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i got in ALOT of trouble!
14/ female.
okayyyy, so me and my friend like six months ago smoked a blunt at my house and took pictures doing it.. i know dumb idea, lol. so yesterday she saw them on her photobucket and decided to put them on her myspace. well, my brother has her as a friend and he saw the pics of me and her, and he copied the pic and sent it to my mom!
so my mom told my dad to loook at my friends myspace, but me and her had deleted it, but we didnt notice it was on her album cover, soooooooo we got screwed.
my mom had a talk with me and told me that she was upset and hurt that i did that but that she wasnt mad, but i did have to be grounded. ):
it wouldnt bother me much to be grounded but at the moment it does, cause the guy i like is gonna leave to Jersy in 8 days, and i wanna see him before he leaves, and now since im grounded idk how im gonna do that.
so, can you help?
how can i get my parents to unground me asap?!
and/or how can i do it to see this guy before he leaves even if im grounded?!
thanks so much!!!!
p.s NO im not a druggy or none of that, im a goooood students and i behave very well (:
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First, you need to make sure that your myspace profile is private, especially if you have such a reckless friend (this is much BIGGER than your parents being disappointed.. incriminating photos can haunt you forever).
I think your best bet is to make some sort of compromise- suggest a different punishment that is more productive than staying inside on the computer. hopefully in exchange for this, they will let you see your boy. if you sit down and get them to understand that you made a mistake and learned from it already, they will be more receptive. good luck (and in the future, make sure you are the one to hold on to the pictures!)
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Wow, you sound a lot like me. I've been caught smoking cigarettes plenty of times. And man have I been grounded a lot. Just explain to your parents that you understand what you did was a mistake. Tell them teenagers try things new all the time. You tried the blunt and hated it. Atleast your not out having sex, or killing people, doing drugs, drinking, or any of that stuff. If their the least bit understanding, then you'll be off the hook in no time. If that doesn't work then if there's any way this guy can come to your house, ask your parents if they can make this acception because he's going on vacation.
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Ohh that must be shit :(
Well one thing you could try, is calmly explain to your parents that those pictures were from six months ago, and it was the first and last time you'd smoked a blunt.
Then tell them that a good guy friend is leaving, and you'd like to see him before he goes, so ask them if they'll let you out for like 5 hours. But just once. The rest of the time you still stay grounded.
Don't get mad, or yell at them, or stomp away.
Be calm and mature, and maybe they will understand :)
Goodluck!
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There's nothing I or anyone else can say that would make her reverse her decision to ground you. You can see where good behavior, real remorse and cutting ties with friends who do drugs get you.
You're on a slippery slope here and cannot be making these kind of mistakes ever again. I also think that you got off rather lightly here and haven't truly seen where you did wrong. It doesn't seem as though you genuinely want to fix that behavior.
You're more concerned about this guy (who will be back) than the fact you smoked marijuana and got caught. You deserve punishment and shouldn't be let out of it.
You could ask your mother if this person could visit your place before he left so you could say goodbye but I doubt they are going to be lenient with you. Giving you tips to deceive them would be wrong and not teach you anything.
Maybe you need to see that not having freedom or the ability to see this person is where this mistake got you. If it causes you never to smoke weed again or hang out with people who do being grounded might be the best thing that happened to you.
I think what you need to do is clean house and get rid of friends who are doing these drugs and tempting you to. You need to keep your grades, reputation etc. where they are.
As far as the friend who shared the photo with your mother goes he/she did the right thing. You can't blame them as you put the photo up on a public site which your mother had access to as did others. Not very smart when you're doing something illegal in the photo. Hopefully, this serves as a hard lesson to you.
Beyond truly putting an effort to change all the things that led you down the wrong path and asking your mother about this guy you can't make her change her choice to ground you.
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Honestly? I don't think you should try and beg or get your parents to unground you. I think you should just let it be, they're already upset with you. I know you probably are making a face at my answer and thinking I'm oh so wrong, but look at it this way:
You say that you're a good student and you behave well, so I'm assuming your parents trusted you before this incident. Now, they've lost some of that trust along with some of the respect they had for you, and trying to get them to unground you will only make them lose even more respect for you. You have to own up to what you did and take the punishment you've recieved.
The only way you MIGHT get ungrounded early, is showing that you're mature and you know that what you did was wrong. Sometimes, if parents can see your maturity and whatnot, they might cut you some slack.
PLUS, it's not liek you'll never see this guy again. Can't you call him on the phone? Or text him? Or something? It's not like he's leaving forever.
-Laura. (16-f)
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