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My name is Angel, and I'm from northern California. I come from a large family where I'm the oldest, and I've lived a long, strange life. I have just about seen it all. In the last couple years, I have kicked a bad drug/alcohol addiction, and I can proudly say that I'm a sober teenage girl. I have a job, I'm a nanny/family assistant, whatever you want to call it. I'm a senior in high school, and I'm genuinely happy. I have a boyfriend, and we've been together for almost a year now. I have a lot of good advice, because I have a lot of life experience. I come from a broken family, I have step-relatives, and half-relatives. I just reunited with my mother after 10 years. My sister is a drug addict of the worst possible kind. I've been in all types of relationships. I guess it's safe to say that I know a little bit about a lot of things, and there's a lot that I know a lot about. Then there's things that I know nothing about, and that's when I ask questions. Thanks for reading my little rant, ask me anything. I check my email everyday, so if you can't reach me on my column, email me. ~Angel xoxo

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ok quick question what does "jenna say qwa" mean? (its french but i dont know how to spell it in french so that just how you pronounce it.)

kthxbye

I speak French fluently and I can tell you that Je ne sais pas, means I don't know. It wouldn't make sense to say Je ne sais quoi, because that doesn't complete the negative phrase. My best translation for you would be je ne sais pas [juh nuh say pah; jeuhn say pa] which means I don't know.

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hey im 13/f. i recently have wanted to start wearing makeup but im not sure what colors are right for me. i have medium lenght brown hair. i have brown eyes with tints of green in them and dark eyebrows. i am 4'10'' and i want to know how to put it on without making it look over the top and slutty. colors and techniques would be great! thanks!

Being that you're so young, I would reccommend earth tones to compliment your face but not bring on a slutty appearance. Browns, creams, golds, and some whites, even with shimmer, seem like your best bet. To bring out the brown eyes though, you might want to try a blue, but if you want to bring out the green in your eyes do purple. Eyeshadows with shimmer tend to stand out way more, so if you want a more subtle look, go for eyeshadow without shimmer. Don't use too much liquid eyeliner, if any at all, and try to do minimum bottom eyeliner. As far as putting eyeshadow on goes, put a circle in each far corner of your eye and blend inward, it makes your eyes look more open and it draws subtle attention to your face. Keep in touch if you want more tips. -Angel

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i am 15/f to start off. i have a little tummy fat and pretty big love handles (it runs in the family, we are all VERY high waisted =[) and i want to get rid of them. i have been doing some situps and i play volleyball and i haven't been eating that badly of junk foods. but is it a waste to do situps when i still have fat? like i have heard that you first should run off the fat where you have none, and then do situps to tone them and make then like hard or whatever. but i am not much of a runner and i do play sports. so is it stupid to do situps and hope that my love handles and stomach will get smaller if you have to have no fat before you do situps? thank you =]

You should try to maintain a low-carb diet, and also try to get as much cardio into your workout plan as you can. It's bad to just go straight to situps without getting your heart going first. And cardiovascular activity is the best way to burn off fat and build muscle. If you maintain a low carb diet and do cardio along with sit-ups and exercises for your back and love handles, you should start to see results in 2-3 weeks if you work out 3-5 times a week. Good luck. -Angel

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I want guys to look at me more. Guys tell me I'm really pretty, but I don't think I have the personality to go with it. I'm very loud and outgoing and sometimes I think I take it too far. How do I learn to hold it back and look less immature and annoying to guys? Thanks :)

Being charismatic does help when trying to talk to guys. But you should be a little mysterious or make them wonder a little bit to make things interesting for them. You also have to act like someone a guy would want, be super confident, but not too loud or crazy. The best thing to do though is to be yourself and to let the right guy find you. Good luck, hope I helped. -Angel

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I don't know if i'm depressed or not. When I'm at school with friends and stuff, I'm fine, but when i'm by myself, the only thing I want to do is cry. My boyfriend of 2 years broke up with me, led me on, and left me again, and I think that's the core reason why I'm like this. What can I do to be happier? My friends never call me, and when I call them, they either are busy or something comes up. Someone help me please.

Make yourself very socially available. What I mean by this, for example, in my town, you can go to the movies and there will always be people there. Do something like that. If your friends don't call you and when you call them they're always busy, make new friends. It's not so hard, you just need a little change in your life to keep your mind off the boyfriend situation. Right now just focus on yourself and what makes you happy. Life is what you make it, so the only way to be happy is to let yourself be happy, and to let yourself move on. Good luck. -Angel

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what exactly is considered sexually active?

Sexually active is anything related to sexual/sensual pleasure. So it does include oral sex, and all that other good stuff.

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I just got my heart broken.he didnt reject me but i realized, he has no interest, which was a huge,hard step. i am trying to get over it as best i can,but its hard because hes about to ask out one of my best friends out and we hang alot with him. He uses me all the time and still sends me mixed signals, which i now know ( as much as it hurts) they r not mixed he is just breaking my heart every time he does it. I need to get over him. Im becoming deppressed and i just cant live with it anymore. i need a way out. i cant keep this up and all i want to do anymore is live and be happy again. please help

When you're crazy about someone, breaking up is always hard. I went through heartbreak myself not too long ago, and there is no specific remedy to cure a broken heart. Everyone does something different to ease the situation, I would say, take some time and spend it on yourself. Maybe take yourself out to ice cream [as lame as it sounds, it helps] or do your makeup really cute with a really cute outfit and hang out with your friends. The less you think about this guy and how he broke your heart, the easier it is to move on. I can tell you that if I were to think about my heartbreak, I would still tear up. My best advice to you is to have more "Me Time" and do the things you love to do. Good luck, keep me posted. -Angel

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i had sex
and
the guy cummed in like 5 minutes

explanations??

He could be way too used to jacking off. Or he may not be experienced, or maybe you are just great in bed. There's a lot of possible explanations...
-Angel

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there are these boys in my grade. their the popular ones and i was online one night and they were on & were all like you're so ugly just go and die. no one likes you so just go to hell. now they call me gorilla b/c im so ugly. i've tried ignoring them but it dosent work. now all of the boys are saying it b/c they bascally worship the popular kids. i'm the only one they pick on. can you please give me some advice or comebacks?

thanxx

You know what I have to say about these immature kids. Screw them. What difference should they make in your life, if you think you're ugly, it'll show, if you take a different approach and show more self-esteem, that will also show. If you have confidence in yourself and your attractiveness, these people will see that they're simply just not getting through to you and there's no point in making fun of you. Don't sink down to their level with comebacks and stuff, screw them, what do they matter to you? Don't pay attention to their stupidity and ignorant remarks, do take a step back to show yourself a little more respect, you deserve it. Take my advice, and good luck with it. -Angel

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i had a crush on a guy thats treated me like shit for a year & a half now. im guessing it's best to get him out of my life, but he thinks telling me to kill myself is a funny joke & i should learn to lighten up. "/ i started ignoring him, which is working, but im wondering if i did the right thing. cause right now i feel miserable & like i will never find a guy that treats me with some kind of respect.

When it comes down to it, you really did do the right thing, anybody that makes you feel bad about yourself is nobody worth your time. You will find someone that will treat you with respect and you'll make a great partner for someone because you'll appreciate the way they respect you. I know that since I started dating, I went from the worst guy, up the scale, and now I think my boyfriend's the best in the world for me. So don't be down on yourself because of what this guy said to you, you will be so happy one day that you wont even remember what a creep that guy was. And you did the right thing. -Angel

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female..15 years old.


OK..so i got this bf about 2 days ago.I like him but i think i would be ashamed to be out in public with him.but lets backtrack...on new year's eve my friend,her bf(david) and his friend(justin) wanted to spend the night with me so my dad let them..and me and justin hit it off well and i liked him but then i got sent off for six months and just got back 2 weeks ago.ok back on track..ok well now that i have this bf...my friends want to have the same kind of party again so me and justin are supposed to be hooking up and i like him alot but i just got this new bf and that would be mean..so should i stick with my bf or go for justin.

If you're thinking about possibly hooking up with Justin, then don't stay with your boyfriend because it'll only end up breaking both of your hearts if you cheat on him. However, if you think you can contain yourself at this kind of party, then you may want to at least let your boyfriend know whatsup. Ultimately the decision is yours and you should do whatever makes you happiest. Good luck. -Angel

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does anybody have the LG VX9800 ? is it any good, in your opinion? i'm gonna get a new cell phone soon and that one is interesting to me. if that one's bad lol, what are some other (Verizon wireless) cell phones that are good? thankss!!

I like the VX9800 and would say you should get it. I have the LG VX7000 and I love it because you can move the camera so that you can take a picture of yourself while you look at the screen. Not really the best 'advice' but if you're looking at other phones, I would also reccommend the VX7000. Good Luck. -Angel

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well i figured that id tell you that my boyfriend has tried to talk to her and shes been good recently but i just cant seem to forget her and let go .. and i think it might be ruining my relatioship =[

Your boyfriend should only have eyes for you and only be thinking about you, and if this is true, which i'm sure it is, then you shouldn't worry about this stupid girl. Don't even think about it because it's really not worth your relationship with your boyfriend and she'll think she got the best of you which is exactly what horrible girls like her want to do.

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a few years ago, my mom got really sick, she was in the hospital for about 6 months, But the problem is, now that my mom is okay most of the time, she wants to get out and do things. However, she cant drive (and Neither can I, I'm fifteen) so we always have to take the bus. But recently my mom found out that her legs are too weak to walk or get up stairs, and has to take a special car service. There is the option of her bringing me along on the ride for free, but the car has advertising on the side, and people can tell that my mom is on disability and stuff. And it embarrasses me. A lot of my friends parents have big houses and lots of money, and I feel embarrassed about a lot of things about my life like my apartment, and the fact that we dont have a car and I always have to ask my friends parents for rides home. they are all really nice people and know about the situation, but it has been really hard for me to open up to my friends about it. Only my very best friend knows the whole story. And that makes everything so much harder, because I dont have any one to talk to about it. and when I tell my mom that I'm embarrassed by things like the car service, she just gets upset. she has learned to deal with the fact that she needs help, but I havent, and I dont know how to become less embarrassed, and learn to deal with it myself. All I've ever wanted is a life that seems normal, and knowing that may never be possible, is very hard for me to come to terms with. I realize that hollywood etc, portrays a false idea of normal, and that everyone's idea of normal is differnet. I'm very confused. I wish that I could get over the embarrasment and go on with life, but I dont know if I ever will be able to. What would you do if you were in my situation? Thanks in advance for your help.

Instead of dwelling on what you don't have compared to your friends, why don't you start appreciating more the things that you do have. Your mom was hospitalized for 6 months and lived through whatever she was fighting, that's AMAZING. There's people out there much like myself, who don't even have a mom. And you have one really good friend who you can confide in and talk to about your problems. One person that will listen to you and console you is all you need and that's great that you have a best friend. You also have to think that your friends can't all have perfect lives, because there is no such thing as a perfect home, family or person or anything. Everything and everyone in society is all very different and although maybe your friends live in a big house, maybe their parents are workaholics or alcohol abusers, maybe you would begin to know these things if you could open up to your other friends and let them know more about you and your life. Good luck. -Angel

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13/f/usa

Hey, I had this friend when I was in 6th grade,(I was 11 at the time) Let's call her carrie,and her brother used to always come home drunk at night. Well, she used to tell me that she was really scared that her brother would do something to her. Well one night, when he came home drunk, he raped her, and the night she told me, she committed suicide. Well, now I'm in 8th grade and the memory of her and her story just sorta haunts me. my brother comes home drunk all the time now, and to make it worse, he has anger issues. well, now I'm really scared that he might rape me. Can you help me please? I'm like really paranoid.

This is more of an issue you should be talking with your parents about. Although it's likely your brother would never rape you, it's a sick world and your haunting memory gives you every right to be paranoid. Depending on if your brother is of drinking age or not, you could have your parents send him through an AA program, or something so he wont drink as much and bring back your terrorizing memories of your poor friend. Good luck, and I really hope things work out. -Angel

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I have bean accepted to join the Royal Marines in July 2007 but i am not sure if i sould go, i fell in love with an amazing girl and i dont know if i can leave her. she always cries whenever i bring up the subject and she is begging me not to go. I have wanted to join for my entire life but now i am not so sure because i am scared she will not be there for me when i come back.
Please help give me your opinions.

If this amazing girl loves you as much as she says she does, then she should be able to wait for you while you're in the Marines. But in her defense, the girl must be worried about you, and would hate to see you leave her as well. But if she loves you she should be able to see that this is something that you've really wanted your entire life and she should support you just like you would support any of her decisions. Good luck with your girl, the marines, and in life. Hope I helped. -Angel

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If you had a choice. If you had to choose between studying for a really important test or helping out a friend in need. What would you do?

It really depends on the situation with your friend, the test, and your teacher. I'm the type of person that is always there for my friends because I would be offended if they didn't show the same respect for me, I would try to study for the test for a little bit, and then help your friend, and then explain to your teacher tomorrow that you're really sorry but you didn't get a chance to study because you had a friend in need of your help but you'll make up the test as soon as you possibly can. Good luck with that.. hope I helped. -Angel

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ok so my friend spent the night with me for the first time 2 nights ago. and she was just admiring my earings, well today when i went to school she has that on and my shark tooth necklace. i said those are my earrings, and thats my necklace. and she goes "no my mom made me go to clairs with her". ok 1. she lied to me bkuz when i gt home i looked everywhere for them and 2. she stole from me. what mom "makes" their daughter go to clairs with her. not her mom, i know her mom. i am sooo mad at her, what should i do? i really want to tell her mom bkuz i really want to get her in trouble, please help, i'm desperate! thx...

If you want to tell her mom, tell her more along the lines of... " I don't want to get (name) in any trouble or accuse her of anything, but I saw her wearing a few things that looked a lot like some of the things i've been missing recently.." Her mom should understand, it wouldn't be right of you to steal back your stuff from her. So talk to her mom about it and hopefully things work out.. good luck. -Angel

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soo me and my boyfriend are planning on having sex for the first time soon. it will be my first time, but not his. what do i need to know?

It's going to hurt no matter what, so be warned. Use protection, don't be alarmed if you bleed, and tell him that you might not be able to keep up with him sexually right away and you might make him have to stop. After the first time, it just keeps getting better and better. Good luck.

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ok well lets start off by this. i went into highschool this year and got this real big crush on this one kid. i think he likes me too and stuff because he always tries to start up conversations with me, stares at me, and tries sits next to me. WE barely even talk though! haha i love playing "hard to get". But ANYWAY... i found out that he does drugs (pot) and drinks. To me i think thats really hot. I dont know why... but i think the whole bad boy thing is mega hot. What should i do? Should i still try to hook up with him... or just drop him from no beginning. I'm really confused but I REALLY wanna hook up with him! I've never kissed anyone or done anything yet. But with him I'm not nervous to be goofy infront of. Whats your advice? Thanks

I say go for it. If you're not used to the bad boy type though, let me just tell you a couple of things. They aren't the sweet and affectionate type like what's his face in the Notebook, they can act like little hardasses sometimes, unless they're in love, so make sure that you're not getting yourself into anything you'll regret with this kid. Good luck.

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