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confused about myself...
i'm an 18 year old female college student. i have had a boyfriend for 2 years.
all my life, i've been straight. i have never, ever seen a girl that i found myself attracted to, except the fact that she's pretty.
however, in one of my classes of my first semester this year, there was a girl there who had me thinking otherwise. she is a biiig tomboy and has a really outgoing personality, which is opposite of me, which i think lures me to be interested in her as a person.
then, i started having sexual daydreams about her. i've had dreams about masturbating to her.
so that's where i'm confused. i think it all may be because her personality attracted me first and she was also very tomboyish... her clothes, her short hair, her voice... so i guess maybe that's what it is that gets me?
but when i think about her and i doing things, the fact that she's a girl doesn't creep me out. i just want to do it with her.
i mean, am i bicurious? or just attracted to boyish people in general...
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Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
First, don't worry about the labels. To have that kind of awakening at your age and under those circumstances is really common. Now if you do something with her you may find you want to continue doing it or you may find it really isn't your thing. Or you may admit you may be, say, 80% straight and 20% lesbian. The possibilities are myriad.
The main thing you need to remember is that your life is yours alone and, barring you doing something to hurt yourself or others, what you do with that life is nobody's business but yours. So do what you feel you need to do. You may want to tell that girl, though, if you do find yourself in private with her and things are about to get intimate that you haven't completely sorted out your feelings about your sexuality and that it would indeed be your first time. That way, she'll be alerted that this may just be a onetime thing.
So talk to the girl you like and see if there is anything between you. It could just even be you want to be like her (that is, having an outgoing personality) and it is expressing itself sexually. That happens, too. Just explore, see what happens, learn from it and move forward.
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Bicurious
Try talking to her, compliment her and see how she takes it. You never know
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