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should i go?
my moms best friends dad died this weekend and they are having a funeral for him on wednesday. i dont even know the guy. My mom wants me to go but im not sure if i am comfortable going. she told me it was my choice. i have never been to a funeral before and im gonna feel really awkward and kinda scared and definitley sad but then again i feel bad not going because she wants me to and my moms friend has a daughter my age that is my friend and i want to go for her. she wont be heart broken if i dont go because were not really good friends. i still dont know what to do.
Help! what should i do??
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I would go as a support system to your mom. I wager she would appreciate that.
Also, her best friend and her daughter would appreciate your support as well. Just being there is a show of support. That's all you have to really do- be there.
That certainly doesn't mean that I think you have to go if you don't want to. I just suggest that because that is what I would do.
Since you've never been to a funeral, I'll give you a general idea of what to expect if you go.
-You sit quietly and listen to the service. You can learn a lot about the deceased and their family by the things that are said there. You may hear something about the guy that makes you go "WOW!"
-They may have you leave and pass by the casket to pay respects to him. You are by no means obligated to do that. You can just quietly walk out the back door. No one will be offended. You probably won't even be noticed leaving, anyway.
-The family will follow the casket out from the funeral home to the hearse. Stand quietly to pay respects to him and his family.
-You will probably hop in the car with your mom, the family will get into theirs. The family follows the hearse, you will follow the family. Everyone will have their lights on.
This is the funeral procession out to the cemetery.
-Stand quietly (yah, a lot of being quiet) and listen to the graveside service.
-Family will be seated beside the casket. After the service, walk by and shake hands with them to give your condolences. You don't have to say anything, but you can say something on the lines of "I'm sorry for your loss."
-After that is all over, everyone will likely meet someplace. Usually to eat, talk, and share good memories.
There is nothing wrong with saying that it was a lovely/beautiful service if you want. Folks do appreciate knowing they did well in giving a loved one a good send-off.
ygs-29/f
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you should go
its a nice gesture
you need to go because they need as much support as they can to cope and they will appriciate it
sometimes people need to know there are lots that care for them and are there in these types of situations
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you should go out of respect. everyone has a situation in their life where the have to sacrifice their own comfort for another person's. the funeral may be awkward, but you should go to be polite. good luck.
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You should do what you feel is right.
If you don't feel comfortable going, maybe you shouldn't go.
If you don't go, you can call up or just talk to your mom's friend and tell her you are sorry for her loss.
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