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please help
me and my boyfriend have been going out for like a week now. and the other day he asked me if i wanted sex.
we r madly in love, but im not sure if its the right time in the relationship?
what should i do?
luv nicki xxxxx
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You ARE NOT in love...you have been dating him for a week! You can't seriously love someone that quickly! You are not ready for sex.
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This may not be what you're wanting to hear, but its not the right time, your not really in love from a week relationship. You're probably just really crazy about him, you can go ahead and do it, but my gut feeling is that it isn't the right time.
-TheTeenGirl
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if you dont want to then just tell him that your not ready. if he really cares about you then he'll understand. wait until your ready.
hope i helped!
*steph*
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wouldnt wanna ruin ur life by doing sumthing like that already A WEEKI ... u two barley know eachother.. wait!
MUCH LUV MEGAN
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def. not its only the week. he propably just wants the sex a couple times then break up ina couple weeks or so its not worth wasting it on a player.
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no...i really dont think you should because even if you are madly in love..things happen and plus u have been only going out for a week sorry xOx risSii
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a week ? wow i think u should wait regardless of if your madly in love ... its so not the right time in the relationship !!! what if somethin happened like something went wrong ?? you know what i mean !!! so ya i think its to early to even think about that !! like that happened to me with my bf we were goin out for like two weeks and he asked me if i wanted sex and i didnt know what to say so one night we were at his house alone and we started making out and he went to take my shirt off and i knew it was the totally wrong thing to do so i couldnt i told him im so sorry but i just cant .... you may not realize it now but you will later !! please dont make the wrong chioce!!! you have a whole life ahead of you take adventures just not this one !! well hope i helped some !! good luck !!
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Yeah, of corse, thats what a relationship is all about, are you 13 by any chance?
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Save yourself for marriage.. for you and your husband.
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ONE Week PLUS IN Love EQUALS Sex. What is wrong with this equation?
You are NOT madly in love. You are probably in lust. You don't even know each other yet. Take time to know who you are, make getting to understand who the person is a priority before getting into each other's pants. Remember, sex is not just an act, it is a person and it very very often produces other persons.
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you only been wit this person a week and your in love what ever kid..
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If its only been a week i dont think you should. but if you think you wanna go rate ahead. butin my opion i think thats not enough time.
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It's only been a week.. I would wait a little longer, or until you have a little more confidence that it's the right decision. If you aren't 100% positive you want to, then wait. Hopefully he'll understand.
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if your over 18 go 4 it! put it off till your at least 17. hope i helped. im the mean time just make out alot.lol
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If you're not sure, Tell him how you feel and tell him you're not ready. If he loves you, he should understand.
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u only been going out for a week, i dont know how old u r but if u r a teen dont do so my answer is no
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Question for you. You have been dating a week and you are alread madly in love? Did you all get close and then start dating? But anywho, a week is a little early to be having sex no matter how much you love each other, ya know? I don't think it's the right time for you two. You just started dating. You have other things you could focus on besides having sex. Perhaps after a couple of months or maybe a month you could think about sex. I don't know how old you are so I can't judge among that. Just make sure YOU are ready and YOU feel comfortable about doing it. Wait until YOU feel like YOU want to. Don't jump into sex if you aren't ready to. It's only been a week afterall. I can't tell you what to do, I can only recomend.
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Give him what he wants
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I think you should wait because a week....thats not long, and sex is something you share with someone you really love. Im not saying you dont love him, but i think you should wait a while =)
Riley
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A week is pretty early to be getting into a sexual relationship.That's a serious thing,and a HUGE step in a relationship.I would sit down and talk with your boyfriend and let him know flat out that you just aren't ready to do that yet.Let him know it's nothing personal against him,you're just not prepared for that right now and you'd rather take it slow.If he understands that and respects you and your wishes,he's a keeper.If he gets all pissy about it or continues to ask you and/or pressure you,it's time for him to go as much as it may hurt you.You deserve a guy that will respect you and the fact that he has to earn you,that you're special and don't just do that with anyone.He has to deserve it!I hope this helps you out.I know it sounds a bit mother-ish,but it's the truth hunnie!! :)
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You two need to definitely wait a long time to have sex because if you two only have been going out for a week, that's too early to be thinking about sex. Don't do it; wait until you're ready. If you have known this guy for a long time, that's a different story but still, you should wait and not rush into things like this. Hope I helped :)
-Karen
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First, how do you know that you are madly in love with him? I'm older than you probably, and I'm not even sure on that word's definition. Regardless, it's been a week and if you feel that this relationship is going to last- then the sex can wait. You're asking for advice which means that you already know in your heart that you may not be ready for it. If he really loves you then he'll wait for you. If not, then you'll know that it wasn't meant to be and you'll meet a guy who will wait for you as long as it takes.
However, if you do decide to engage in sex PLEASE use at a minimum a condom. Yeah, I know, I sound like a PSA, but I've seen way too many 13year olds giving birth that I tell pretty much pre-teens now too.
Hope that helps,
AK
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It's obvious you don't think it's the right time and that's your own way of telling yourself NO. It's only been a week.. most people who are really in love care more about spending time with their boyfriend/girlfriend than having sex. And when they do get to that point, it's for the right reasons; to be as close to another human being as possible is so beautiful. Don't waste that on a guy who would actually ask if you wanted sex.. trust your instincts when they tell you "i don't know." They don't lie.
Good luck,
PEACE
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even a little doubt, just like that, dont do it, i dont think your ready, and i know that you guys both love eachother, but do it when YOU feel right,and i'm sure he will too! its not a big deal for him that you dont want to, because he thinks of you and what YOU want. so dont worrya bout it, do it when you feel like its right in your relationship with him. xox
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No offence, but you can't honestly be really in love after only a week - you don't know everything about each other yet!
You're right, it's definately not the right time in the relationship!! You should wait (a lot longer) until it is the right time...and if he doesn't appreciate that, then he isn't the right guy for you. Talk to him about it and don't feel pressurised into doing something you don't want to!
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx
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Well definitely do NOT have sex with him. What kind of dude is he anyways? Asking if you want to have sex after only dating you for a WEEK? Think about it...and don't do it!
*HoPe I hElPeD!*
==Emster Boo==
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You guys only been together for a week and he wants sex? Seems like you both are rushing into sex. You just wait awhile, its not the right time in the relationship. Maybe try doing other sexual things for now.
♥ Krissy
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OKKKK first you cant be madly in love w/some one only in a week relationship....TRUST ME!....i was just like that i went out w/this guy and i was like OMG im soo inlove with him blah blah....but then i met someone else...and we been going out for 5 months...and thats more like love...but i mean if hes already talking about sex...and its only been a week...that might be the only thing he wants...=....yes, guys are so like that....if you really think you madly in love with someone youve only been with for a week...and if you totally ready then i guess go on and do it....but if your having second thoughts, which you most likely are, or you wouldnt be asking for advice...then wait..and see if he really loves you or jst loves you body...*think of this...i read this on a fact site*...if you are in love with him....you would be comfortable farting infront of him...LOL i know its cheesy but hey its kinda true...so just think about everything...
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