure you go out for a couple months before you do have sex to make sure hes not using you. Having sex at a young age doesnt really make you special... me and my boyfriend are 14 and we been goin out for 8 months, and we havent even brought it up yet. Just wait, im sure you have a lot going for you and if u do have sex, you could end up getting pregantn and messin up your life. Dont do it, and sorry, i didnt mean to lecture you... lol
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By having sex "not as partners, but as friends", he means he wants to fuck you with no commitment. A meaningless exchange of body fluid is all he's going for. Tell him no. Especially considering your age.
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i know this isn't probably the answer you were looking for but i don't think you should do it. you'd get much more respect by saying no and not being treated like a sex toy. your only 13 so if this gets around you'll find yourself in another bad situation. wait for the right one and when you do find that right one make sure you love him and you make him wait as long as you can. i know you'll be tempted and i know you'll be curious but just having sex to have sex with someone your not serious about isn't smart. sex has it's consequences so if you want to take it make sure your partner is everything you hoped for.
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i think you should wait til your in a committed relationship and in love.. 13 is very young.. i think just wait hun.. much luv dez ♥
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ok you are 13 please don't waist yourself on someone that says that to you. I mean you don't need to get serious you are 13 and below the age of having sex. It is not a good idea to have sex as friends because he might throw it in your face later on and call you names like slut ect. I kn ow you really like him but i think if you want to find out if he likes you see if he waits until you are older.If not then get rid of him he won't be any good as a friend either.Just keep him as a friend and keep you're space.Hope i helped lv sweetcorn x
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When your 13 your considered a slut if you do it with anyone. If you want to take a chance of getting pregnate or getting a sickness then go ahead be a slut! but i say noooo your to young to throw your virginidy away!!!
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That is SO NOT true!!!! He is just going to use you for sex. Friends with benefits is never a good idea. It leads to the ruin of friendship, emotional problems, and other things.
Besided you are waaay too young to be worried about sex. At your age, making out is far enough. I mean yeah, I know people who have gone much further with out sex at your age, but still with all the risks of STD's and pregnancy, and just emotional stuff, it isn't that great of an idea.
He's also taking advantage of you. "I just got over a really bad situation with the last person I was with."
I mean hello... reality check (not to sound mean) but that would be obvious...
Okay, well there was my opinion. Take it or leave it, the final decision is always left up to you.
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Of course it's not true. He is just saying what he thinks you want to here. DO you want to be friends and have sex? Or do you want to be in love. IF you fall for him, he will be quick to remind you that he said HE ONLY WANTED FRIENDSHIP AND SEX, no love. So only go down that road if that is the ONLY thing that you want. And if you guys have an accident and you get pregnant, well guess what. that will be your problem too. Heck it would be your problem anyway. WHy not wait for someone who LOVES you, and will stand by you no matter what.
Michele
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This guy is not being your friend! He's lying to you! Sleeping with someone is the same as sleeping with a friend. You WILL get the slut label if anyone finds out about it (and people will find out about it because boys like to brag about their sexual experiences in the locker room). If this guy is really your friend he wont pressure you and respect your decision to say pure until married. If he gets mean in any way...you need to to find friends somewhere else! Besides...when you are only 13, sex shouldnt be and option. You should be at the movie playing with your "girl" friends...not fooling around with your guy "friend" where mistakes can be made. ONCE YOU HAVE SEX...YOU CAN NEVER HAVE YOUR VIRGINITY BACK. YOU WILL REGRET THIS LATER IN LIFE!
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~*~mAdDiE~*~
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No hun, don't even go for it. I'm with my best friend and she's a girl and wants to do the same thing as "FRIENDS." She's so confused it's not even funny. Don't put yourself in that bind. I'm 14 and i feel your craving for it, but i wouldn't go for it. There may be a bad after effect!
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i have a friend that is a guy that always talks about doing the same thing. i am scared at the thought. ok sorry.. i know you dont want to know this, but i think it is a bad idea. at least wait a while or until you love each other, if you ever will. even though you really like him, he might not like you, and might be using you. also, you are 13 and its not a very good idea because there are more consequences to you then there are to your guy friend. im sorry im not very supportive. good luck in your decision. :)
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You're stupid.
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I think that if you have to question this, it's a bad idea.
PeRsonally, I don't Really 'bleieve' in people being much of "sluts" and "whoRes", but I'm so so so positive that just because you sleep with a fRiend... you WILL NOT be a "slut".
You'Re OBVIOUSLY not Ready to go thRough with sex right now. My suggestioin foR you would be to wait. Don't eveR let give into the the pRessuRe to take paRt in something that makes you uncomfoRtable...
This is all I can say.
Hopefully you'll use youR head on this one.
Goodluck to you. :)
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well i think this "friend" is using you for sex. i have learned that SEX is when you STRONGLY love someone and i personal wouldnt do a guy that is my friend. a friend is a friend nothin else. there re a lot of people loosing there virginty at a young age. i dont think it is right. if you lose it you dont know what will happen. what if the condum break? and no matter how much protection you use there is still a chance of you getting pregent.but anyways back to answer your question. i think it would be kinda of sluty because you guys are ONLY friends not lovers. but that is just me. i hope i helped you out.
*~Stephanie~*
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