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Does he want to use me? (kind of long)
This guy that I met about a year ago got my # and started texting me a lot, but I was already in a relatinship at the time. When my relationship ended, about two weeks later he asked me to hang out with him. Well, it ended up we started dating but only for a month and then he dumped me and gave me a stupid reason for it. We still talked after that, but only as friends.
Just recently, he asked if I was seeing anyone and I told him about the guy I just started dating a couple weeks ago. That's when he told me the "true" reason he dumped me before, in which it was not really his fault, but he was extremely apologetic. And then he asked if we could start over, but I told him I had moved on, and so he said that whatever happens will happen.
The problem is, now he texts/calls me pretty consistently throughout the day, as if I am all he thinks about. Is it possible that this guy could just be trying to get back with me because he wants sex? Because when we were dating, he would bring it up and I would tell him I wanted to wait. My first inclination was that he was only in it for sex, but now that I think about it, if he only wanted sex, then he wouldn't be spending all this time waiting on me because there's plenty of girls willing to hook up with a guy around here. Should I consider him?
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Was he understanding when you said you wanted to wait? Or did he just get upset and not listen? If you could see youself with him again, i guess you could try it, but not if you really like the guy you're with now. Don't dump him if you have any doubts about this other guy. If you do go with this guy again, make sure you're very clear on what you want (and I'm sure you were the first time). If you think he is being honest when he says you are all he thinks about, I guess you could try it, but think about the guy you are with now.
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Don't let anyone have the authority to come in and out of your life. It's confusing, inconsiderate and it's hurtful to you.
The sex thing: you said - "My first inclination was that he was only in it for sex, but now that I think about it, if he only wanted sex, then he wouldn't be spending all this time waiting on me because there's plenty of girls willing to hook up with a guy around here" - this is true, but you know what? he could be utilizing all of his options too, and maybe he has now pulled your lucky number and you're next, and then when he's ready to pull the next number, he may break up with you again and pull her number. So, don't fall for the BS Girl! it becomes a damn cycle! Since he told you the "true" reason for breaking up - FINALLY, that means he lied to you about the reason he broke up with you the first time. Don't let him dump you a second time. 1st time, shame on them, 2nd time, shame on you.
or he could be the type that doesn't want you and doesn't want anyone else to have you either. So, don't take him back, make your relationship work that you are in.
Good Luck and remember you are smarter, wiser and better than that.
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I wouldn't.
Just because a guy isn't 'only after sex' doesn't mean he is automatically a good person for you to date.
It is a good idea to have standards a bit higher then that.
It sounds to me like this guy has given you some other reasons not to consider him. His slightly creepy behavoir now is a good one to think about. Also his flakey dumping of you with a weak lie. Whatever his reasons were, it's not cool that he wasn't honest with you.
Just because someone really likes you, doesn't mean you have to consider them. If you've moved on, and don't feel like dating him anymore, that is a good enough reason to not consider him (and to tell him to cool the texting).
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Well, what was the real reason he dumped you? Was it honestly not his fault?
Personally, I don't think he's just trying to get back together with you for that one reason, becuase like you said, there's other girls that would have hooked up with him.
If you don't like your ex anymore and if you want him to stop texting you and stuff, just gradually stop responding as much. He'll eventually stop bothering you throughout the day and get the hint. But if he's constantly texting and calling you like that, it seems like he really wants you back. But it depends how close you are with your current boyfriend, I guess. Do you think you'd be better off with your ex or the guy you're seeing now? Before you make that decision, make sure you're ex isn't just going to break up with you again for the same reason as before.
Good luck. :)
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Keep with your current boyfriend. Your ex had his chance and he blew it.
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He sounds a little obsessed and my personal opinion is that you should not consider going out with him. Give your new relationship a chance to work. If he continues to text/call you should ask him to back off and give you some space. I hope it all works out for you. All the best.
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