My birthday is in 21 days & I'll be turning 17 =). I was thinking about throwing a party but I don't know how to go about doing it =/ any theme ideas ? Or party ideas? Things to do at my party ?...I'm really clueless & I was thinking about having it at my house..since money is really low right now & I wouldn't be able to rent out a hall..I'm also on a budget..the most I could save up right now is 200.. any ideas please?
My friend had a "graffiti party" earlier this year, and all you need for this is a couple packs of permanent marker and white T-shirts. It's fun and there's no prep-work like a regular theme/costume party.
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Im in a long distance relationship, its going well. I went to see him yesterday and it was great, but everyone knows him so we could barley hold hands and things - all of his girl mates like him and if they found out...well then...rumours about us would be flying everywhere.
He is coming down to see me soon and where i live is fine , we can kiss, hold hands, do whatever really. But I really want to make the day special for him, so he knows there's a reason why we're together and why me make an effort to come up/down to eachother. He is a ladies man, he has girls all over him, I know him, but not that well enough to know when he's going to lose feelings for me.
I just want to make the day special....not in sexual terms, in a nice, romantic way.
He wants to meet my friends and family, so I've said yes. He's obviously keen if he wants to know about my life, right? I pretty much have EVERYTHING wherei live (cinemas,bowling,ice skating,river sides, shops etc) So please suggest anything tht made you have such a good time with someone!!!
Your city should have a tourism section of their webpage--parks, sights, nice places to visit. that could get you started. but the best dates are unconventional like minigolf.
Also, don't go too crazy, b/c while it is nice to have things to do so you don't get bored, you also don't need to bribe him to visit you, or make him think that you always need to be doing something.
Try giving a couple options- just two or three, and go from there.
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So, lately i've started snoring alot..and i just started college so ive been out to parties alot..im wondering if thats whats doing it..?and ive also been alittle congested..im not sure but i know that my roommate and others are probably alittle annoyed with it..any suggestions?
It's the parties. Alcohol really messes with your body. People think you sleep heavier but you actually don't enter a deep sleep when your body is still processing it. It dehydrates you, which dries up your mouth and throat so there's your snoring, and also the congestion.
Best thing you could do is drink lots of water and use a snore-aid spray or nose clip. I think that there's also a trick to sleep on your side or something? Good luck and have fun being in college!
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Hi, I'm in desperate need of some advice. I am a 26 year old man who has been dating a 36 year old woman for about 5 months.I am very concerned about the age difference and what that will mean for us down the road. Just last week we broke up and it has been killing me. I really like this girl and I want to be with her, but the age thing is just a 24/7 nagging issue in the back of my mind. We split up because she is wanting to be in a relationship with someone that will in a few years materialize into a family and having kids. I am terrified of this. I want a family and kids, but i'm 26 and thinking about that happening in the next couple of years scares the hell out of me. On the other hand, I really do not want to lose her, she is wonderful in every way, and though we are 10 years apart we are on most of the same playing fields, intellectually, physically, professionally, etc. I have been in only 3 relationships that have lasted more than a few months, and have dated many girls, and this is the first one that has ever meant something to me, the short of it is, I have fallen for her and I have been down and out since we split up. I need some objective advice. Do I try to get her back or do I just move on and accept that our age difference is just to much to overcome. Thanks in advance for the advice.
I probably have no idea what i'm talking about.
Now, with that said, here is my objective advice:
If you were going to change your mind about wanting to be a father in the next couple years, that probably would have happened shortly after you broke up. Those all-or-nothing moments usually have a way of bringing out some surprising compromises.
So that leads me to believe you are genuinely not ready to settle down and start a family with this woman. Which is totally fine, and pretty much expected. It's also not your fault, just like it's not her fault that she IS ready.
I would try to be grateful that you came to this realization early enough that you can both walk away without baggage, cut your losses, and do your best to move on.
***TheGivingTree
PS-- The people who know you best (parents/siblings/best friends) are always going to be some of the best judges of whether or not you're ready for a family, just in case you were having second thoughts.
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Ok...so I'm with someone that I KNOW i want to spend my life with! It's the perfect relationship with the most amazing guy. Everything up to this point has been flawless between us. The other day he and I were talking and started joking about just running away together to some island where we can get away from the hustle and bustle and drama of everyday life here in the states. Day by day this joke became more and more serious and at this point, the joke is no more. We have both spent countless amounts of time looking online for places and jobs and whatnot in our dream destination, Costa Rica. Am I crazy to drop life as I know it and move to a very far away place with him?? More so, am I crazy for doing this at the young age of 22?!?! (keeping in mind, he's ten yrs older and very well off)
thanks, 22 yr old male =)
Yes, this is crazy. But you realize it's crazy so that makes it a little better.
Personally, I wouldn't do it. Once you move past the romance of running away, you're left with the reality of your decision: Do you speak Spanish? Can you support yourself in a foreign country? Will you be safe? How will your family react to your eloping? What happens if things don't work out between you two?
But here's the good news: you're not me. So I can tell you to go for it. You are young enough to make a reckless decision like this and not regret it down the road. There is a chance this could be the best decision of your life.. just be smart about it. Voice your concerns before you both make the decision. Talk about the anticipated problems and the roadblocks, get it all out in the open so that when problems come up, they aren't taboo.
Costa Rica is beautiful. If you do it, send pictures.
***TheGivingTree
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Okay, so I've liked this guy for about the past three years. When he started dating one of my good friends, I laid off and decided to just put him in the "friend" category--realizing that he didn't think of me in any romantic way and that I'd rather keep him as a friend than risk losing him altogether.
Now I'm with a guy who I'm pretty much crazy about. I've been with him for almost three months.
All the sudden, my best guy friend, a.k.a. longtime crush that I've given up on, breaks up with his girlfriend and I hear through the grapevine that it's because he has feelings for me. When I confront him about it, he admits that it's true and that HE has also liked me for a very long time.
What the heck?! Our timing sucks. Should I just pretend I don't know? Should I stay with my current boyfriend? I think I feel mostly ticked that I only find this information now, when I'm taken. =/
You stole the words right out of my mouth. Your timing sucks, and there's not much you can do about that. It just wasn't right this time.
more importantly, you're not "taken," you're willingly in a relationship with a guy you really like. If that's not the case, then there is your problem.
If you're happy in the relationship but feel conflicted because of this other guy, you must remind yourself that they're just feelings, and you owe it to yourself and your boyfriend to give it a real shot.
But let me just end with this: I wouldn't stay in the relationship if you have uncontrollable feelings for someone else, because then neither of you will be happy.
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I have braces and my senior pictures are coming up. I want to be able to smile, showing my teeth. But I want them to look white. I know brushing my teeth will work. But I was wondering what else can I do to get my teeth to be whiter?
thank you :)
Brushing with baking soda after your regular brushing is supposed to help. Tastes gross, though.
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i've grown up going to a christian church and school and i pray everyday but i've never felt God's presence before...
i try to have faith and seek him but it's hard when i don't feel he's there and i feel like there's a hole in my life and i feel lonely but i just don't feel like i'm a christian even though i want to be.
how do i become a christian even though i've already been praying and going to church and have seeked him but don't feel anything??
You won't wake up one day and have a halo over your head just because you prayed for it. You don't feel God like you feel sunshine or a breeze, I'm sorry if someone made you think that's how it works. People exaggerate.
Church is supposed to be a religious experience. The community, the rituals, the songs, all that stuff is supposed to make you feel good and holy.
Well, that works for some people, but there's more to God than scripture. Find yourself a quiet tree, turn your cell phone off, close your eyes for a minute and breathe.
After you calm down for a minute you'll realize you're pretty tiny compared to the tree, and the tree is pretty tiny compared to the earth, and the earth is really tiny compared to the sun, etc... but we're all made up of the same tiny little cells, and we're all sharing this moment in time together.
Then, get up and return to your daily life. Realizing that the day-to-day problems are insignificant in the grand scheme of things, living your life as a good person becomes a necessity, not a chore.. and THAT is how praying and church and feeling God is supposed to make you feel.
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I've been friends with this guy for a while now and as time passes I like him more and more as something other than a friend. Things would be easy if we could actually date but that isn't going to happen because he recently ended a relationship and I am friend with his ex as well. How do I separate my friendship with him and my romantic feeling for him without hurting our friendship?
Quite the pickle you're in... It's amazing how many people there are in the world and yet we still end up being territorial of the people we've dated.
There is no brilliant solution to this one, but as a general rule of thumb, I think that if your friend is the one that ended the relationship, their ex is free game. One man's trash is another man's treasure. If, however, they had a bad breakup, or your friend was dumped by this guy and is not over him, you need to lay off.
Your situation seems to be a little more complex, though. First of all, you would be catching this guy on the rebound. He's going to need some time to himself before he is going to be ready to start a relationship with you, so I wouldn't rush anything.
Both people need to understand that you're in a tough position because you can't "take sides," but you also have to be completely upfront about your intentions. Let this guy know you're still going to be friends with his ex, and explain to your friend that you have feelings for this guy. The only other alternative is keeping your relationship a secret until things settle down.
Be prepared for one or both to throw a fit for a while, but if they're true friends, they will work through it. It is possible and pretty healthy to have a relationship AND separate friends.
***TheGivingTree
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So me and my ex just broke up last thursday. we were fine but apparently around prom he started to get bored. but he failed to talk with me about his problem. now we are done. but i have faith that i can get him back. i just have to get him to fall in love with me again. he is chasing after this girl who does not care about him and leaving me who does. what can i do to make him like me again??? how can i pump up the excitement and make him think im not boring????
You know how some classes in school require prerequisites? There are things you have to learn BEFORE you are ready to move to the next level?
Well, relationships are a lot like that, too. A lot of times we have exactly what we want, but because we haven't learned that we want it, we take it for granted.
Your relationship, for example. This boy is wasting his time on a girl that isn't interested in him because he hasn't learned to appreciate having someone who actually cares about him. Right now he's more interested in the chase than being happy.
Conveniently, the solution to getting him back and letting him go are the same one: move on. Once you understand that he just can't appreciate you until he learns his lesson on his own in his own time, you'll be able to focus on your own feelings and your own life, maybe even find another person who IS ready to be with you.
The best thing you can do is distract yourself with something else until you're over it. You'll know it worked when both of you are happy. Or you're happy and he's cry-babying about missing you.
***TheGivingTree
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Gender: Male
Age:Physically young yet mentally mature =P
No guy ever seems to be the right guy for me.
Even when things seem to be going great they always end up not staying that way and to top it off they are always long distance. I've noticed I never plan on long distance dating its more like I fall into it, get trapped and eventually hurt. I know long distance never really works out and I also understand that I'm young and I have time to date in the future I tell myself that all the time but I cant help but feel the need to be wanted by a someone who wants me. Sadly I live in South FL where where everybody to me either just isn't my type or is way to promiscuous ... perhaps that's why all the guys I like live far away but moving is not an option for me because I'm in college. Any kind of advice would be greatly appreciated 8J
I'm really glad I have the opportunity to answer this question, I hope this helps you:
The most important thing is that you have a huge capacity to love others, and at such a young age, that is quite an accomplishment. Unfortunately, this also leaves you vulnerable to being hurt by those that you open up so deeply to. The only way around this is to train your heart to take baby steps, to not allow your emotions to dictate your actions. Easier said than done.
Here's the other thing: although compatibility is a large factor in dating, timing is just as important, and it's obviously just not your time yet. I've learned that sometimes this has less to do with your age or the season, and more to do with where you are at this point in your life (or where HE is in HIS life).
Instead of seeing your repetitive failed relationships as a string of bad luck, maybe it's time to focus on other aspects of your life. Use this mandatory hiatus from guys to find yourself! Start a new hobby, make new friends, foster a dog, get caught up on reading and movies, etc..
One of my favorite mantra's:
"It's not about finding the right person,
it's about BEING the right person."
I think this is applicable to you, because you will soon be able to reassure yourself that you are indeed a person worth loving, regardless of whether or not there is anyone around at the moment to do it for you.
Be the person you want to be, and love yourself, because I guarantee as soon as you finish that challenge, it will magically be the right time for that someone to come along. Life is painfully ironic like that.
Finish college, say no to hard drugs, use a condom, and be ready for love when he shows up!
***TheGivingTree
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well im 15 and love everythign about make up and was wondering if there was a school that just teaches you about make up and maybe hair too, but not a school everyday, like something to do AFTER real school. is there a such thing? and i live in massachusetts
Please don't drop out of school if you don't have to. You'll definitely regret it later in life.
I would graduate high school, THEN look into going to a vocational school for hair, nails, etc.
"Vocational Schools" are like college, except that you only study the things you want, and it's a more hands-on, specialized education.
In the meantime, there may be some personal enrichment classes you can take at your local community college or at a beauty school. If you talk to your guidance counselor, they might even let you leave school an hour or two early to go to these classes, and they'll count towards your GPA!
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i basically live off of poptarts and ramon noodle soup im now discovering how unhealthy i eat.. i feel like everything is high in fructose corn syrup or whatever. so are poptarts really that bad for you too? whats healthy food too snack on, like what about powerbars??
Wow! That's borderline malnutrition, seriously. Why not take small steps towards eating healthier. You have bigger problems than high fructose corn syrup. You need fruits, vegetables, natural protein (processed increases your risk of kidney stones), etc. If time/laziness is what keeps you from cooking and eating right, what about frozen dinners? Canned soups? Trail mixes, yogurts, cereal? All good options that are quick.
All foods have bad elements, like too much sodium or high carbs or transfats, etc. but I think your priority should first be making sure you diversify you diet, because when you eat you need to do more than just make yourself not hungry, you have to supply vitamins, minerals, proteins, antioxidants to sustain your whole body!
You might want to look into taking a multivitamin, too.
SparkPeople.com is a great networking site for people trying to have healthier lifestyles, check it out.
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hi!we had an addition put on 38,000.00 master bedroom in the back of the house.they dug up the whole back yard just about.there was a yard full of grass and now there is non.it doesn't say anything in the contract about fixing the back yard.should they b held responsable to make it like it was?
If you wanted to pursue it, you'd probably need to call the company itself to ask them.
Technically, they preformed the service you paid them for, and there's a good chance you're on your own. However, you gave them a lot of business, they should be glad to help out a customer. Be polite and ask for any help, don't demand it. They might refer you to a landscaping company with a discount, or offer to pay for half. You're probably not the first person to have this problem with the company, but keep in mind these are hard times for everyone right now, including businesses.
It also wouldn't hurt to have an estimate done to find out how much it would cost to repair your backyard before you asked for any help.
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I'm 33. My gf is 28. My girlfriend and I have been talking about marriage, and invitations to the wedding came up. She wants to invite a couple she had a three-way with. It was a one time thing, they are friends today, and she works with wife of this couple. Here's the kicker. She is the godmother to their child, and they are still good friends and have a "family" like relationship because of the said godchild. I have put my foot down and have said no to having them at the wedding. I just can't imagine having an ex-lover at the wedding, even though they just did it once. I really just couldn't stand having the guy there, saying something like, "ha, I tapped that." I know, it sounds stupid, but its the truth. Am I being unreasonable or is my objection understandable?
The problem is that these people are more than just ex-lovers. If that were the end of it, there would be no question that they don't need to be invited. However, that is apparently a small part of the relationship that they have with you and your girlfriend (if she's close enough to be a godparent to their child!).
You have to understand that your girlfriend would be getting married that day too and if she wants them there then they should be there, and you will have to get over your fear that they will be thinking anything other than "i'm happy for you".
I would talk to her about it until you feel better about it, keeping in mind that it's something you'll eventually have to get over one day anyway.
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I hear this a lot.. but, what does "Beauty is in the Eye of the Beholder" mean?
Anything would be great. Thanks. =]
"Beauty is in the eye of the beholder" does not have anything to do with God.
It means that the beholder (the person looking, seeing, judging, etc.) is subjective, and there is not only one definition of beauty.
Something I see as beautiful, you may think is ugly, because each of us has our own opinions.
It's just another turn-of-phrase, like "whatever floats your boat!" or "six to one, half a dozen to another" they all just mean that what is right for you may not be right for me, and if one person thinks you're beautiful, it doesn't mean everyone else has to.
Hope that helps clarify a little bit. English is confusing sometimes!
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I am going to be flying by myself overseas this summer. I have flown overseas before, but never by myself (the last time being last year).
I am not afraid of the actual flying part, but I am pretty scared about getting lost in the airport (I might be flying through Chicago... that airport is HUGE), missing my flight, having my stuff stolen (especially once I'm overseas).
I'm smart and I do have common sense, but I would really like some tips and maybe even some stories of your own travels.
Oh, and yes I do know that there's people at the airport I can ask for help, but I would be more confident and feel more accomplished if I'm able to do as much as I can by myself.
Thanks!
18/F
The airport can sometimes be intimidating when you're alone, wondering if you're going the right way or what you'll do if something goes wrong, but just remember, you've had to navigate unfamiliar places and catch buses and arrive somewhere early all your academic career, right? No sweat.
Double check your gate assignment once you get through security. It's unlikely, but sometimes they will move your gate, and the big TV monitors are updated every few minutes with gate changes, so be sure you're going to the right place. Checking in once you get to the correct gate is also something you can do to make you feel more comfortable and make sure the flight is going out on time.
If you haven't flown recently, any liquids you plan on carrying onto the plane now have to go through security in a 1 quart sized plastic bag, and none of the containers can be more than 3oz (you usually can get away with anything as long as it's in the plastic bag)
The airport website should have information on how you'll need to get around, if that will help too.
Make sure your passport or ID is up to date, that your name matches the one on your tickets, that you wear shoes that can easily be removed to get through security, and don't listen to your ipod so loud that you can't hear gate agent announcements.
Other than that you'll be fine! Happy flying!
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16/f.
Are there other ways to get pregnant besides having vaginal sex?
My boyfriend and I were messing around. Clothes were on. And I didn't know if possibly his sperm could go through clothes. What if he fingered me and had his sperm on his finger? Could I get pregnant then?
I know that abstinence is 100% safe way of not getting pregnant. But I'm just curious of other ways someone could get pregnant besides vaginal sex. Please and thanks :)
Umm, yes sperm can go through clothes. but they would have to be so saturated that it would be leaking out the other side. With the clothes on, you've got practically no risk, but i wouldn't recommend using boxer briefs instead of a condom.
and yes, you could get pregnant if the boy that was fingering you put sperm on his finger. I don't know why he would do that, but there's your answer.
So to recap: if there is nothing keeping his fluids from your fluids, you COULD get pregnant. It's highly unlikely, but entirely possible. and yes abstinence is 100% safe, but you're not abstaining, so that doesn't apply to you. Use a condom or a dental dam and you've got 99.8%, which is as safe as you're going to get unless you stop touching each other.
For more essential health information they wont teach in most schools, go to: http://www.hiv.va.gov/vahiv?page=sex-condomtips
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So i really really like this guy i mean he's all i think about and its the first time that this has really happend and its just crazy. We have hung out before and we kissed and he was so super sweet to me and he said he liked me a lot so it made me feel great. The thing is i dont know what he wants i dont know if it will be a relationship or what it will be. i really want a relationship because i care about him so much. I don't want to be to blunt about it because im afraid im reading to much into this that in reality he doesnt like me enough or want to be with me. He has been all ive been thinking about for awhile and i don't know what to do because its killing me not knowing whats going to happen with us. He will talk to me and call me on the weekends but during the week its like i have to text him i try not to get to upset about this because he has a life and i get that. Please help me out i know i need to just ask him but how do i do it amd what do i say?
No offense to the other collumnists, but the last thing I would do is have a friend confront him about YOUR potential relationship. What if HIS friends came up to you out of the blue and asked for an official answer? It's childish and not a very reliable way to know how he feels.
Now that's not to say your friends aren't an important part of why you want to label yourselves as 'dating' or 'not dating'.. for example, you could say to him either in person or over the phone, "my friends asked if we were dating and i didn't really know what to tell them. I would like to go out with you, but i don't know what you're looking for right now or how you feel about it." It's pretty straight-forward because it gives you a chance to tell him how you really feel, and him a chance to make a decision that will be best for both of you!
Another piece of advice, though: if you're getting so worked up about all this and you're not even dating yet, how are you going to act when another girl hits on him, or you have your first fight, or any other problem that could come up? I think you might need to work on not being possessive. Sharing your life with someone doesn't mean you gain any control over them, and it shouldn't cause more stress than good.. it should be something that both people want and think will be best for them.
Keep in mind there are other options, too!
Hope this helps
***TheGivingTree
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i need some inspiration.
my art side of my head has been pretty dry.
i'm 16/f
is there any websites that have like prompts? you know how you get writing prompts, well i need some for drawing/painting.
if you have ever done a cool project share it with me!
or if you have found a website with such.
thanks so much :)
I always feel inspired when I have nostalgic memories. Disney movies, coloring books, old songs from the 90's, certain smells or foods, stuff like that. I'm not an art student so i'm not sure exactly what you're looking for, but i've always thought the best art has been when the artist puts her heart on the canvas and can really show the viewer where they come from and how they see the world now.
Just don't do the Minnie Mouse full of poo, or the broken picture frame of a supermodel, it's overdone. haha, you'll be fine, no one knows you better than you. Good luck!
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