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Hey, it's Kristen. I'm 17. I'm here to give you advice honestly and straight forward so ask!

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me and my boyfriend have been going out for like a week now. and the other day he asked me if i wanted sex.
we r madly in love, but im not sure if its the right time in the relationship?

what should i do?
luv nicki xxxxx

Question for you. You have been dating a week and you are alread madly in love? Did you all get close and then start dating? But anywho, a week is a little early to be having sex no matter how much you love each other, ya know? I don't think it's the right time for you two. You just started dating. You have other things you could focus on besides having sex. Perhaps after a couple of months or maybe a month you could think about sex. I don't know how old you are so I can't judge among that. Just make sure YOU are ready and YOU feel comfortable about doing it. Wait until YOU feel like YOU want to. Don't jump into sex if you aren't ready to. It's only been a week afterall. I can't tell you what to do, I can only recomend.

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how often a week should u do cardio and for how long at a time?

Atleast 3 times a week for an hour or more.

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how often a week should you do toning (by this i mean situps, crunches, lunges, and squats)? is everyday okay? and if you're doing these things, do you really need to do weights in the gym?

Everyday is fine. About 20-30 minutes. If you do it every day then your body will get used to it and perhaps you can increase your time a little bit. You don't HAVE to lift weights in the gym unless you're searching to get muscles and muslce strength. If you're just looking to get tone, you should be fine without weights. Hope i helped

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does anyone know where to get jeans that are a little below ur waist and are about $15-30? someone please help and i may rate you a 5!

There should be a store called Deb near you somewhere. If I knew where you lived I'd look it up. They have cheap, yet name brand clothes. Also, if you have a Ross near you, they are cheap yet name brand also. Don't let anyone tell you that you can't find jeans $30 and under, you can. Hope I helped. Oh and also, sometimes, if Jc Penny is having a sale they have brands that are like this and only $20. So look out for sales.

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i was j/w what 143 means... i used to kno but i forgot

It means I love you.
1=I
4=love
3=you

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i like a guy.i dont know if he likes me.we have only known eachother for 2 months.we have never met.we only chat on the internet.i know we will meet someday.how can i find out if he likes me?(i dont want to strait out ask him if he likes me).

Before I answer on this I have a question I'm going to keep in mind while answering. Where does this boy live? Does he live close to you? Would it be a great possibility to meet him someday? Is he in the same state? Think about that first. Alright, if you want to know if he likes you it'd be much easier to just ask him although you don't want to but that'd be a good thing to do. You could take the "would you ever" approach. That works quite often to get some form of knowledge if they like you. Ask him "Do you think you would ever see me as more than a friend". Depending on his answer you may be able to determine from there. Or, you could have a friend ask him for you. That's easy enough, right?. Just a fair warning to you.. Meeting people on internet often complicates wanting to have a relationship. Been there and done that soo many times. Just looking out for you ~ xo

Good luck

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hey im 13/f and theres this teacher at my school whos like 25. every1 says we look alike but we don't think we do, well she is a really nice person but most kids don't like her. we're always talking and stuff tho and i like her! thing is, my friends all think i'm weird for talking to her and a bunch of my friends won't talk to me anymore because they think i talk to her more than them. but she's this great person and she actually listens to me not like the ppl who are supposed to be my friends. should i keep talking to her or win my friends back?? i know this is weird but what should i do?? thanks!

This is all your decision and it depends on this question you need to ask yourself. Do you like this teacher more or your friends? What means more to you? What's going to value you more in life in the long run of things? Could you possibly only talk to this teacher when you are in that class and such and spend the other time with your friends? This teacher is much older than you so she may not always be there for you, ya know? You're a child and she is an adult. My sister had a run in with this type of situation and it didn't turn out that good. You could possibly be better off with friends close to your age and just being your teacher's little pal, ya know? I can't tell you what to do although. You'll leave the school one day and that teacher will be left behind. Your friends on the other hand will go with you, correct? Think about it.

Hope i helped

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2. I want my braces to not stand out so much (right now I have hot pink rubberbands) and I was thinking about getting either clear or white rubberbands. But I heard that the white rubberbands make your teeth look yellow. And I heard that the clear rubberbands turn the color of whatever food you eat. Is this true?? Does anybody have clear or white rubberbands that could give me some advice?? Help!! Thanks!!

It's true. They stain. My friend had white ones one time and it made her teeth look as if they were yellow and like she didn't brush and the clear ones do exactly what you suspected. They are just braces. Get an awesome color you like and embrace the fact one day, you'll have straight teeth and you looked good getting them that way! =D

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i told this girl i liked her alot nowing she woodnt like me back like that...she deosnt like me like that just as i thought....i wanna win her over....how can i...please answer quickly

It's hard to win a girl over if she doesn't like you to be honest about it. You need to find some common ground between you two if you ever want to win her over. You need to be able to start conversation as friends and be interested in what each other are talking about to have a relationship. Is this girl your friend? Do you talk often? That can also determine your chances. Work on that. Also, try showing her that you can be a caring person in ways such as offering to take her lunch tray up for her or just plain saying hi, how you are in the hall way. If she is upset and confinds in you, try and be there for her to the best of your abilities or if you see that she is upset ask if she needs someone to talk to, that you'll be there for her if she needs it. Girls like guys who can be there for them in times of need seeings we are very very emotional at times. Compliment her! Make her feel good about herself and who she is and that you think shes a good person and such. Don't over do the niceness of doing things for her, that annoys girls. Do not do anything like hitting her butt and such unless you KNOW she likes that which she probably does not. If someone boy is being a ass to her, stick up for her but don't be rude or obnoxious about it. Don't be too forward about liking her and stuff, give her, her space and let her decide if she likes you. You can't just win her over just like that I'm sure you know. It takes time. She may never like you. So don't feel too awfully let down if your attempts do not turn out good. Girls know what they want, and if she wants you, she'll let you know in time. Hope I helped a little.

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this friday I am goin to sleep over my friends house and she has her bf sleeping over too. I dont have a bf and their probably gonna make out and other stuff. I'll probably be WICKED bored! Should i invite someone for me or just be bored?

How about you ask your friend to invite someone else over. Are you a girl or a boy? I'm going to assume female by the wording of the question. Why not ask her, if you're comfortable with this idea to invite a guy friend of hers over that you know? You could get to know him and not be bored. You wouldn't have the mind the fact that she is all making out with her boyfriend. If you don't like that just ask if she can invite on of your other friends over so you can all be together so while she is doing her thing you can talk to the other friend. But don't just go and invite someone unless you know she is cool with it cause well.. that's rude. lol. good luck

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OK my boyfriend just dumped me yesterday and eh used the line, "I love you, but i don't want a girlfriend right now." Has anyone gotten that one before? If any boys see this what does it actually mean? is it just a nice way to dump me becuase how can you *love* someone but not wanan go out with them?

Dang, I've been there and done that. It's stupid how guys say that. Most of the time it's a nice way of saying I don't want to go out with you and I don't love you. But one odd example: My friend went out with this boy and he said the same thing but the truth of it was he was afraid of his reputation. So either he loves you and he's scared of something or he doesn't want to date you. He could also love you but just not be ready for a relationship right now. Remember that girls mature faster than boys. I don't know how old you and this boy are so I can't suggest too much on that. So either this boy just plain doesn't love you and was being nice or he loves you and has some hidden reason behind why he broke up with you that he just hasn't told you. I suggest asking him about his actions.

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First when me and my friend were in first grade we were really good friends. Yea we would get into those little stupid fights that little kids always immaturely had, but we always made up. Now that we're older we've both changed. During our 6th and 7th grade year my friend became a cheerleader. She was leaving me for these people that I absolutely could not stand. On top of that, her mom didn't like me very much for the soul reason that I wear black.. Now her mom is getting so strict about her being with me and my other friends because she lost her mp3 player while we were at the mall. Her mom has said so many hurtful things like "If you were at the mall with your other friends you wouldn't have lost that mp3 player." and she even flipped out at my friend because she bought a GREEN (not black) greenday shirt from Hot topic. I think another reason why she might not like me is because I'm a democrat and my dad is Jewish.. and their family is completely evangelical Republican.. If my friend and I can solve our differences shouldn't her parents be able to put them aside? I hate this so much because for once in 2 years we are best friends again and I don't want to lose her. It hurts me a lot that she isn't allowed to be around me.. except at school, and that we can't do anything together. It's not like I do drugs, or do bad things. Infact, I teach a sunday school class, play on a select soccer team, and I even have a's in all advanced classes. It's so superficial, and I don't know any way to get around this, other than to wait another 4 years to have my friend back when we get out of highschool. I don't want to wait that long.. not again.. 2 years was hard enough without her support. Please give me some advice.

Sounds like her parents are real assholes. I vote you have your Mom or Dad talk to her Mom or Dad. That's a good solution. Adults usually listen to each other. If that doesn't work you'll just have to live with the only school visiting for a while. My friend and I had to do that too. But we spent every waking minute at school together that we could and we still have our friendship now even though her Mom sometimes still won't let me come over. Once you all can drive, who are you parents to know who you REALLY went to the movies with, eh? ;) I say try the parent to parent talk thing. Need anymore help, let me know. xo


Edit*If you can't do that than there isn't really much help and you didn't give me that slight detail. I guess all you two girls can do is confront her mother or whoever and dicuss it. You don't have that many options so it's hard to be picky:-/

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ok i get the point i should ask him but i know that when i do he'll say whats wrong with you are you saying you can't trust me plus he goes to a totally differnt school than me and his friends that go to my school are telling him all kinds of bull shit thats not fuckin true and it pisses me off there nothing but jackasses and i kicked one of there asses yesterday plus what should i do help me

Eh... try the curiosity thing. Just be like "Would you ever cheat on me?" That always works. If he has cheated on you that question will eat away at his concious or else he'll sound all shady in his answer.

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okay well im 14/f and i've shaved my down below area...now wenever i do it again it hurts b/c theres these little red dots and they start to bleed...please help me idk wat to do

I've been there and done that. After you shave you need to get some moisturizing lotion that is for sensitive skin since that is a sensitive area to put down there after shaving. Those red dots suck so much but that should do the trick! And make sure you're using shaving cream or soap to shave. The better thing would be shaving cream. More moisturizing.

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this question pertains mostly to girls

alright f/15 here i was just wondering about how long can u masterbate without totally exploding? like for me im usually only masterbating for like 10-30 seconds and i want it to last longer!please answer back@

Alright, while you're masturbating, try not to jump right into it. Slowly start masturbating. Use fingers and clitoral stimulation. Just as you think you are about to "explode" slow down. That way you won't "explode" so quickly. If you do this you should be able to last longer. Do this until you finally want to have the "big explosion" and you'll find it more enjoyable.

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Can anyone tell me the right way to shave down there? I shave down there, but after shaving I still feel hair, especially on the lips. I have a really hard time shaving the lips, is there an easier way to shave them?

Ok, first off, do not shave without anything on it. Use either soap or shaving cream. At first, shave in the direction the hair is growing so you get the big parts off. Then shave the opposite way that it grows. For the lips, shave down on your lips to get the most part of the hair off and then shave across them. That's the best I can suggest for that cause that's what I do and I have no problems. I noticed too that lips were a challenge, haha. And just a tip, put lotion on after you're done shaving.

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I have a really hot boyfiend thats cute,funny,nice and caring but I have the biggest feeling that he's cheating on me and I don't wanna be hurt what should I do?

Just ask him. If he is, you're going to be a little hurt either way. Ask him so if he is, you'll find out sooner and be less hurt. But try and word this carefully so he doesn't freak out on you. You don't need that. If he is cheating on you, drop a message in my inbox if you need any support or anything and if he isnt well awesome! If he is, try not to be too upset. Any guy who cheats on a girl is an ass hole.

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is it supposed to hurt when u take out a tampon .. cause when i do it hurts really bad..

Yeah, I don't like using them. It soaks up all the blood and expands to fit your body so it's harder to take out then it was to put in and very uncomfortable. Perhaps you should consider a slim fitting brand of tampons so they are smaller and such or change them more often so they don't have as much blood in them so it won't be as expanded and won't hurt as much. I just prefer not using them. Either that or you just aren't leaving them in long enough so they don't have enough blood absorbed and their dry. That'll hurt. Are you putting them in wrong? That could also be a part of your problem. xo hope i helped

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What does "shanking" mean?

There are many definitions. The definition I am familiar with is when you walk up behind someone and you pull there pants down in front of everyone. Thats usually what young people think of when they hear that someone got shanked. It's also when people in prison kill one of the other people in jail with a sharp object kind of like a knife.

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does anybody know if claire's or hot topic does belly button piercings? thx ahead of time!

No, they don't. Even though if they did, they probably wouldn't be good at it, aha. But they do have some of the cutest belly button rings but they don't pierce them. xo`

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