I highly doubt that having a thick hymen would actually disable someone from having sex.
If she wasn't lubed enough, he wouldn't be able to get his fingers in - it makes sense. Sex requires a lot of foreplay for girls. She might just need a little more attention...
If that doesn't work, use a water-based lube like KY jelly. Never use vaseline with condoms. Just a warning. It breaks them, I think. (My mom told me that)
As for not wanting to hurt her, that's gonna be kind of hard if she's tight, or unlubed.
She can stretch herself out a little by using tampons when she's on her period, and by fingering herself. Those two both help loosen you up.
I hope this helped a bit!
-Siren =)

In a situation like this, the guy seems to be a bit shy...you might have to do the asking if you want anything to happen soon!
He likes you, you like him, but neither one has asked the other out? Think about this - your chances of rejection are really, really, REALLY low, if he likes you.
Which he does. You have nothing to worry about, except the natural nerves that come with asking someone out. Go for it!
Good luck with this!
-Siren =)

Computer stuff is really not one of my strong points, and I don't want to tell you the wrong thing...I suggest you ask the general advicenators population- one of the other advicenators will be able to help you.
Sorry I couldn't help!
-Siren =)

All rightie, when it comes to situations like this, I say always speak your mind. If it hurts when she talks about guys she likes, ask her not to. Sounds to me like she's trying to treat you like a normal friend and ignore your crush on her, and she'd normally tell her friends what's on her mind, etc.
You know the drill.
I hope this helped a little!
-Siren =)

Candi,
I can read dreams, but I can't IM on this computer. I'll have mine back soon, though, and I'll help you. In the meantime, don't freak out. Dreams very rarely predict things that happen right away. ^_^
-Siren =)

I think my abdomen hurt after the first time...if it's your STOMACH, though...I'm not sure.
If he wasn't gentle, then chances are you're gonna be sore. We're fragile down there, believe it or not. Girls can only take so much. Also, if he went deep, that could hurt your abdomen.
It might have been the angle at which you were that made your back hurt, but I'm not sure.
The first time it hardly ever feels good, just so you know. My first time sucked, lol. I cried because I was in so much pain, but it wasn't as awkward as I thought it would be.
I hope this helped a little!
-Siren =)

Firstly, consider yourself really lucky to have a guy with you that long who hasn't pushed to go any further than just kissing!
Okay, since YOU want to go further, the best idea would be to just kind of...bring it up casually.
Don't push, though, if he doesn't want to go further. Good things can take time...^_^
Hope this helped a bit!
-Siren =)

If you can fight about stupid shit and you haven't broken up, you guys have a strong relationship. Congratulations. ^_^
As for feeling less guilty about arguing, you just have to know that arguments are NORMAL and that you two have a strong relationship. There has to be a reason you argue, right? Let there be a reason. It may not be as stupid as you think it is. *Shrug*
You sound like a sweetheart. Don't lose the guilt totally. It'll help you out in the long run. =P
Hope I helped a bit!
-Siren =)

Heh...I have a friend with this problem.
There's really nothing you can do to stop it. As my friend says every time she blushes (and therefore give something away she was trying to hide) "Confound these blushing cheeks!!"
Sorry I couldn't help!
-Siren =)

That's great that you try to be yourself around everyone. Yay!
You just have to find the right guy. I went 6-8 without a guy. I got one the summer of 8th grade, lol. It's really just about them realizing that you're cool and that you deserve a chance (girlfriend wise)
I really don't think there's anything you can do to actually improve your chances of getting a boyfriend. Talk to people, be yourself, and guys will notice.
Hope this helped a little!
-Siren =)

Alrightie, lessee...
Well, I think you should talk it out with him and figure out what he wants to do. If he can be faithful to you and all that, and you can be true to him, I say keep the boy with you and ignore the distance!
Long distance relationships are a lot harder, though, and you have to be willing to work at them.
But, if you're feeling like you don't really want to be tied down to a guy you'll never see, then I would move on and try to find someone closer to you.
The final decision is up to you, but take everything into account! Make sure he's willing to try the distance thing if you want to.
I hope this helped!
-Siren =)

Black is the only PURE color with that effect, but you can still wear dark shirts, like navy blue, etc.
Baby tees also help slim. I wear them a lot - they kinda draw attention to your boobs, though, and away from your stomach. *Shrug*
Hope this helped a bit!
-Siren =)

I brush mine twice a day - when I get up, and after dinner.
They say you should brush at least once a day, I think.
-Siren =)

It really depends on the guy. Some guys can really pull off wearing glasses and looking hot. Others can't.
I personally don't like guys with glasses because they get in the way (lol), but I mean, glasses wouldn't change my opinion of a guy if I liked him. I wouldn't think he was less attractive because of the glasses. *Shrug*
-Siren =)

Tell him what's on your mind.
Or, in this case, tell him you know what's on his mind (tell him how you found out, too). If something's bothering you (or him) and is has to do with your relationship, it needs to be talked about.
At least, that's what I think.
Hope I helped!
-Siren =)

LOL It comes from loving cars/loving to drive. The guy I was with in my freshman year used to be able to look out to the school's parking lot and say "ooh, nice...98' camry..." or something, and I'd always look at him like "...how the hell do you know what that IS?"
That's until I got my license, lol. I LOVE to drive, and I love cars. Because of this newfound fascination, I can now name cars the way my boyfriend can...it's amusing, to say the least.
Guys do that because they love cars. It's as simple as that, lol.
Hope I helped!
-Siren =)

Dude, my mom said that too...My mother loves me to death - when I turned 12, she started telling me "If you ever feel like you want to be come sexually active, come to me. We'll get you birth control because if you ever got pregnant, I would make you get an abortion."
Lol
She definitely cares. I would take advantage of it, if you want to, that is. There are very few moms like ours who are openly willing to give their daughters birth control if they want it.
Most parents consider that the "go ahead" to have sex, and try to prevent it from happening (which is why so many people go to PP).
-Siren =)

If you can't stand guys your age, look up. (Older). I mean, I'm mature for my age - god knows I can't handle sixteen year old guys. They're all moronic (no offense guys), which is why my boyfriend is 18...Lol.
If you wanna find a guy, look everywhere. Forget about their age and start looking at their personality.
Older guys are also more likely to look at a girl's personality as well as the way she looks, whereas younger guys go for looks first, then maybe personality if the girl's hot.
Just be patient - don't settle for a guy you don't really want. A good guy will come along.
Hope this helped!
-Siren =)

Sucky! I have really dry skin and my heels are always cracked (sandal season sucks!) I know how you feel...lol
Anyway, for acne, I suggest you get your mom or dad to take you to a dermatologist. The doctor should be able to reccomend a good acne medicine for you. Also, wash your face EVERY NIGHT!!
You don't even have to shower every night, just wash your face. A dermatologist may be able to reccomend a good soap to use.
I'm not sure what to do about stretch marks, and I don't think there's anything you can do about hairy stomach, but for cracked heels, moisturizer.
Something that's not greasy, and you can put on and leave on overnight.
Guys will notice you even if you do have "all these imperfections," so think POSITIVE!
Hope I helped!
-Siren =)

Well, I thought freshman year sucked 'cause all of a sudden, they piled all this work on me!
But I did make friends. The bullying should lessen a LOT in high school. There's also less focus on popularity and style and stuff like that.
In middle school, your reputation is, like, everything. In high school, at least for my high school, it barely ever comes into play. I had fun in my freshman year, aside from all the work.
No reason to be scared. Go in there with a positive attitude and you should be fine. ^_^
Hope I helped!
-Siren =)

I'm a laid-back 26 year old with a Psychology BA, starting my MA program, and working my way into the field as quickly as I can. It took me an extra Bachelor's degree (in vocal performance and creative writing) to figure it out, but I was put on this Earth to help, to heal, and to love.

I have made the decision to dedicate my life and career to helping others. I am here to do just that.

I've been a member since 2004, and since I signed up, I've gone through quite a lot and learned quite a lot from it. I'm here to give guidance where I had none; no one should have to go through the difficulties I went through alone.

Feel free to visit my website/blog, if you want to read my experience with domestic violence and my thoughts on it.

***While I do tend to answer mental health and other health-related or medicine-related questions, I am by NO MEANS a licensed physician or practitioner of any sort. Any and all advice I give for these questions is from my own experience or studies.***

If you need to get a hold of me quickly, my screen name on AIM is SirenCytherea. Just let me know you found me here.

I'm a strong believer in the idea that there are no stupid questions except the ones left unasked, so, please, keep an open mind, heart, and mouth.

Siren

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