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How can I feel more at home at my parents' house?
My husband and I have fallen on hard times and can't afford to keep an apartment, so we've resorted to moving back to my mom and dad's in my old bedroom. There's limited space, and we'll have to share a kitchen. What can I do to make this feel more like home for us?
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For now you will have to make your room your haven. Involve your husband and find out what would make it seem homey and comfortable for him. Combine your tastes and come up with a style that is unique to you as a couple. Maybe you like ruffles and he likes industrial. I'm picturing a white ruffled bedspread and industrial hanging lights with pulleys on either side bed with a small camouflage throw pillow(if he likes hunting) and maybe a wood and metal chair or stool for a nightstand! Some awesome black and white photos of your wedding day grouped together on a wall will keep the memory of that beautiful day fresh in your minds as you go through these trying times. You could put a wall word that has meaning to you both over the bed(like DREAM or IMAGINE)so you never lose sight of what you want for the future. Remember this is going to be a much harder transition for him since this was never his room before. If at all possible make as many changes as you can so that it doesn't still reflect who you were as a single girl. He needs to feel that while you are here it is his room as well. Good luck to you both!
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You never mentioned the state and size of their basement. Obviously it's unfinished judging from you indicating that there's limited space. It may not be big enough to turn into a 1 bedroom space in a renovation.
However, even if it was too small or not finished it probably has a concrete floor you can work with. If you bought a pull-out sofa and set that up and put a love-seat or chairs to sit on that would give you a private space to retreat to in addition to your room. You can also run TV (cable) and video-games on a TV down there if you use a signal spliter.
Sharing a kitchen is no big deal provided you buy your own food and don't take their's unless offered dinner. Also do dishes, chores, cooking on a regular basis unprompted as that will show gratitude. Your husband could also do work for them at the house. That goes a long way towards harmony.
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