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i got my cartlidge pierced about a month ago and its still swollen and sore.

is that normall?
how do i make the swelling go away?

Of course it's normal. Cartilage takes longer to heal. I got a cartilage piercing 3 months ago and mine isn't healed yet.
Just continue to clean it and don't ever touch/play with it. It also helps if you don't sleep on it.
Apply a warm salt water compress to it, 3 times a day for around 10 minutes each time. It works wonders.
If pus is coming out and it's a strange colour (not white), then it could be infected. Don't remove an infected piercing.. clean it as best you can and if it doesn't improve, you'll need antibiotics.
Remember.. cartilage piercings take from anywhere around 3 - 12 months to heal. It just depends on the person.

My best friend hooked me and her boyfriend's friend up and we've been going out for a couple of days. Well, today, we had our first kiss. And now it feels like there are butterflies in my stomach and I have this really read feeling in my chest. Like electricity flowing through me. What does it mean? I mean, I don't think it is possible to love someone if you just started to date them, right? So what is that weird feeling?

It sounds like it's just the excitement running through your body. Was it a good kiss? Do you have feelings for him? If yes, then don't worry about it - it's a great thing. :)

Me- 16-female
Boyfriend- 17-male
we've been dating for almost a year and my idea for our year since we havent taken many pictures was take one of the pictures we have and put it in a little frame for him and then put it in a box with a shirt he'd like along with our favorite candy that we purchase and eat together quite frequently which happens to be gummy worms & put a few bottles of his favorite pop and maybe an energy drink in there and give it too him that way does this sound like something you would enjoy to get?
would you give this to your boyfriend for your 1 year?
((moneys an issue for me))
which is why i cant go all out like he does for me.i love him

please give me your imput and maybe some more ideas of things to add to make it extra amazing! =D

I think it's a nice idea. If you have any time on your hands, perhaps make something, too (make the frame, decorate the box for him, make him a pillow etc) because things which take time and effort to do are valued more than store bought items. It's not always about the money.

and well its kinda redd..
but i like itt..
But when do i have to die it again??

When you can see the roots showing through, or if the colour fades. (using a shampoo for colour treated hair can prevent this a bit).

so my dischare is transparent and clumpy. it doesnt smell or anything. is this bad though?
cos i hear it's suppost to be liquid.

No, discharge varies in consistency.
If yours isn't troubling you in any way, or isn't a cause for concern (strange colour/smells) then you're fine.

me and my boyfriend has been together for a year now. he has changed alot. when he is out with his friends and i call him, he tells me that he is busy and can't talk. but that really doesn't make since to me because he turns around a text me. i feel like if you are busy then how can u take out the time to text me but you are busy. it's takes more time to text then to actually talk to him. so should i suspect that he is cheating. he also acts very differnt towards me too.

Stop over reacting. It's nice he txt you at all. He probably doesn't like talking on the phone because he's talking to his friends. He can't talk to you and them at the same time, but he can txt and talk at the same time.
If you think he's acting strangely, that's a different matter. Don't always assume someone's cheating. Just keep an eye on him for now until you actually have evidence, okay?
Accusing him of things etc is just going to push him away.
If anything's bothering you right now with him, talk it through.

This guy that I met about a year ago got my # and started texting me a lot, but I was already in a relatinship at the time. When my relationship ended, about two weeks later he asked me to hang out with him. Well, it ended up we started dating but only for a month and then he dumped me and gave me a stupid reason for it. We still talked after that, but only as friends.

Just recently, he asked if I was seeing anyone and I told him about the guy I just started dating a couple weeks ago. That's when he told me the "true" reason he dumped me before, in which it was not really his fault, but he was extremely apologetic. And then he asked if we could start over, but I told him I had moved on, and so he said that whatever happens will happen.

The problem is, now he texts/calls me pretty consistently throughout the day, as if I am all he thinks about. Is it possible that this guy could just be trying to get back with me because he wants sex? Because when we were dating, he would bring it up and I would tell him I wanted to wait. My first inclination was that he was only in it for sex, but now that I think about it, if he only wanted sex, then he wouldn't be spending all this time waiting on me because there's plenty of girls willing to hook up with a guy around here. Should I consider him?

Keep with your current boyfriend. Your ex had his chance and he blew it.

I want 2 find me a emo boyfriend that's not 18, 21, or 50!! Why is every dating site for adults ect espin.com I hate that site

LOL.
I don't think dating sites are the answer you're looking for to be honest. Not many young people use them, as they're more for older people who can't go out and don't have the time to meet people at places.
If you don't get out much, try social networking sites (myspace, facebook, bebo, etc). This way, you can narrow the search down and find people you like the look of/share the same interests/live near you etc.

Hello I was wondering if there is a way to not allow myspace users to deny a friend request or a way that a friend can't be able to delete you? I really need some people to not deny my request nor delete me. Please answer me back!! Thank You, Jack

No, I'm sorry, there's no such thing. Everyone has the right to delete or deny a person for many reasons. You'll just have to think up decent ways to make people want to be friends and keep friends with you.

I'm an 18 year old male, just graduated from high school. I made the mistake of speeding one too many times, and as a result, my license is suspended. Luckily, it got suspended right after I quit my job.

It's now summer. Naturally, like every other graduated senior, I like to stay out late with friends and my girlfriend. My mom has told me to call her when I end up staying the night somewhere, but I haven't been doing that because I don't want to wake her up (she wakes up early for work and needs her sleep).

She told me today that I need to get a job and come home by 1am every night. She is unwilling to take me to a job, so I don't know how I'd get there with a suspended license. And 1am? I'm 18, for goodness sake. She said she'll kick me out if I don't do those two things.

What do I do?

Do what she says. I hate to say it, but I'm with your mum on this one. You may be an adult now, but you have to abide by her rules. I'm 19 and I still go by the rules as long as I live in this house.
You'll soon realize she's doing this because she cares. She wants you home at 1am so she knows you're safe (seeing as you never rang her). So don't think of it as a punishment. If you stick to this rule for the time being, she may come round to the idea of you staying out longer. Just show her you're responsible.
As for the job front - ever heard of public transport and walking? I don't drive and I'm looking for a job pretty much anywhere... Even if I have to get up mega early just to get there.
Stop moaning about her rules - I don't think they're that bad at all. and to be honest, you don't have any other option but to follow them, yes?
Good luck. ;)

I just recieved the best news: I have a Wasp nest in my backyard and it's Just above the back door. Luckily it's jsut getting started. So how do I get rid of it while it's still small?

Wasps are pesky, so it's normally advised to get a professional, but as it's just starting out, you should be okay to do it alone. Purchase some spray for killing insects and wasps and see if that does the trick. Do it later on in the evening, because they're not flying around as much.
If you have any ant powder in your house already, try that, because it has a certain chemical inside it (permethrin) that can kill wasps and other nasties - but be extra careful when using it if you are not an adult, because it can be dangerous.

Okay for a while now I've been having dizzy spells and a year before I've been having a burning throat feelings(No not heart burn). These dizzy spells are pretty bad I can't move too quickly for fear it'll hit and I'll fall over or pass out.

so my question is.. What do these symptoms mean? Do I have something serious?

(I don't drink or smoke, I eat right and I don't get heart burn.)

17/f

Thank you to anyone who can answer my question.

Why have you left it so long without a proper diagnosis? You really should see a doctor - as far as I'm aware, there aren't any here.
Your symptoms could be totally unrelated but either way, you may need treatment so it's vital you see a doctor.
Dizziness has many potential causes. Maybe an inner ear problem, vertigo, meniere's, viral infection.. Perhaps even a fall in blood pressure - (this is a common sign of when you get up too quick and feel dizzy/faint) or anxiety disorders. Are you on any medication? If so, that could be a major suspect and you could be suffering side effects.
As for the burning throat, are you sure it's not acid reflux? Have you tried over the counter medicines for it? (Gaviscon etc)..
I doubt what you're experiencing is anything serious, but it's best to put your own mind at ease and have a few words with your doc. You shouldn't have to suffer any more than you already have.
I hope this was at least a little bit of help to you. Good luck and feel better.

Why is it that everyboy in school tells you that they don't like you but they do?

Every boy? Wow..
Here's the main probable reasons:
*They're scared what people might think/what their friends will say.
*They don't know if you like them back and are scared of rejection and possible humiliation.
*They're immature and/or aren't ready to let their feelings be known to that person.

17/F
I went to the bathroom - I've always had pain when going to the bathroom but I kind of ignored it. Well today I went and it wasn't painful until afterwards I took a shower and it hurt horribly. Then a half an hour later I felt I needed to go again - when I went to wipe - I noticed blood.
Now I had my period so I didn't think anything of it - so I wiped an extra time in the area where I thought the blood came from - but I hadn't started bleeding again since I took a shower. The blood was coming from "behind" (yes I feel awkward saying that word) And it's a large amount of blood...and I'm very nervous why...
Help?

There are multiple reasons why you are experiencing this (non serious and serious), but no one here can tell you why for sure. You need to see a doctor ASAP. It may be embarrassing, but it's better to be safe than sorry.
Have you Googled your symptoms in the mean time? if not, do so.

can you use hair removal cream for legs and stuff on your vagina as long as you don't get it like inside or around it? i hate shaving that space because it gets stubbly and really uncomfortable. i'm not really a fan of waxing either, any suggestions?

thanks =]

Absolutely not - that is why there are some specifically designed for your bikini area, so look out for them.
Around the bikini area is very sensitive. If you risk using products which aren't for around there, you could suffer from irritation and burns.

hi im 13
i know this is a weird question but is it normal for guys my age to masturbate
i dont do it really often but wen i do it i just feel good inside it just feels so nice and stuff
i try not to do it cause i think its bad but is it really? i need to know

is it just weird for a 13 year old male to do this kind of stuff?

It's absolutely perfectly fine and normal for a person your age to masturbate.
Don't worry and just enjoy it.

is it required to use a condom during oral sex?

Using a condom prevents infections and diseases passing on... so it does seem like a pretty good idea to use one if you're not certain your partner is clean.

so, my eyes lately have seemed to look really tired. i have those stages where i dont get enough sleep, and my eyes just look droopy. is there any kind of eyeshadow or something that i could use that could help my eyes seem more open and bright and awake?

thanks so much!!

Put white eyeliner on the bottom. It's a well known trick to make your eyes look bigger and brighter.

I've taken part in oral sex and mutual masturbation but I have not had sex. When the doctor asks me if I'm sexually active do I say yes, no, or ... kinda? Lol thanks!

You say YES, for the simple reason being: If you happen to catch an STI for instance, you CAN catch them through oral sex - and the doctor needs to know.

How do you keep your vagina 'trimmed'?
Do you use scissors to keep the hairs short or still use a razor? I'm clueless :)

Whatever you feel works best. Try out both and see which you prefer. There's no right or wrong :)

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