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eating disorder i think????
Hi, I'm 14 years old and insecure. My friend is gorgeous, she 5'9 and 115 pounds she gets all the boys and whenever i'm with her i feel horrible about myself. recently i have been making myself throw up i just want to be pretty and have people like me like they do her, i know i cant be her but i see her and then look at myself and i feel like shit. i wish i was like her and i need to know what i need to do to make self be more confident and prettier, i have semi long dark brown hair large green a few acne problems im 5ft7 and weigh 175 pounds, i have thin lips. I play softball and volleyball. I really want to be confident but i dont know how to get myself their please help me with this it means a lot!!!
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There are a lot of people on here who will say "just be you" or "relax and be confident." While I do agree that this is the ultimate goal, the psychology behind these mindsets is extremely complex and wayyyy easier said than done. People will tell you to "be confident" without telling you how to.
It is up to YOU how you are going to achieve this confidence but one thing I can tell you you need to do is be brutally honest with yourself. Really THINK about what you don't like about yourself. Why don't you like the way you look? Physical appearance can be changed and let me tell you, changing the way you look if you don't feel attractive can work absolute wonders (I lost a lot of weight and it changed my life) but what's most important is that you examine yourself on the inside.
What do people LIKE about you? Are you kind? intelligent? funny? What are your talents? What makes you happy? I'm telling you from experience that once you find what makes you the individual that you are on the inside, it will be easy to appreciate who you are and realize that we are all different from one another and that's what makes the world go 'round. No one is better than another, just different. And I'm telling you, and I know this is hard to believe but personality goes much more of a long way than looks do.
I guess my ultimate advice is to figure out what makes you yourself and embrace the hell out of it. People will love you for that. A girl who is trying so hard to be like her supermodel friend will be the most unattractive. If you don't like the way you look, you are more than able to change that. Also, losing weight is absolutely realistic and achievable. PLEASE don't throw up.
Achieving confidence is a process. It's not going to happen overnight. Like I said, it's very complex. But trust my advice and it will happen over time.
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Ouch, doesn't sound at all very nice for you...
Making yourself throw up wont make you her. Nothing will. you need to be yourself and confident with yourself (easier said than done)
(im 14) and i understand about the guys going for her because she is pretty. guys at 14 are full with testostorone.
prove yourself by being you... i play volleyball :)
sport is a great way of doing so...
there will be days when she wishes she was someone else... we all do. were all full of envy..
noones perfect. stay strong xox
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Hi:) There's a couple things you need to hear: first off you are super beautiful and perfect. Dot EVER let anyone make you feel bad about yourself. You're amazing. Second of all, food is good. Enjoy it and dont worry about it. It's good for you so don't puke it back up. Third of all, the key to confidence is looking like you're in charge. That means head up, shoulders back, and a little tiny bit of pride. You need something to drive you to be confident. Wear clothes you feel beautiful and comfortable in. Remember to smile too.
You're beautiful:)
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