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My friend is obsessed with a guy who isn't interested+self harms
My friend is obsessed with a guy who isn't interested, like at all. She is really obsessed with him and is always stalking him on fb or counting how many times he blinks in class. She thinks he's in love with her but they font even speak and he has a girl friend. always says how she hates herself and has. Started drinking/taking 5 Panadol at a time and even self harming. I am rely worried about her and I love her to pieces but I have other friends too and I can't spend 24hrs a day telling her she's perfect, that's not fair on them or me. I really want to help her though! I've convinced her to jo to a councillor but it isn't helping...what do I do?!! Age:14 gender:female
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Well the worst thing to do for a person who self harms is suggest they get help.I self harms also,and have been doing it for three years.My friends have suggested I get help like you did and that just makes things worst.
Try understanding why she hates herself.Just be there for her.When she needs someone to talk to be there.Right now she is more important than your other friends.Self harm is a life or death situation.You want to help her but you have to go about doing it the right way.Dont just tell her to stop,because that will make it worst.
Learn more about self harm.Once you look more into it you can start to understand why we do it.But whatever you do dont judge her.Be there to support her feelings.Encourage her to talk to you about how she feels.
Hope it helps.
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Really all you can do is express your concerns about her behavior. This friend needs to learn her own lessons and only she is going to decide them. You just guide and give support but you cannot always catch her when she falls unfortunately. You have a life of your own too, don't waste too much time and energy on others.
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tell her the truth-
u3 desreve better than himm and he is obviuosly distracted with a lot of other things at the moment.self harm isnt cool, i should know.is that all thats bugging her?u can email me any time at letmebe44@gmail.com
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