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"Boy friends" faimily hates me now because i have been sending sext and pics
Okay so im a 13yr Female and i have this guy friend that is almost my boyfriend. But he doesnt want a relationship this year wich im cool with. But he had called me up one day and he said "Hey you gotta stop sending me pics (we sext alot) and his mom goes or, and he says or we will have to go to your parents about this and he said that he loves me and all and that he had too go what should i do too get on their good side i mean his dad was realy mad an was about to cuss me out ut he held back what should I do I really love him and he loves me.
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Okay, I understand that you're 13, and you have interest in boys, which I have nothing against dating young, I actually think that it is a very important part of growth and development to experience being in nonsexual relationships. However, I do think it is unhealthy to be in a sexual relationship at your age. I'm sorry to say, but if you and this guy happened to be together longer, say in the future when you're 15 or 16, then the relationship should become serious. You're only 13 for now, which I know, age should not define us..being a teen myself, but our age does say something about us. We shouldn't be focusing on sex right now. However, I do believe if you are in a STABLE relationship (meaning you've been with this person over a year) then I also think it is fine to start becoming sexual with that person. Not to mention making sure you use birth control, condoms, or some sort of contraceptive. It's just common sense.
Take what I say, or not. It's your life, but I think that the relationship between you and him should stay nonsexual. I know I didn't answer your real question, but this concerned me a LOT.
But if you want to impress his parents, just be yourself, honestly. Bring his mom flowers, his dad cologne, or a watch. Be nice, use manners, say please and thankyou. Talk about them, not you.
Hope this helps sweetie. xx
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Unfortunately, when you sext with a minor, even if you're a minor yourself, is often considered child porn, which could land your boyfriend in some real dire legal hot water.
The teenage brain isn't well developed yet (the brain keeps on developing up through around age 25) to really grasp the consequences of one's actions. So in the future, keep your texts G rated and if anyone demands you go beyond that tell them to get lost.
In addition, 13 year olds should not be getting into exclusive relationships because you are not only still in the exploratory phase of your life, but the lack of maturity, knowledge of how the opposite sex operates and the myriad insecurities that being an adolescent are imbued with almost guarantee that relationships at such young ages will only lead to heartache or other negative consequences.
So my advice to you is to not look to get tied down, relax, look at this phase of your life one in which you want to observe and talk to people and learn what you can and thereby develop a firm foundation for developing solid partnerships later in your development. Put off sex until at least college so that you will ensure that you are making more well considered decision in your choice of partners because you will just know more about life and how guys think and function. Good luck.
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Of course his parents are going to be mad. If you are sending him sex pics, especially of you, you are causing both of you to be breaking the law. Is illegal to send sexually explicit pictures of underage children over the web. You may be under age but you can still be charged with breaking this law. Many kids your age have been charged when caught. Ignorance of the is a mitigating factor in court but it is no excuse.
It is illegal to take or possess sexually explicit pictures of under age children. This is called child pornography. Regardless of your ages you are breaking the law.
Then there is the fact that once you send these pictures to someone you are no longer in control of them. You mean them only for his viewing. He can if he wishes show them to his friends or send them on to others. It does not take long before your private pictures are no longer private but being viewed by millions of people. Did you give any thought to that? I am speaking in general terms here not specifically of this boy.
Never ever send pictures of yourself to anyone you would not show show to your father or brother. Regardless of the illegality of the pictures themselves; sending these types of pictures can cause you deep embarrassment as they can and will get out of the hands of the intended recipient.
As to getting back on his parents good side? That will take time and hard work on your part. You have shown very poor judgement in sending these pictures. First impressions or impressions of this nature are hard to live down, if they can be lived down.
The best advice I can give you is to find another boyfriend and not make this same mistake with him. I would suggest you have a talk with your mom and see if she can help you out of this situation.
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You are 13..
I am not sure if you send photos of yourself but I hope you are aware that it is traceable and illegal at your age. A phone is like a computer you can never truly delete the evidence as it stores data. Of course they are going to be mad, you are giving them a terrible impression. Their son is a minor as so are you. No at 13, he does not know what love is. Sorry but no 13 year old truly knows the meaning of love. If you want things to be fine then you should start respecting them and yourself.
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