I like fairies (thus why I am wearing fairy wings in the picture). Good grammar rocks, too. It doesn't have to be perfect but I get frustrated when people completely disregard it. I like every color except pink. I hate the wind. Sometimes, I carry around a little teddy bear I found at an antique store. His name is Robert. I dress very eccentrically. It's not unusual for me to wear a prairie dress one day and a Mod dress (think Austin powers) the next. I don't dye my hair, or wear much make-up. I think it's sad that no one puts any emphasis on natural beauty anymore. I think it's a good thing to be open and educated about sex and other issues that are considered taboo. I have a hard time seeing where homophobics are coming from.
Basically, I'm just some weird teenager in Arizona. If I haven't scared you off already, feel free to drop me a line. -Danielle
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ok, well im 5'4" and 101-102 lbs. I'm so sick of people callign me anerexic and bulemic . I feel so low abou myself. I eat SO much and in my eyes, I'm average. What is the average weight for a 14 year old 8th gader whose 5'4"? Am I ok w/ the weight that i am, I mean I eat so much, dont' do sports, and like never exercise, I'm liek naturally fit. Shoudl I gain weight? (link)
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Haha, whenever I've gotten that I have a few different things I say. I've told people to stop being jealous of my high metabolism. It sounds bitchy and snobby, but it really isn't any of their fucking business in the first place. Or I say, you don't go around calling people fat to their face, do you? Then where the hell do you get off calling me anorexic? It's the exact same thing!
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ok so theres this guy...he's amazing, gorgeous, but he's 21. we've been hanging out a lot for the last 4 months and stuff but he always told his best friend who told me that he only liked me as a friend and nothing more. well like a week after that we would be hanging out watchin movies at his house and he would cuddle with me, lean in towards me, hold my hand and stuff and it just seemed like he liked me but he kept denying it. but now, all of the sudden, he's been acting all weirdo around me like when we're around his best friend he's mean, snotty, and annoying, but when it's just me and him he's sweet, nice, and fun to be with. i was told by his sister's friend that he was torn about the age difference but idk now...it's not really THAT big of a difference in age. i can't tell if he likes me and is worried about what his friend will think since i'm a junior in high school and he's a junior in college or if he's just 2-faced. can someone help me out please! (link)
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Ahh.... run away from this guy...FAST! What's ironic about him being scared of the age difference is that he's obviously less mature than you are. If he was really a keeper he'd just be cool to be around all of the time, not some of the time. If he's telling people he only likes you as a friend, he doesn't seem like he's willing to admit anything beyond that. If you guys fool around, who says that that will change anything? And then it will be him just leading you on, using you, humiliating you and all of that other fun stuff because he's too stupid to take the relationship one step further. He just doesn't sound like guy who's really serious about a relationship. Try to find a guy who's more comfortable around you and with his own identity.
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Okay so my boyfriend broke up with me not even a week ago, and we had all these plans for the summer and stuff like go camping, waterfall, etc. but he said we can still do all those things but as friends... I want some quotes that kinda tell him that hes going to miss what he had.. etc. so does anybody have any quotes that i could put in my profile that has to deal with all these "memories" were supposively going to make i guess im not sure how to word it but just like "oh your going to miss me sooner or later" or some quotes about doing things together in the summer as "just friends" please i'll rate 5's!! (link)
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I know this isn't what you want to hear, but he'll just probably think you're weird if he sees these quotes in your profile. It's better off to just let him see this on his own, if you're so sure he's going to. He very well might, but it's less likely if he sees some quotes in his profile that tell him he's going to because then he might get stubborn and think "now it's time to prove her wrong.."... in other words, they give him more incentive to get over you, because people are just strange like that.
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do colleges take your weighted or unweighted GPA. (link)
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Most Ivy League schools and harder to get into schools look at unweighted. It really depends on each individual school. The school I am going to looked at weighted grades, but they had a completely different system for how they were weighted than my school did.
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A few weeks ago I told my friend Amy that I would go to a concert with her. It's a battle of the bands and the winner gets a spot on warped tour, and I'm friends with several of the bands who are going to be there. Then today I got an Invitation to my other friend's [Rachel] 16th Birthday party.
When I told Amy that I was planning to go to Rachel's 16th birthday party She got really upset. She wasn't invited and is mad that I would rather go to the party then to the concert.
But Here is my reasoning for going to rachels party:
-She is only going to be 16 once! and I can see these bands anytime
-I didn't even buy the tickets for the concert yet
-I always hang out with amy and I really don't get to see Rachel that much
What should I do? Should I go to the party or the concert?
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Find something else you can do with Amy to make it up to her. In the mean time, go to Rachel's party and have fun! The commitment isn't completely there until you've bought the tickets, and since you didn't, there shouldn't be any guilt there.
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My sister is a tiny girl. She's 13 years old, 5"1 and 89 lbs. I'm concerned that she's unhealthy. Is this a healthy weight for her? (link)
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For her age and height, that's not so bad... when you're at the beginning of adolescence you haven't completely filled out yet and also tend to have a higher metabolism... but if she seems like she's trying to lose weight or actually losing it, I would be concerned.
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ok for my 16th birthday I want to have a Toga party. I want to have like techno, pop, and rock music. I have a few questions:
-Does Party City have togas? (in Texas if that helps?)
-What all should I have to do at the party?
-What kinds of food? (keep in mind it's roman related)
-what kinds of activities//games should I do that would be fun for people my age?
-Karaoke? (most friends are in the upper choirs)
-Toga Twister? haha (a friend suggested that.. but of course with shorts under)
-Black lights?
any other things you would like to add would be greatly appriciated! or any other ideas for a party. I'm the kind of person that's a little "off the wall"//"crazy" so if y'all have any unique party ideas feel free to share them!
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You can make togas out of bed sheets. google "how to make a toga" and see what comes up. That's a lot cheaper than trying to buy some.
The servants used to feed the upper class people grapes, so I suggest you have those. You could have Ceasar salad (haha...caesar..get it? yay i'm a dork) or maybe little caesar's pizza. Try googling 'food in ancient rome' and see what pops up.
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I know this guy. I think i have a crush on him.
but i dont know if he likes me or even wants to be my friend at all.
He's a consultant and talks extremely well when i ask him for advise on work.
However, he gets shy/uncomfortable, when i ask him simple personal questions for eg: Do you go for swimming. I think he has a problem of talking about himself to new people or just not that friendly.
So one day, i gave him some sweets (i didnt really know him that well at that time in office) and he was quite startled and stared at me and waited for me to say something when i bumped at him at the doorway.
He had those puppy eyes..but didnt say word!.
I pretended not to appear interested in him becos i was too shy.!
He could have just thank me for the sweets but he didnt.
Later, i sent him email and was able to chat with him about work..and he responded quite well.
But he sounds uptight everytime i call him but funny thing is he talks well via email.
How do i get him to open up to me as a normal friend?
What can i say/should not say to him when i call him? Can i call him to say goodnight to him? I dont want to appear too invasive ...
Would appreciate your advice.
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If I were in this situation, I would keep e-mailing him. Continue to get him to open up this way. Some people are just very shy face to face. Do this for a week or so and if things seem to be progressing well on e-mail, try to talk to him more. I'm very up front with people. The last time I dealt with something like this, I basically said, "You seem to have a lot to say on e-mail...but not as much in person. Why is that?" If you seem open and receptive to whatever he has to say, he might feel like he can be more open because he'll see that you aren't judgmental. Either way, I'd stay away from the phone for now. Phone conversations can be even more awkward than face to face ones.
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I find myself having a crush on my older brother. I feel really bad about it but I can't stop fantasizing about being with him.
Is there any way to stop these feelings? I know it's wrong. (link)
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It might help to talk to a therapist. It sounds extreme and weird, especially since it's a total stranger, but your therapist will never tell your secrets to other people (it is illegal for them to) and he or she will not judge you. Make up a reason for why you want to see the therapist to your parents so that you don't have to tell them. The more you try to conceal something like this, the more it will end up consuming you and becoming a bigger problem, so getting it out in the open to a professional who can help you with the problem is probably the most efficent and beneficial way to go.
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Lately I've been hearing voices and seeing things that aren't actually there. I don't want to tell anybody because they'll think I'm crazy.
And also my kitchen timer's been talking to me.
This isn't a joke, I know it sounds like it is, but it isn't. I'm really scared about this.
-Possibly Crazy? (link)
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Schizophrenia is most likely to start showing it's ugly face during adolescence. You need to get help in case there is a real problem so that it does not escalate.
Schizophrenia is labeled by our society as something "crazy people" have. In fact, when a person has this disease, it is completely out of the person's control. If anything, people with schizophrenia should be treated as someone with cancer would be. You wouldn't disrespect a cancer patient just because they have cancer, would you? Schizophrenics should be approached with the same attitude. Schizophrenics have done nothing wrong. They were cursed with a brain dysfunction that is not something a person can fix themselves.
That said, you may just be going through a phase. I didn't mean to scare you, but it is imperative to recognize the potential seriousness of the situation. Please get referred to a neurologist or psychologist right away. Don't let anyone belittle you or laugh at you when you show concern for your issue, INSIST that you talk to one of these people.
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My boyfriend and I have been going out for half a year and I gave my virginity to him. He said that he was a virgin also. I feel that he was lying to me about being a virgin. I don't know what I should do to confront him with my thoughts. He seems to know too much about Sex to be a virgin.. I think he lied to me so I would sleep with him. How can I ask him about it without hurting his feelings?
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The guy I'm currently dating was a virgin too, and he seems to know a lot, but I know for a fact he was a virgin. Some guys just have a lot of knowledge about it or catch on reaaally quickly. I don't know your situation though.. so just say exactly what you said to us. "You seem to know about sex that it makes me wonder if you really were a virgin..." Don't worry about hurting his feelings. If he seems really hurt, he's either trying to cover up a lie or slightly oversensitive. It's completely natural to wonder things like that.
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1.)heey. im 13, my name is aubrey. well i have horrible period cramps, is there any way to get rid of them?
2.)what are some tips to help me stop bitting my nails?
3.)does anal sex hert, my bf wants to have it with me (16) and idk if it herts or not...
13, not a virgen... please dont call me a slut or tell me anything about his k thx!
♥`AUbREY`* ViNtAGExBARbiE_ (link)
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1) I just take midol and a nice, long hot bath. When available, I also use [protected] sex to relieve my cramps.
2) That one's hard because I'm trying to stop myself. If you get a manicure (some places only cost $10 for a manicure) once every two weeks or so...it can cause you to not want to bite them as much because they look nicer and you don't want to mess them up.
3) I've never had anal sex because I figure, I have a perfectly good vagina so it's not really necessary. I hear it hurts soo bad though, sometimes more than losing one's vaginal virginity. I hear people say "make sure to use lube!!" but I'd imagine it would hurt anyway. Do some more research on it and definitely don't let him pressure you into it.
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Hi, my name is Vanessa. I am 26 years old. My husband and I met in May 2003. only 4 months after having met, I fell pregnant with my little boy. In the early stages of pregnancy, I bled everytime after sex. This put me off sex for the rest of my pregnancy and my partner Jason had to either satisfy himeself or I would have to do an 'obligatory' act to satisfy him. I had absolutley no sexual drive whilst I was pregnant and everytime my partner tried, I rejected him or satisfied him begrudingly. I convinced myself that it was the pregnancy and theat after the birth of the baby, everything would go back to normal.
After my son was born in June 2005, it went from bad to worse. The first time we had sex was on our wedding night 7 months after the birth of our son. Since then (January 06) I have found excuses and ways of avoiding sex. Everytime I do have sex I find myself crying and wishing that it would be over. My husband (like many men I would suppose) is very sexual and now sits up late looking at pornography on the internet.
I feel as though I can not please him and I really don't want to. My son is now 9 months old and the idea of sex still makes me feel a little sick. I have never really been a very sexual person but I used to enjoy it a little bit. Now everytime I cry, feel uncomfortable and wish it were over!!
Is this normal??? Can I get any help?? Is it sex or my husband that I do not want?? Should I suggest my husband get sexual gratification from other woman. I would do anything to take the pressure off of me!
The scary thing is... I really want another baby!!!
Sorry if this is a bit long :) Can you offer any advice?
Thanks so much for your time. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated!
Best wishes
Vanessa :) (link)
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It seems like the other comments covered this pretty well. Having such a great aversion to sex is not healthy. There is either something not right with you physically or mentally. It sounds like it's mostly the latter, but you should definitely visit a gynecologist to make sure everything is all right down there. I really suggest that you and your husband try to see a sex therapist. I'm sure your doctor or gynecologist could refer you to one that is within in your price range. They are professionals and can probably help you a little more thoroughly than we can. It makes me really sad to know that people have this problem, so I wish the best of luck to you and hope that everything works out!
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i think i may be a lesbian or bi! i have a boy friend whom i love but when i read things about girls and boys having sex it just grosses me out. but when i read about two girls i get sooo horny! i love my boyfriend but i just am really sexually attracted to girls.... i can't be... can I? (link)
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You don't have to have a clear black and white answer, just go with what you like. Labeling it is not really important; it's okay to be not sure.. but think of it this way. Imagine having sex with your boyfriend (whether you already have or not)...does the though of having sex with him, or any other guy gross you out? If it does, you just might like girls more sexually, even if you are attracted to guys every once in a while.
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is it true that you have to be really tall to be a model?
i asked this quesiton to some people and they said yes.. but some said you just have to be really tall if you wanna be a runway model..
what about normal models in magazines and stuff cause i'm 5'2" but i really wanna be a model and i don't know if i could be one since i'm so short=[
thanx! i'll rate high for nice, realistic answers =] (link)
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I'm 5'2" and I met someone once who kept telling me to go into modeling...and when I said that I was too short they told me that I could still do editorial modeling (magazine ads, pretty much). Runway is out of the question for us shorties though, unless you're already famous in some other way and you're just doing it for fun. 5'7" is even considered short for the runway, so how do you think 5'2" would go over? heheh
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Theres this boy that i really like and hes in my class. Well in class we use these white boards. And the boy i like wrote loser on it and showed it to me im like thats so mean. I had wrote my name and he wrote his name and wrote hates so it was ____ hates ____. I thought it was really mean He said he was just kidding and he would never say that to me and mean it. We are really good friends and we talk all the time and he ate lunch with me today and he would mess around with me jokingly. We were walking up the steps and i stopped while walking and he almost fell but he thought it was funny.He doesnt know i like him. Do you think him saying this stuff would mean anything. Other then its mean to say. (link)
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If you're good friends then I wouldn't worry about it. He was probably just messing with you because he thinks he's being funny. I don't see a reason to dislike it so much because it's obvious that he's not seriously saying that he hates you, but I suppose if he does it again just say that you don't like being called that, even jokingly.
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So I'm taking a lyrical class this year and my dance teacher is this really weird spiritual lady. I'm one of the best dancers with the most experience in my class. She always corrects me and i just give her looks behind her back because whatever corrections she gives are made from her jumping to conclusions. She only gives me corrections no one else! HELLO lady im the best effin dancer you have in your class! So today she took me aside and gave me a talk heres what happened:
Her:I've noticed that when i correct you, you always look somewhat discouraged afterward. is this true.
Me: Yes
Her: Why do you think that?
Me: Well, I'm not used to being corrected in dance. I mean, my dance teachers have never corrected me so im not used to it.
Her: Thank you for opening up and sharing! You know I am doing that because I care. If I didn't give corrections you would go up on stage and they would say "What are you doing Mrs** why didn't you fix that?"
Me:(thinking in my head)THEN WHY DON'T YOU CORRECT YOUR OTHER 7 STUDENTS?????
After that I walked out of the door and started crying. I feel like im the only dancer in my lame class that is bad, even though i know this isn't true. i don't understand how this lady thinks and i can't stand to be around her. What should I do? I have tryouts this weekend and my confidence is now crushed into smithereens!!! (link)
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If it helps to think this way, then I would look at it like this...
Maybe she sees that you have more potential than most of the other dancers, and therefore she feels the need to correct you because she thinks that you're already good, but can improve even more. I'm in theatre, and a lot of the time, for me anyway, critisism is the greatest gift someone can give you because it means that they actually care about your progression/improvement/ whatever. Instead of taking her critisism as her saying 'you suck' just try to remember that you're still a great dancer, there's just always more to learn. Also, she might just continue to give you critisism more than the others because she realizes that it upsets you to get it. If you want to be a dancer, it's crucial to learn how to take it, because in the real world, it gets a lot worse.
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Which of these thesis paper topics (about anything in American History)sounds more like a thesis & something a teacher would probably prefer?
1. Arthur Miller's personal life experinces were the biggest contributuions to his success as a great American playwright.
2. Many different events and issues in the later half of the 20th century helped to shape the ideology of American theatre.
(these would not be the final thesis sentences...i will re-word them...I just need a feel for which is better.) (link)
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The last one is way, way too vague. I think my AP english teacher actually used a sentence very similar to that when he was telling us how not to make a thesis statment. I'd go with the first one.
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So, i've been going through some crap. i'm a freshman, and at the beginning of the year i was in a show where i met a bunch of seniors and juniors and sophomores and other freshman and became friends with them. one of them i immediately had a crush on and his name was david, and he's a senior. he's had a girlfriend for almost a year now, but the girlfriend is a sophomore and she is SO oblivious to what is going on around her and she has no social life and she studies all the time, and she's not a very sexual person at all though her boyfriend is. so by the time the show ended, we were all really good friends. a few weeks later, i started another show with some of them, and david was in it and we grew to be even closer. we used to talk online every night about stuff. keep in mind, now, that he didnt get all that much from his girlfriend. after awhile, things began to get a little out of hand online-i told him that i do masturbate, and that's where it kind of took off. we started to like do it together online, and it wasnt all that bad, but it still was wrong. and we told each other everything and talked about sex all the time and fantasies we have and who we'd like to have sex with. he would compliment me all the time, and tell me i'm beautiful and that he would love to have sex with me someday, but he would never do anything right now because i'm so much younger than him (he's 18, i'm 14). so this went on 2-4 times a week, and it slowly got like more intense and we would say what we were doing as we did it and i dont know what made me do it because i know it was stupid and all but i had a huge crush on him and he made me feel so good about myself. and he used to kid around all the time about sending naked pictures. until one night when he actually did. they got more and more "risky" each picture he sent and by the last one was just like him naked and it was so fun but so wrong! and he asked me to do the same..so i said i would..but i was so afraid because im self conscious and naked pictures are just a bad idea in general. so the next night i did it and sent more teasingly pictures than completely naked ones, and he sent more, and the next night we did it together at the same time and did the whole cyber thing. he also sent a video and asked me to do the same the next night..i was so stressed out every day because i didnt want to take the pictures but at the same time i did and i loved his compliments and i wanted to please him and a video would be just awkward you know? but the night before we did he went to a party, got drunk, and kissed another girl and had to tell his girlfriend and it was this big to do so i told him we need to stop and we did. so then i was like alright we'll still be close and all will be well. yeaaaa right. he didnt talk to me that much at all and he told people he was sick of me and he totally ignored me for a week and during that week i figured out from talking to other people and through whats been going on that he was just using me and he never actually cared about me and was only nice to me and pretended to be my friend so id send the pictures and cyber with him at night. not only did he do this to me, he started to do this with another girl within the past week. and shes 14 too. it sucks and it hurts a lot and he IMed me this morning and said "you are really mad at me huh?" and i just let him have it and i felt so great but he was sweet and said he really does care and really is my friend and all and feels guilty and like..w'ere going to talk later tonight..and i still like him..and i dont know what i should do now! not be friends with him anymore? be aquaintances? be friends? let it all go? be mad or upset? i'm so confused. sorry this is so long, but any help/advice would be greatly appreciated!:) (link)
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Here's what I don't understand. It's so completely and utterly awful to have an 18 asking for nude photos of you, but I know if you had said he was 17 people wouldn't be as harsh about it. It seems extreme to report him to the police. You can, if you want, but only do it for the right reasons. Don't do it simply because you're pissed off that he used you. That really doesn't help anything. You do need to tell his girlfriend though what's happening. She might hate you for it, but you were never close to her to begin with, so who cares? Make sure she knows that you're sorry, and that you realize what you did was wrong. Just move on. Don't be mad, or upset, but don't be friends with him either. Forget about him because he's obviously a sleaze, and DEFINITELY don't talk to him online anymore! Good luck.
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my mom made me break up with my boyfriend just recently.I did what was told,but my mom still thinks we are going out.my mom makes me use the phone in the living room or let her listen on the other line.I have no privacy.How do I get more privacy?why is she doing this when I did what I was suppose to? (link)
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Hmm...this response might be really out there but it's worth a shot, since most of the time there's really not much you can do with overprotective parents because they are so set in their thought processes. You could have your mom talk to your now ex boyfriend's parents (preferably his mom since women seem to be more open with each other) so that she's absolutely sure that nothing is happening anymore. It's just a thought, and it might sound kind of awkward, but I think it's the strongest proof you can give her that you're not dating him anymore.
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