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"I want somebody to love ... oh i need somebody to love" 8J
Gender: Male
Age:Physically young yet mentally mature =P
No guy ever seems to be the right guy for me.
Even when things seem to be going great they always end up not staying that way and to top it off they are always long distance. I've noticed I never plan on long distance dating its more like I fall into it, get trapped and eventually hurt. I know long distance never really works out and I also understand that I'm young and I have time to date in the future I tell myself that all the time but I cant help but feel the need to be wanted by a someone who wants me. Sadly I live in South FL where where everybody to me either just isn't my type or is way to promiscuous ... perhaps that's why all the guys I like live far away but moving is not an option for me because I'm in college. Any kind of advice would be greatly appreciated 8J
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Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
I'm really glad I have the opportunity to answer this question, I hope this helps you:
The most important thing is that you have a huge capacity to love others, and at such a young age, that is quite an accomplishment. Unfortunately, this also leaves you vulnerable to being hurt by those that you open up so deeply to. The only way around this is to train your heart to take baby steps, to not allow your emotions to dictate your actions. Easier said than done.
Here's the other thing: although compatibility is a large factor in dating, timing is just as important, and it's obviously just not your time yet. I've learned that sometimes this has less to do with your age or the season, and more to do with where you are at this point in your life (or where HE is in HIS life).
Instead of seeing your repetitive failed relationships as a string of bad luck, maybe it's time to focus on other aspects of your life. Use this mandatory hiatus from guys to find yourself! Start a new hobby, make new friends, foster a dog, get caught up on reading and movies, etc..
One of my favorite mantra's:
"It's not about finding the right person,
it's about BEING the right person."
I think this is applicable to you, because you will soon be able to reassure yourself that you are indeed a person worth loving, regardless of whether or not there is anyone around at the moment to do it for you.
Be the person you want to be, and love yourself, because I guarantee as soon as you finish that challenge, it will magically be the right time for that someone to come along. Life is painfully ironic like that.
Finish college, say no to hard drugs, use a condom, and be ready for love when he shows up!
***TheGivingTree
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