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I'm Really Scared........
13/f/usa
Hey, I had this friend when I was in 6th grade,(I was 11 at the time) Let's call her carrie,and her brother used to always come home drunk at night. Well, she used to tell me that she was really scared that her brother would do something to her. Well one night, when he came home drunk, he raped her, and the night she told me, she committed suicide. Well, now I'm in 8th grade and the memory of her and her story just sorta haunts me. my brother comes home drunk all the time now, and to make it worse, he has anger issues. well, now I'm really scared that he might rape me. Can you help me please? I'm like really paranoid.
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This is more of an issue you should be talking with your parents about. Although it's likely your brother would never rape you, it's a sick world and your haunting memory gives you every right to be paranoid. Depending on if your brother is of drinking age or not, you could have your parents send him through an AA program, or something so he wont drink as much and bring back your terrorizing memories of your poor friend. Good luck, and I really hope things work out. -Angel
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If you are really that scared you need to get out of the house. Tell a parent, tell a counselor, tell the police if you have to. Just getout of there if you truley think he i going to hurt or rape you. If you are afraid to tell someone, just try to build up the confidence to tell. There is someone you can go to and people that care about you will be there to help you get out of the situation. If he comes close to hurting you when he is drunk, then you need to lock yourself in a safe plac until he has calmed down, or cal someone to get you.
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okay i'm a realist. you need to not listen to the people below me, they all offer the same advice 'TALK TO YOUR PARENT. TELL SOMEONE!' well you know what? Thats not going to help, you need to take action now. I suggest locking your door. Its simple but its what i would do, and if you have friends down the street try to sleep over their houses or something. Also, i know its immature or whatever but I still sleep in my mom's bed sometimes. Hes not gonna touch you if your with her.
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oh my god, that's horrible. if i were i'd say, you really need to talk to your brother about his coming home drunk. tell him what happened with your friend, and explain to him you'd really be emotionally, and physically scarred if he ever did something like that to you, tell him, if he wants to come home drunk, then he needs to not be around you, and he needs to keep his distance from you.
and if he doesn't listen to you, then i really think you should talk to your parents about it.
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The situations have similarities and you are not paranoid. You need to talk to an adult who will listen to you, if your parents are unaware or ignoring the facts you have disclosed here. Teachers, school counselors, a pastor, child protective services and the local police/social services are all there to help you. I don't want you to suffer with fear another minute in that scary situation by yourself. Reach out to an adult for help in confronting your brother and parents. Your brother has a drinking and anger problems and he needs help, too! You both deserve support and should be able to get some good free counseling as well. There are people who care and programs made for you, but you have to let people know and don't stop until someone listens. I can't tell you if your brother is capable of rape or any other form of violence, but we cannot take the risk. You are too important. I am so sorry about your friend and it is immensely tragic that she did not get help that she needed before she took her life. You know better and can now be proactive in seeking and getting real support. Let me know what you come up with and I will be thinking of you until you do. Let me know.
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I would very strongly suggest to you that you talk to your parents about how scared your brother makes you feel when he has had a drink. Did your parents know about your friend? You need to talk to someone about how it is affecting you now - sometimes it can years to get over such a tragic passing.
I hope I am not wrong, but I don't think that your brother would do to you as your friend had done to her. He obviously has problems that he needs to deal with but he should not be putting you or your parents at any risk. Can he be persuaded to seek help with his drinking problem?
You have the right to feel safe within your own home and you should be able to tell your parents how you are feeling right now. If they do not, or cannot, help you with your brother, please talk to another adult you trust. It could be a teacher or the preacher at your Church or even a grandparent. You should not have to deal with this alone at your age.
As an immediate solution, ask your Dad or Mum if you could have a lock fitted to your bedroom so that you can sleep safely at night. Explain to them why you feel you need one and they should be able to help. If they say no, put a chair against your door at night so that he will make a noise if he enters your room.
I sincerely hope that you find the help you need at home, and counselling to get you through those feelings you have about your friends passing. I wish you all the best.
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