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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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I'm 21 and whenever I go places, people think I'm like fifteen. I hate it! I got a haircut the other day and while I was waiting, I told the woman I needed to go add cash to my parking meter and she said "Wow! You don't look old enough to be driving!"
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What can I do about this? I can't stand it when people don't take me seriously in public. I don't know if my face looks young or if it's just because of my small stature. I'm 5"1 and 90 pounds.
You look young but I wouldn't say not old enough to drive. I am 27 years old and I have people tell me I look like I am 20-22yrs and I take it as a compliment.
I will be upfront and honest and I am deeply sorry if I offend you but at 5'1 a healthy weight is 120 lbs. Being underweight can give off a much younger or sickly impression also.
Why won't my mom let me get my ears pierced? I am 17 YEARS OLD AND I DON'T HAVE MY EARS PIERCED! she said it will make me look older but i AM older! and she says she got them pierced at 13 but she regrets it. WHAT????? i see earrings every where and all my friends have at least one piercing. i have been asking since i was 6 but she still says "ask me later" Help!
At age 17 I do not believe you need a parents permission to get them done. Go to Walmart or Claires as you are old enough.
Like,I was dating a guy for like 6months, and he just brokeup. And like, I'm not able to get over him... He likes a close friend of mine, but she's into someother one. And like, also we don't talk anymore.. I need an advise. Like what to do.
Exes are an EXample of what you should never do again..
I'm really bored for some reason. CAn you give me some advice on how to solve it.
Take up a hobby
Winter makes things difficult. I just recently started repairing old furniture around my house.
Write, cook, draw. Find something you love to do.
F/15
I have been with my boyfriend for over 2 months now, I've noticed his ex-girlfriend is constantly texting him. He was in the shower when I had a urge to go through his phone, I looked through his inbox and they was loads of messages from her saying "I love you" "You piss me off so much" etc. I didn't get chance to read through his outbox because I heard him coming to the room. I know it's a bad thing to do, to go through his phone but I have some feeling he still has feelings for her :/ I've confronted him and asked him if he still does, but he says he doesn't and starts calling her names such as "tart" he also has texts from when they were together! Now why would you still keep your text messages? I'm so confused about it all...
It sounds like he could be possibly cheating on you. If a man still holds onto old baggage then he can never truly give his current relationship a full commitment.The reality of it, he should of told her to stop texting and blocked her on Facebook and he didn't. Don't need much more proof then that. To make matters worse he is not being honest with you about it but instead leading you on.
Find someone who is into you and has the ex out of his life.
Okay, I am a girl in 8th grade, 14 years old. My friend heard this boy telling his friend that he liked me. I dont really like him that way but before i found out he told my friend to leave him alone because he already "had someone." he said this while staring at me. He was dating another good friend of mine and dumped her cause she had a flat chest. He is seated close to me in all of my classes and just today my friend found a picture of a girl without any clothes on and it said printed by; and his name. He also got my friend alone in a room and starting proposing gross stuff at her.(before all this) He is always staring at me and its creeping me out. And I can't tell the principal because they say "deal with your own problems."
What should I do?! I would really appriceate any and all advice on this, and I am so sorry it's so long!
Thanks!
~Christina
Inform the police
Anyone who has photos of a minor nude or partly nude is in possession of child pornography.
Also, I would let your friends parents become aware of what is going on. Let them know you tried reporting the issue to the school and they did nothing to resolve the issue. Sit down and express your concerns to your friend about how it is best to stay away from him as he is looking at some serious trouble.
Report him
or is that too enabling or encouraging?
my 22 year old daughter is incarcerated for a year for fraud charges. I am unable to have much sympathy for her about this because she committed a crime even though I never told her it was OK to participate in illegal activities, wasted her education (which was as good as anyone could hope for( , set a bad example for her younger sister, and this is her punishment and maybe it will be a good learning experience and toughen her up.
I wonder if I should visit her. I hear it may take a month to get visits. Is visiting also something that should be encouraged or is it seen as too enabling or encouraging to the person inside. I don't want to give anyone (especially her younger sibling) the idea I support criminal activity.
is there an account that she needs money on or something? Is it for necessities or for some luxury items? If only for luxury items I am not sure if I should send anything since I don't have the desire to make the stay all cushy for her.
anything else I should tell her? Maybe she can get some job inside or something?
Didn't we just answer this question?....
Hey
My name is Becky and I am from Kenya and I started having dandruff when I came to the USA and I braid my hair mostly and I use the brownish blackish andis
flat iron/straightener so is it good for me to use it or bad? Also my hair is spiral curl (which i hate) and when it gets wet it gets short and I cant comb it so yep.
Love,
Becky
Hi Becky
Try using dandruff shampoo. A hair straightener should not effect dandruff but can cause your hair to developed split ends and be dried out.
Okay so im a 13yr Female and i have this guy friend that is almost my boyfriend. But he doesnt want a relationship this year wich im cool with. But he had called me up one day and he said "Hey you gotta stop sending me pics (we sext alot) and his mom goes or, and he says or we will have to go to your parents about this and he said that he loves me and all and that he had too go what should i do too get on their good side i mean his dad was realy mad an was about to cuss me out ut he held back what should I do I really love him and he loves me.
You are 13..
I am not sure if you send photos of yourself but I hope you are aware that it is traceable and illegal at your age. A phone is like a computer you can never truly delete the evidence as it stores data. Of course they are going to be mad, you are giving them a terrible impression. Their son is a minor as so are you. No at 13, he does not know what love is. Sorry but no 13 year old truly knows the meaning of love. If you want things to be fine then you should start respecting them and yourself.
I heard on a movie once that if a guy breaks a girls virginity then she'll get emotionally attached to the guy... I was just wondering if it's true and if so then why do they get emotionally attached to the guy and why don't guys get emotionally attached to the girls they break their virginity with?? :)
No
Not feeling sorry for myself so don't say it. I'm just tired of my terrible life and I just want it done, sooner the better.I'm 44 and have been in 2 major relationships in my life. One was my x wife, we were married for 22 years, in the end she ran off with a married man. Must have been me why she did it. The 2nd was the love of my life and we did love each other, she lives in Tucson, same as myself.we each had problems as does everyone, working threw our issues together an our own we would work threw together. We liked being together and we did most everything togetherwe loved it . In the end she treated me like a nobody, and seemed to blame me for everything,ok I figured we could work threw this also as we loved each other so much. Nope it was easier to break it off with me and go with someone else. I'm dead inside and my mind needs shut off, I think about her everyday txt with her on occasion. Yes I know ur going to say no contact,but I can't, I want her so much and miss her bad. My family and friends all say screw her and they hate her for how she hurts me. I can't stop thinkingof her/us and want no one but her. It's been a yr now and its the same, for me atleast. I'm done and ready to die. My life is shit and iv given up.
Shut my heart, mind, pain off, I am truly ready.
Yes you are right. As long as you continue to stay in contact you will prolong your pain.
The new year is coming and I believe you should set a goal for yourself and it should be; new year, new beginning.
You cut out the bullshit and you focus on you. Get involved with friends and family and most of all I would recommend getting yourself into counseling.
Keeping yourself busy helps tons
A few months back my relationship went rocky and we separated. Yes, I hit rock bottom. I learned several valuable lesson during that time.
1. You never depend upon another other than yourself.
2. Only YOU can make yourself happy. If your not happy being with yourself first, you will never be happy with someone else.
Time to focus on you. I believe karma is patient. Yes, these woman who have ran off probably have it coming. However I do encourage very much that you stop contacting. Focus on your job, family and friends. Not old baggage
I too have realized what this world is really about mostly in this past year. I am 35; and I think I was positively naive for most of my life. When I observe all the more, I realize that this world is very much built on a control grid. It's a fucking prison. I have thought about suicide more in my life in the past few weeks than in any other part of my life. I am seeing a dim light at the tunnel, and I read this blog here which is slowly broadening this light- not sure where it will go. But, maybe there is hope? Any positive ideas about hope and how we can change the world?
I find helping people to be a great start. The holiday is coming and there are lots of children in need of someone. One year I bought a fairy tale book and went to the children's hospital and read too them. Feels great to give back.
I recommend volunteering
What does it mean if someone says that to you?
Basically to love with your head and not your heart. To love someone even in the wrong circumstance.
i'm an 18 year old female college student. i have had a boyfriend for 2 years.
all my life, i've been straight. i have never, ever seen a girl that i found myself attracted to, except the fact that she's pretty.
however, in one of my classes of my first semester this year, there was a girl there who had me thinking otherwise. she is a biiig tomboy and has a really outgoing personality, which is opposite of me, which i think lures me to be interested in her as a person.
then, i started having sexual daydreams about her. i've had dreams about masturbating to her.
so that's where i'm confused. i think it all may be because her personality attracted me first and she was also very tomboyish... her clothes, her short hair, her voice... so i guess maybe that's what it is that gets me?
but when i think about her and i doing things, the fact that she's a girl doesn't creep me out. i just want to do it with her.
i mean, am i bicurious? or just attracted to boyish people in general...
Bicurious
Try talking to her, compliment her and see how she takes it. You never know
hey guys so my bf n i recently got n in a long distance rela recently and in that time he made some new friends (3 months of friendship only) and in the time i have seen his pics of fb ... there is always this girl that he hangs out with all the tme ... he said thta he is a gud friend of hers ... so i cant even create a big issue out of it ... yesterday he told me he ll be doing a project which he has to run every night .. that means no more talking to him .. during the week days .. n it was already hard to digest that but i was like this is for his career but then today he told me that his 3rd partner is the girl who he hangs out with a lot .. the only prob that i have is that is that he ll be spending more time with that girl .. than with me ... i know tlking on skype can be boring but i am willing to give him that much amoutn of time of my lfe than y cant he ... the pics of him with that girl r like she kissing him on his cheeks or she is leaning on his shoulder ... anyhow ... i dont know what should do i do .. talk to him bout it .. he is surely be like wth its my work ... i cant be selfish but how do i control my feelings? pls help thx
Added onto what the user said below me
If she is in pictures kissing him and he hasn't done anything about it then she may have already got him. Or, there I'd something he is not telling you.
Here is the ouch: you are long distant, she is in person.
i had a 3 days menstruation period every month..anf after 6 days my period ends, i got unprotected sex w/ my bf..could i get pregnant??
It doesn't matter when you have sex. There is always a possibility of getting pregnant
Judging from your question I would start using protection and get on birth control....
my guy friend wants to have sex with me but i do not bcause we are friends and i dont anything bad to happen what can i do oh and we have made out alot help please!!!!!!!!
Put your foot down and explain to him that the kissing has caused him to get the wrong impression. This is why I really wouldn't mess around with anyone I didn't plan on getting serious with.
Be straight with him and tell him you are not comfortable with the idea of sex and that the kissing has gotten out of hand. End it there
F/16
I've been with my boyfriend for about 2 months now, we've been really good together but lately he's been acting a bit cold. He doesn't text me that often anymore, or when he does... It's always me texting and starting the conversation first, he's acting like he's not interested anymore. I will admit, I'm telling him what to do, well not necessarly telling him. But whenever he does something I don't like, whether it's hanging with girls or speaking to them etc, I tend to go moody and be really stressy. I have no idea what to do, I've tried to ask him if I've done anything wrong but he says I haven't and goes back to being cold. He's never affectionate towards me anymore, I never hear the words "I love you" unless it's me saying it and then he obviously says it back. I have no idea on what to do, I know you can't make someone stay when they want to leave but he's not said he doesn't want to be with me anymore, but that's how it feels. I don't want to lose him, I really don't, but I'll give it another month and I feel as though I will have lost him by then. Coming from a male themselves, and obviously a female, can you both give me your opinions on why he's gone cold and what I should do to over come this? I'd really appreciate it.
Your behavior is scaring him off. You don't need to say anything as your actions speak louder then words. To get all stressed and moody over his choices of hanging out with people you disapprove of is controlling. This kid has the right to have friends both male and female. If you get worked by it then you need to work on trust and jealousy. These two things will be your kiss of death in every relationship as long as you don't get over it. Loosen up and stop over reacting
What happens if he asks me out but im not allowed to and when i tell him he cries?
He is immature and not ready for a relationship.
Tell him like it is. "no sorry I am not interested in dating you please stop asking."
If he doesn't like it then that's too bad. Life is full of rejection and you are not entitled to date anyone you do not want too.
My friend is obsessed with a guy who isn't interested, like at all. She is really obsessed with him and is always stalking him on fb or counting how many times he blinks in class. She thinks he's in love with her but they font even speak and he has a girl friend. always says how she hates herself and has. Started drinking/taking 5 Panadol at a time and even self harming. I am rely worried about her and I love her to pieces but I have other friends too and I can't spend 24hrs a day telling her she's perfect, that's not fair on them or me. I really want to help her though! I've convinced her to jo to a councillor but it isn't helping...what do I do?!! Age:14 gender:female
Really all you can do is express your concerns about her behavior. This friend needs to learn her own lessons and only she is going to decide them. You just guide and give support but you cannot always catch her when she falls unfortunately. You have a life of your own too, don't waste too much time and energy on others.