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DRAMA DRAMA DRAMA!
There is way to much drama in my school. And well i'm completely involved in it, when i absolutely hate it! I'm veryy sensitive which can sometimes turn into being very dramatic. I've made some enemies and i hate seeing them and knowing there talking about me. My confidence is veryy low and it's hard to bring up. I've tried all the advice its just my brain can't change being sensitive and not caring about the mean people. Is there anything I can do to get a better self confidence?
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Hard as it may be, you have to get it into your head that it doesn't matter what these people think or say about you.
Why should you let it affect you? Why should you even care? You don't like them, so how is it that their opinion is so important to you?
You have to realize that by being all hurt about it is you letting them win. They are getting the better of you. You are letting them under your skin. Etcetera, etcetera.
That is exactly what they WANT you to do. That's why they do it. You are giving them the satisfaction they seek, and that is a satisfaction they don't deserve.
If you don't want to be involved in drama, you have to set yourself apart from it. You aren't above others, but you can be above their actions.
It isn't so much a matter of confidence, it's a matter of how you view yourself. I don't have very good confidence, but I know I'm a good person, I like me, and I could care less if someone thinks I'm something terrible.
"Don't like me? Fine. That's your own too bad. Your loss, not mine. I don't need you anyway."
At this point, you are probably thinking "This is preposterous. This woman is crazy and has no clue what I'm going through."
And if you think that, you are mistaken. I was once JUST LIKE YOU.
I just finally decided to put in the effort do this for myself, because I knew I deserved it.
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I am an "overly sensitive" person too. Someone I don't even care about could pass me in the street and say the stupidest thing and I would end up making my self cry at home.
The first thing you are going to have to do is take can't out of your vocabulary as much as possible and exchange it with: I do, I can, I do my best to, I am getting better at... Things like this. Notice these are all in the present and they are all progressive.
Then listen to your self think. Many people are so used to thinking that they do not take time to really listen to what they are thinking. These thoughts are causing emotions. So when you are involved in a situation, and someone says something, decide how it makes you feel. Then decide if you want to feel that way. Then If it is not a feeling that you want to keep feeling, when you notice your self thinking about it, analyzing it. Tell your self to stop. Say, I decide what I will think and what I will feel. I decide what will effect me and what wont. As you tell your self this, you will start to become strong for what you want and not what other people want for you. You will become stronger in your mind. It will take practice. If you cry that is ok. Tell your self it is ok to cry...but you determing how long you will cry for. Let it flow, and as you are letting it flow, affirm your self. I am a strong person, I decide what I feel at any moment. I let go of what was said to me. That is in the past. I am in the present. I feel in the present. Get some books of Chaning your way of thinking and changing your emothions through changing your thoughts. Go to borders and check out the new age section and they psychological sections. You can do it.
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