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a boy...?
ok well lets start off by this. i went into highschool this year and got this real big crush on this one kid. i think he likes me too and stuff because he always tries to start up conversations with me, stares at me, and tries sits next to me. WE barely even talk though! haha i love playing "hard to get". But ANYWAY... i found out that he does drugs (pot) and drinks. To me i think thats really hot. I dont know why... but i think the whole bad boy thing is mega hot. What should i do? Should i still try to hook up with him... or just drop him from no beginning. I'm really confused but I REALLY wanna hook up with him! I've never kissed anyone or done anything yet. But with him I'm not nervous to be goofy infront of. Whats your advice? Thanks
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I say don't be a jackass. I guarantee if you go for him, you'll start doing pot and drinking, fry what few brain cells you were born with, and later on overdose on heroin.
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Speaking as someone from a generation above you, it's hard for me not to get all parental and such. In any event, from what I gather, adult disapproval would probably just make him more attractive to you. So, in the interests of minimizing the harm you're going to do to yourself by dating him, I offer the following tidbits of advice:
(1) Don't carry, store, deliver, or sell his drugs for him. I'd say don't use them either, but who are we kidding? You're probably going to anyway.
(2) Be prepared for hurt. The thing about "bad boys" is that they're rarely bad about just one thing. He's willing to bend the rules on some things, and he'll probably also be willing to bend them on things like kissing other girls and such. You'll want to make up your mind now how you intend to react to that.
(3) You're going to get a reputation. People will look at the two of you and think, "He's bad. She likes him, so she must be bad too. She must be a slut." I guarantee you that whether it's true or not, people will think that, so decide now if you can live with that.
(4) Another thing about "bad boys" is that they sometimes get worse. Decide now how far down into the well you'll be willing to follow him should that happen.
Finally, and I really can't help myself, what the hell is so attractive about using drugs and alcohol? Anyone can do that. Frankly, your standards of what makes for a desireable guy are pretty low, and it's probably just as well that you're removing yourself from the list of eligible girls for decent guys to date.
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I say go for it. If you're not used to the bad boy type though, let me just tell you a couple of things. They aren't the sweet and affectionate type like what's his face in the Notebook, they can act like little hardasses sometimes, unless they're in love, so make sure that you're not getting yourself into anything you'll regret with this kid. Good luck.
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