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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.I'm one of the very blessed.
I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.
Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.
Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.
I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.
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ok, this is embarasing but here goes... A while ago i got caught by my neighbor peeking in her window when she had some friends over for a sleepover. i was on her back porch peeking in her window when 1 of her friends came out and said what are you doing??? i was like.. o my god... i was so embarased. so she told the other girls wat i was doing and they all talked and then 1 of them came to me and said they wouldnt tell on me if i did wat they said. she said that to be fair they should get to see me naked and that I should strip naked for them. otherwize they would tell my mom that i was a pervert and a peeping tom. anyway, i did it. i took off all my clothes and let them all see me. they looked and giggled and stuff for a long time and then they let me go home. The thing is that since then a couple of them have made be do it again for girls that werent even at the sleepover. they say i desrve it for peeking at them that night. Do you think I deserve it? Should I keep doing it for them? Please give me your advice!
Thanks,
Paul
You got one look, so they should only get one look.
Now you know why it is rotten to go around peeping in the windows of girls.
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What county is vestavia alabama in?
Alabama is in the United States.
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I've planned to totally have it together for 2008. As in: I meant to treat my family properly, yet I've been worse than ever.
ie. my brother is twenty and has always been a late developer, however I find it hard to show him consideration.
HE WAS PLAYING THE SONG "BANANA PHONE" WHILE MOUTHING THE WORDS LIKE HE WAS SO ADORABLE AND I WAS DISGUSTED AND TOLD HIM HE'S TOO OLD TO THINK ANYONE WOULD FIND THAT TO BE CUTE.
I know I'm being a total bitch, so how can I keep calm and handle the situation in a positive way?
In a situation like that, try to respect your brother for being able to hold onto that kid at heart when so many can't.
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Ok, the answerer has a question this time.
First, for the last 2 months, I have been sick. I have been tender to the touch all over my body, and having muscle spasms. Does anyone know what this could be? Or someone that this has happened to as well?
Also, I have no insurance, and it's getting harder for me to get medical care. Does anyone know of free/low cost medical programs that are available? DHS is not an option, tried that already. Thanks in advance for any advice.
I know exactly where you are coming from- Should I go to the doctor and seek treatment I can't afford, or should I just stay sick and hope it gets better?
Of course, you should go to the doctor- it has been 2 months and your sickness hasn't gone away.
The question is how to do it?
If it were me, I would go to the doctor of my choice. The one who knows me, preferably.
Let them know that you have no insurance, and no means of paying the bill all at once. They should be willing to work out a payment arrangement with you that is affordable.
What about prescription medication?
Let your doctor know at your appointment that you are uninsured and can't afford high priced medications.
Some medications, such as antibiotics, they have on hand in free sample packages. They may be able to give you samples so you don't have to spend the money on medicine.
If they don't have it on hand, they will write you a prescription for something affordable. Some antibiotics cost as low as $10-$15 for a full prescription.
Don't let yourself be sick because you can't afford to be well. Sometimes doing that causes folks to overlook life-threatening illnesses.
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I'm in love with my stepsister. She's fun to be around and jokes around alot and she's beautiful to me. I'm terrified of rejection so what should i do?
You should do nothing.
Step sister makes her technically your sister.
So, I dated a boy for over a year. He was really great, but I just had to leave, I wasn't feeling the relationship anymore.
It's been two months, and he just messaged me, a very long message, saying if I'd like to go out on a date ,it was long and very sweet but he also sounded really sad.
The thing is i don't want a relationship with him again, and I have another boyfriend.
I just don't want to hurt him, can i tell him we can have dinner as friends? I don't want to get his hopes us. I feel very awkward saying we can't get back together.
I fully agree with HectorJr- going on a dinner date with him AND other friends will be a lot less apt to give him the wrong impression.
You have to be straightforward with him. Tell him you have a boyfriend, and you only want to see him as a friend.
Better to hurt his feelings with the truth than to give him the idea it is something it's not.
If you can't deal with the whole dinner thing at all, then respectfully decline.
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A lot of my friends birthdays are coming up and I'm not wanting to buy them like a huge gift. I was wanting to make something little and creative. Really anything, just something for a birthday like a little cake.. and a creative card? Some ideas would be all the most helpful. thanks :)
What's wrong with your idea?
That's what I would go with since that is the idea you, personally, put thought into.
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Ok 14f and I have this friend that is just perfect. Not perfect in looks though, but ive gotten pass that. I feel like hes a good friend and a great person. And I luv him. but thats luv as for friends and family. Sometimes I cant help but question if I like him or not. I wouldnt say I do but its deep down inside that questions it. One day I was talking to him and he was carrying something for me and as he was near me but I was talking with my friend, I couldnt help but think "wow I luv this kid more and more each day" and funny thing is I almost blurted it out until i realized what i was thinking and that he might of heard. im so confused. Because.. When do I know when LUV turns into LOVE ?
I'm just curious to know when it came about that you can change the meaning of love simply by misspelling it?
I'd wager that misconception is the cause of your confusion.
Not to sound rude or offensive, but how can you realize what you are truly feeling if you don't honestly know what love is, and that love is love, no matter how you spell it?
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15/F
my computer has a camera, and i have video chat capabilities.
this might sound wierd, but...
i really dont want to video chat with anyone!
it's not an internet safety thing or anything, its just that i dont want to do it! i guess it has to do with (a) my camera makes me look wierd and discolored... haha im insecure, but its more about (b) if theres an awkward silence, theres nothing to do to stop it! and other stuff like that.
but anyway, howhowhoww can i get out of it!?
Unplug the camera?
I also agree with saying your folks no longer allow you to use it.
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i yearn for pale skin.
http://i151.photobucket.com/albums/s134/omgoshxitsxmeg/megproject001.jpg
http://i151.photobucket.com/albums/s134/omgoshxitsxmeg/megproject004.jpg
http://i151.photobucket.com/albums/s134/omgoshxitsxmeg/megproject003.jpg
this is my current skin color.
i believe i might look a little paler than usual because of the flash.
idk.
anyways,
tips or ways to achieve a pale skin tone.
???
: )
i very much appreciate your input.
thanks in advance,
meg renee.
No since in doing any sort of treatments on your skin to achieve a pale tone.
I'm pale. Why? I am firmly against tanning. I always use the best sunblock I can find.
Why? The sun damages and ages your skin. I'd rather be pale and youthful in my old age than look like a Samsonite briefcase because of the want of a bronze look now.
Try avoiding too much sun exposure, and when you are outside during the summer, keep a good coat of sunblock on.
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Would you find it odd if your girlfriend of 5 months off and on got you a scrapbook [ or something homemade ext ] for your birthday ?
It's my boyfriends 15th birthday on the 24th and I neeeeed to figure out what to get !!
Why would it be odd to give him something homemade?
All of the thought and effort that goes into something like that shows someone how much you care far better than picking something up off of a store shelf.
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There is way to much drama in my school. And well i'm completely involved in it, when i absolutely hate it! I'm veryy sensitive which can sometimes turn into being very dramatic. I've made some enemies and i hate seeing them and knowing there talking about me. My confidence is veryy low and it's hard to bring up. I've tried all the advice its just my brain can't change being sensitive and not caring about the mean people. Is there anything I can do to get a better self confidence?
Hard as it may be, you have to get it into your head that it doesn't matter what these people think or say about you.
Why should you let it affect you? Why should you even care? You don't like them, so how is it that their opinion is so important to you?
You have to realize that by being all hurt about it is you letting them win. They are getting the better of you. You are letting them under your skin. Etcetera, etcetera.
That is exactly what they WANT you to do. That's why they do it. You are giving them the satisfaction they seek, and that is a satisfaction they don't deserve.
If you don't want to be involved in drama, you have to set yourself apart from it. You aren't above others, but you can be above their actions.
It isn't so much a matter of confidence, it's a matter of how you view yourself. I don't have very good confidence, but I know I'm a good person, I like me, and I could care less if someone thinks I'm something terrible.
"Don't like me? Fine. That's your own too bad. Your loss, not mine. I don't need you anyway."
At this point, you are probably thinking "This is preposterous. This woman is crazy and has no clue what I'm going through."
And if you think that, you are mistaken. I was once JUST LIKE YOU.
I just finally decided to put in the effort do this for myself, because I knew I deserved it.
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I really want a movie poster for Across the Universe. I googled "movie posters" and it came up with a bunch of websites. I searched each of the websites, and all of them either didn't have Across the Universe, and the ones who did, the posters cost like 30 bucks or more! (I want a big poster, not a little one!) Where can I get an affordable movie poster, for a not-too-publicized movie like this?
How about this?
http://www.moviegoods.com/movie_product.asp?affiliateID=275&adID=200&master_movie_id=36488&sku=
This is the only one I could find. It is $29.99.
Unless you luck into a video store that has it and will just give it away to you, you will probably be stuck paying that kind of money for it, considering it isn't widely publicized.
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(16/f) i have a bad temper. im an extremely angry person. theres no warning for when im about to get angry. even i dont know when its going to happen. i dont even know why i get mad sometimes. some days i wake up mad and sometimes i just randomly get pissed. but when im mad im violent. ive thrown desks at teachers in school before. when i fight i dont know how to stop. i have to be pulled off of that person. i fuck people up when im mad. i broke some kids jaw because they looked at me on a bad day and it rubbed me wrong. i get really violent thoughts over stupid things. if im angry at someone, even for something small, i get these crazy thoughts. examples: a kid was playing a guitar in class, i wanted to choke him with a guitar string; the class was taking a test and they were near me, i realized i could just stab my pencil into their neck if i wanted to; some kid something that pissed me off and he was sitting in front of me, my thoughts were "does he not know that i could easily snap his neck right now?"; we were walking down some stairs and this kid was cocky and i shoved him down the stairs for it. if im watching a movie or a show and i see a fight i want to fight so bad that i get mad. i browse through channels and the only things that i stop at are people arguing or fighting. i see or hear about a fight an i get mad and riled up. and i ask everyone this but no one has it happen to them; when im mad i get goosebumps everywhere on my body. they come in waves starting from my head to my feet over and over again. is it me or is this a problem? and no punching bags, counting to ten, holding my breath, etc. do not help me. ive tried believe me. showers dont help either nor does running or any form of exercise. and i cant do something like karate because ill fuck the kid up and kicking pisses me off. like i said i dont just get mad i get furious. i get mad to the point of tears. i dont hvae different levels of anger. im either happy or fucking violent. sorry this was so long.
Like everyone else has said, you need to seek professional help. That isn't a suggestion, that is a must.
The things you are talking about doing while angry, such as breaking someone's jaw is criminal assault.
Get help now, or suffer the consequences of the prison system and lawsuits.
You are letting anger control your life.
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this story is kinda complicated, but i dont know what to do.
the guy that i like, who is one of my best frenz, said that he has an issue wit alot of my close girl frenz, and that they get on his nerves.
bt i neva had a clue, until he told me to my face. i was rilli upset, and the thing is...
i think he likes me....
and i like him too....
but i dont want there to be an issue between him and my friends if we go out...
i love my girl frenz nd him too. i mean they are my best frenz.
ugh...wat do i do??????
It comes down to an issue of respect.
Whether or not you go out with this guy, he has to respect you enough to at least get along with your friends.
Your friends have to respect you enough to at least get along with him.
If your best friends are really best friends, they won't try to dictate your life. They will accept the fact that you are in a relationship with him.
Do what makes YOU happy, not what everyone else wants.
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i love this guy, we talked and he was talking to me like a guy would talk to a girl he might like and he told me i was cute and everything then one of my best friends came into the picture and ever since then hes been talking to her the same way and talking to me more just like a regular person and im really upset, how should i handle this? 14/f
Well, if when he met your best friend he decided she was a better match for him, there isn't anything you can do about it, other than accept it and move on.
His loss, not yours, anyhow.
Realistically, it was a good thing for him to do something like this now, rather than start something with you and THEN change his mind.
Either way, don't get angry with your friend over it. There is never any sense in letting a guy interfere with your friendship. It's not worth it.
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my moms best friends dad died this weekend and they are having a funeral for him on wednesday. i dont even know the guy. My mom wants me to go but im not sure if i am comfortable going. she told me it was my choice. i have never been to a funeral before and im gonna feel really awkward and kinda scared and definitley sad but then again i feel bad not going because she wants me to and my moms friend has a daughter my age that is my friend and i want to go for her. she wont be heart broken if i dont go because were not really good friends. i still dont know what to do.
Help! what should i do??
I would go as a support system to your mom. I wager she would appreciate that.
Also, her best friend and her daughter would appreciate your support as well. Just being there is a show of support. That's all you have to really do- be there.
That certainly doesn't mean that I think you have to go if you don't want to. I just suggest that because that is what I would do.
Since you've never been to a funeral, I'll give you a general idea of what to expect if you go.
-You sit quietly and listen to the service. You can learn a lot about the deceased and their family by the things that are said there. You may hear something about the guy that makes you go "WOW!"
-They may have you leave and pass by the casket to pay respects to him. You are by no means obligated to do that. You can just quietly walk out the back door. No one will be offended. You probably won't even be noticed leaving, anyway.
-The family will follow the casket out from the funeral home to the hearse. Stand quietly to pay respects to him and his family.
-You will probably hop in the car with your mom, the family will get into theirs. The family follows the hearse, you will follow the family. Everyone will have their lights on.
This is the funeral procession out to the cemetery.
-Stand quietly (yah, a lot of being quiet) and listen to the graveside service.
-Family will be seated beside the casket. After the service, walk by and shake hands with them to give your condolences. You don't have to say anything, but you can say something on the lines of "I'm sorry for your loss."
-After that is all over, everyone will likely meet someplace. Usually to eat, talk, and share good memories.
There is nothing wrong with saying that it was a lovely/beautiful service if you want. Folks do appreciate knowing they did well in giving a loved one a good send-off.
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16/ f
Im really into the Beatles, the Kinks, and the Beach Boys and a few others.. Im really into classic rock/alternitive, never metal, i love up-beat music. Ive been listening to these since I was born; my parents introduced me to them. What are some other bands that i might like? What are some other oldies I might like, and what are some new, modern bands that have similar sounds that i would like?
The Mamas and the Papas?
Jan and Dean?
Santo and Johnny?
All oldies.
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Ok so i had this dream the other day and i cant get it off my mind it was really weird and i dont remember all of it but i do remember this guy that was amazingly cute and we like fell in love in the dream and i cant seem to get this dream off of my mind i dont know why like the way the guy made me feel was like unblievable and this probably sounds soo strange but i cant get it off my mind any suggestion of either how to get it off my mind or maybe why i ant get it off my mind
You need to try to get it off of your mind. The only thing I can tell you is that it was a dream, therefore not reality by any stretch of the means.
If you go around thinking about this "dream guy" who doesn't exist, how can you find a good guy who does?
I don't believe in dream meanings. I believe dreams are brain garbage, because they are your brain's subconscious way of cleaning house. But the fact of it is, nobody knows what dreams are, why they are, and what they mean. Nobody.
I do know that you can't allow your reality to be phased by your dream world.
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I have a quicktime video and i wanna edit it in windows movie maker but I cant. Im short on cash. How can i convert the .mov file to like .WMV?
I use WMM, too.
This is what I use to convert video to .avi:
http://www.videohelp.com/tools/Rad_Video_Tools
(It is a free download.)
I'll give you instructions on how to do it:
-Once you have RAD open, Select your QT file.
-Select "Convert a File" at the very bottom.
-Next, if it doesn't show "Output file info" as an .avi, select "Output Type" then select .avi.
-On the far right, select "Convert."
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