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Can't stand my dance teacher!!
So I'm taking a lyrical class this year and my dance teacher is this really weird spiritual lady. I'm one of the best dancers with the most experience in my class. She always corrects me and i just give her looks behind her back because whatever corrections she gives are made from her jumping to conclusions. She only gives me corrections no one else! HELLO lady im the best effin dancer you have in your class! So today she took me aside and gave me a talk heres what happened:
Her:I've noticed that when i correct you, you always look somewhat discouraged afterward. is this true.
Me: Yes
Her: Why do you think that?
Me: Well, I'm not used to being corrected in dance. I mean, my dance teachers have never corrected me so im not used to it.
Her: Thank you for opening up and sharing! You know I am doing that because I care. If I didn't give corrections you would go up on stage and they would say "What are you doing Mrs** why didn't you fix that?"
Me:(thinking in my head)THEN WHY DON'T YOU CORRECT YOUR OTHER 7 STUDENTS?????
After that I walked out of the door and started crying. I feel like im the only dancer in my lame class that is bad, even though i know this isn't true. i don't understand how this lady thinks and i can't stand to be around her. What should I do? I have tryouts this weekend and my confidence is now crushed into smithereens!!!
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You confidence shouldn't be crushed.
She is hard on you because she knows you have the talent. The others don't. She is just trying to make you use the talent you have to its greatest potential.
Don't be satisfied just being good. Let her help you be the greatest! Learn from what she is trying to teach you instead of rebelling or being hurt by it.
Good luck at tryouts! :)
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If it helps to think this way, then I would look at it like this...
Maybe she sees that you have more potential than most of the other dancers, and therefore she feels the need to correct you because she thinks that you're already good, but can improve even more. I'm in theatre, and a lot of the time, for me anyway, critisism is the greatest gift someone can give you because it means that they actually care about your progression/improvement/ whatever. Instead of taking her critisism as her saying 'you suck' just try to remember that you're still a great dancer, there's just always more to learn. Also, she might just continue to give you critisism more than the others because she realizes that it upsets you to get it. If you want to be a dancer, it's crucial to learn how to take it, because in the real world, it gets a lot worse.
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