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my mom
a few years ago, my mom got really sick, she was in the hospital for about 6 months, But the problem is, now that my mom is okay most of the time, she wants to get out and do things. However, she cant drive (and Neither can I, I'm fifteen) so we always have to take the bus. But recently my mom found out that her legs are too weak to walk or get up stairs, and has to take a special car service. There is the option of her bringing me along on the ride for free, but the car has advertising on the side, and people can tell that my mom is on disability and stuff. And it embarrasses me. A lot of my friends parents have big houses and lots of money, and I feel embarrassed about a lot of things about my life like my apartment, and the fact that we dont have a car and I always have to ask my friends parents for rides home. they are all really nice people and know about the situation, but it has been really hard for me to open up to my friends about it. Only my very best friend knows the whole story. And that makes everything so much harder, because I dont have any one to talk to about it. and when I tell my mom that I'm embarrassed by things like the car service, she just gets upset. she has learned to deal with the fact that she needs help, but I havent, and I dont know how to become less embarrassed, and learn to deal with it myself. All I've ever wanted is a life that seems normal, and knowing that may never be possible, is very hard for me to come to terms with. I realize that hollywood etc, portrays a false idea of normal, and that everyone's idea of normal is differnet. I'm very confused. I wish that I could get over the embarrasment and go on with life, but I dont know if I ever will be able to. What would you do if you were in my situation? Thanks in advance for your help.
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Instead of dwelling on what you don't have compared to your friends, why don't you start appreciating more the things that you do have. Your mom was hospitalized for 6 months and lived through whatever she was fighting, that's AMAZING. There's people out there much like myself, who don't even have a mom. And you have one really good friend who you can confide in and talk to about your problems. One person that will listen to you and console you is all you need and that's great that you have a best friend. You also have to think that your friends can't all have perfect lives, because there is no such thing as a perfect home, family or person or anything. Everything and everyone in society is all very different and although maybe your friends live in a big house, maybe their parents are workaholics or alcohol abusers, maybe you would begin to know these things if you could open up to your other friends and let them know more about you and your life. Good luck. -Angel
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I am disabled and I need to use a wheelchair sometimes. I have never known my family to be embarrassed about pushing me around and very often we have a great laugh mucking about. However, I do feel highly embarrassed myself sometimes and I also feel that I am a burden to them at times. This is something that I keep inside because I do not want anyone else to know that that is how I feel. The grass always appears to be greener on the other side, but I can assure you that if you look a little closer, there is often a very dark cloud hanging around. We choose not to let other people suffer because of how we feel, and I think that you need to realise that no matter how embarrassed or uncomfortable you feel, your Mum may feel it also.
Feeling embarrassed is not the same as feeling sorry for yourself. You have your Mum around when a lot of people do not. She is there to give you a cuddle when you need it, a helping hand or even just a word of encouragement. I believe that you are capable of great love and so are the people around you. You will grow up with a greater compassion for differences. Your friends like you for you, not your apartment or your lifestyle. They have no problem with your Mum or your lack of transport, so hold your head up high, look people in the eye and smile. It works for me.
I wish you all the very best.
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You should NEVER be embarrrased of your Family. NEVER. If people make fun of you, then forget them, who needs them? Remember there is no such thing as normal and blood is thicker then water. Remember that. Never take your Family for granted and dont be embarrased of something like that. You should be proud that you Family loves you.
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