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my relationship
me and my boyfriend has been together for a year now. he has changed alot. when he is out with his friends and i call him, he tells me that he is busy and can't talk. but that really doesn't make since to me because he turns around a text me. i feel like if you are busy then how can u take out the time to text me but you are busy. it's takes more time to text then to actually talk to him. so should i suspect that he is cheating. he also acts very differnt towards me too.
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He probably simply doesn't want his
friends listening in on his private
conversations. Not odd at all.
Unless they are looking over his shoulder,
texting is more private. If he is acting
different ask him why. Don't it around
and worry if hes cheating. Talk to him
and see whats going on. :)
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I can't tell you not to over react, because it has happened to me and the son of a - never mind, was actually cheating! If you think someone is cheating on you, they most likely are. You wouldn't be thinking it for any reason. There are always signs of cheating, that are easily picked up on. If you have noticed changes in actions especially towards you, something is going on - may not be cheating, but SOMETHING is going on.
If anything has happened to cause you to not trust as you once did (being that you are questioning if you're being cheated on), be aware and not blinded. I agree with you, it takes more time to text than talk! There is no reason not to talk unless he can't be heard talking to you out loud- you have intuition, emotional feelings, as well as gut feelings, until shown differently and given ACTUAL reason to believe differently, LISTEN TO THEM. They are there for a reason and it doesn't matter if you been with someone for one year or 20 years, it doesn't change. Talk to him and see what the hell his problem is, and let him how you feel and watch his reaction, that too will let you know what you need to know so that you can do what you got to do!
Good Luck, and I hope he isn't cheating on you,because it hurts like hell! Stay up on it and be aware at all times, don't slip and get caught up or made to look stupid!
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Stop over reacting. It's nice he txt you at all. He probably doesn't like talking on the phone because he's talking to his friends. He can't talk to you and them at the same time, but he can txt and talk at the same time.
If you think he's acting strangely, that's a different matter. Don't always assume someone's cheating. Just keep an eye on him for now until you actually have evidence, okay?
Accusing him of things etc is just going to push him away.
If anything's bothering you right now with him, talk it through.
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Well, you can't know for sure, but it really does make sense. Talking on the phone would make him antisocial around his friends, because you can't talk on the phone and talk to your friends at the same time without frustrating everybody. So, by texting you, he can still hold a conversation with his friends while keeping in touch with you (even if not the way that you planned..)
So, it is possible that he's cheating on you, but I'd consider cutting him some slack. Relax. Eric says hi..
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First of all, don't jump to any conclusions. Don't assume he's cheating on you just because he doesn't call you every 5 minutes.
Next, have you talked to him about it? The only way you'll get any answers is to talk to him. He is the only one who knows why he's acting this way, and he's the only one who can give you the truth.
I also want to say, I disagree with you. Texting takes a lot LESS time than actually having a phone conversation. If he's with friends and is talking to them, how can he talk to you at the same time? Exactly, he can't. However, he can send you a simple text message. Typing a few words on the phone keypad doesn't take as much time as actually talking to you and whatnot.
You probably have nothing to worry about.
-Laura. (16-f)
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