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i don't wanna choose
this story is kinda complicated, but i dont know what to do.
the guy that i like, who is one of my best frenz, said that he has an issue wit alot of my close girl frenz, and that they get on his nerves.
bt i neva had a clue, until he told me to my face. i was rilli upset, and the thing is...
i think he likes me....
and i like him too....
but i dont want there to be an issue between him and my friends if we go out...
i love my girl frenz nd him too. i mean they are my best frenz.
ugh...wat do i do??????
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well you just got to chose between friends and guy or just get them to get along not to much or theyll steel your bf
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If he has an issue with your best friends, then why doesn't he have an issue with you? I'm sure you and your best friends are somewhat similar and have the same likes/dislikes. Its not always a positive sign when a guy doesn't like most or all of your close friends, but you need to find out why he feels that way. If he can't give you a good enough reason, then I don't see why you should ditch your best friends just for him since I'm sure you've known your best friends for much longer. If you do decide to go out with him then make it clear to him that it means accepting you AND your friends, even if they do get on his nerves, and that he shouldn't expect you to ditch them just because he gets annoyed with them. Hope that helped and good luck.
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It comes down to an issue of respect.
Whether or not you go out with this guy, he has to respect you enough to at least get along with your friends.
Your friends have to respect you enough to at least get along with him.
If your best friends are really best friends, they won't try to dictate your life. They will accept the fact that you are in a relationship with him.
Do what makes YOU happy, not what everyone else wants.
ygs-29/f
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This is a tough situation. You have to ask yourself a few questions, before you can make a decision about dating this guy.
#1- If you two do hit it off, and become a couple, would he want you to give up your friends for him? If he does, is that someone you want to be in your life?
#2- Would you be terribly upset if you lost your friends for a guy?
Guys come and go, we will either connect well with them or we don't. It's up to us to choose someone that compliments us as a whole. If he likes you, he has to like everything about you, friends included. If he can't handle it, then he may not be the right guy for you.
However, if your feelings are really strong for this guy, then maybe you can talk to him and make a compromise. Tell him that you enjoy being with him, but you also like to hang out with your friends. Let him know, that you have to have your friends as well. Maybe, you two can work on having a relationship, and seperate friendships as well.
In any case, go with your heart, and do what is right for you. You know better than anyone about how you feel. Good Luck!!
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You are most welcome, thanks for the 5, I appreciate that. Just remember you deserve both a guy and your friends, at the same time. ;) Good Luck!! If you ever need any more advice, I'm here. Just message me!!!
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I am in a similar situation. But you aren't sure if he likes you, so you are okay for now.
If and when he asks you out, its okay for you to say yes. You like him, he likes you. If he really likes you, he'll get over the fact that he hates your "frenz" (please spell friends right next time)to be with you. Also, you don't have to hang out with your girl friends and him at the same time.
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