|
liar and a stealer
ok so my friend spent the night with me for the first time 2 nights ago. and she was just admiring my earings, well today when i went to school she has that on and my shark tooth necklace. i said those are my earrings, and thats my necklace. and she goes "no my mom made me go to clairs with her". ok 1. she lied to me bkuz when i gt home i looked everywhere for them and 2. she stole from me. what mom "makes" their daughter go to clairs with her. not her mom, i know her mom. i am sooo mad at her, what should i do? i really want to tell her mom bkuz i really want to get her in trouble, please help, i'm desperate! thx...
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
Ya know, I had the exact same thing happen with my favorite sweater when I was thirteen and like you, I never had any proof. So I stayed her 'friend' although I put some distance between her and I, and I never invited her over to my house agian.
So confront your 'friend', in private, and give her an oppertunity to give the things back. Something simple and calm like "I know those are mine. If you give them back now we don't have to talk about this ever agian."
She probably wont.
But you aren't doing anyone any favors if you accuse her without proof to anyone else, and you'll never really be able to prove it. You'll only cause drama and 'he said/she said' fights. Don't bother to tell her mother. Almost noone's mother takes another child's side over thier own no matter how compelling the evidence is.
Tell your story if you are asked, but you don't need to badmouth her. If she is guilty, other people will figure it out soon enough, and then they might ask you for your story. Save it till then and keep your distance.
]
Hi.
Wow thats mean. If you want to tell her mom then you have umm maybe ALL the rights to. Be sensative, but not too sensative that t isn't believable. Besides, she's basically cheating herself. I Granpa owns lots of shark teeth stuff and they wouldn't sell them at Clairs. TRUST ME. You DEFINATLY have all the rights to tell her mom , and yours.
Good Luck! Hope i could help!!
-Yoliv
]
Talk to her mom about something you want to tell her, then drop by their house and have a meeting with both of them.
"Yo whore, give me by crap back!"
]
If you want to tell her mom, tell her more along the lines of... " I don't want to get (name) in any trouble or accuse her of anything, but I saw her wearing a few things that looked a lot like some of the things i've been missing recently.." Her mom should understand, it wouldn't be right of you to steal back your stuff from her. So talk to her mom about it and hopefully things work out.. good luck. -Angel
]
Your so called friend has a major problem with stealing, lying, and disrespecting you as a friend. I don't know why you would want to help her continue and get away with this rude and criminal behavior by covering for her. When someone is a witness to or knows about a crime and they keep quiet, they become liable and can get into a lot of trouble for inhibiting justice. This situation is not that dramatic, but she could be on her way to more and more bold immoral and or illegal activity. It sounds like you do not know how to confront her or lack the courage. Now is the time to take control and do the right thing by standing up for yourself and the truth. Start by telling your parents and getting their advice.
]
I know how you feel, because my friend was over my house for graduation and we were doing our hair. I was using a shine spray and then I left for a second and I came back and it was gone. I never thought anything of it and then one day I saw it in her room.
So, you should say something to her again, or, I know this might be hard to do, but take it back when she's not around. It seems like its the wrong thing to do, but really it's yours anyway right? I didn't get my shine spray back because I'm a coward and I don't have the guts to take it back. Don't ask me why. But, yeah, your right. No mom MAKES a daughter go to Claire's and FORCE her to buy the same exact thing she just complimented you on.
Hope I helped.
]
If you want to get her into trouble, then do so. She was caught with stealing something and she should get in trouble for it ; she deserves it.
I would just call her mother up and ask her if she ever took _(yourfriend)_ to Claire's the other day. If she DOES say yes, ask her what she bought her daughter because you noticed her daughter was wearing some similiar jewelry you have and it's been missing lately. You might as well be honest.
Just let her know you're not outright accusing her daughter just yet, you're just wondering because it is a little unsual for a friend to be wearing their friends same jewelery a couple days after they hung out. And just ask the mother if she can talk to her daughter and have her give you your jewelery back to you. And the next time you want to have a sleepover with her ; I suggest hiding all your good stuff you don't want her taking, or just sleep over hers.
I hope I helped.
]
I understand what a tough situation that is for you.
You should try to talk to her again though. Give her a chance to return your belongings. Tell her if she gives them back, you'll pretend like it never happened so long as she doesn't steal again.
If that doesn't work, you'll have to go to her mother and explain everything to her. Your friend included her in the alibi, so if anyone is going to know whether the necklace is from Claire's or not, it'll be the mom.
Don't put the issue aside, your friend may grow up and move on to stealing bigger things.
Good luck and tell me how it goes <3
]
More Questions: |