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my fwb: my guy friend wants to have sex with me but i do not
my guy friend wants to have sex with me but i do not bcause we are friends and i dont anything bad to happen what can i do oh and we have made out alot help please!!!!!!!!
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Well, you lead him on by making out with him. About all you can do is sit him down and clarify where your relationship is.
"Sweety, I'm just not ready for sex right now, so it isn't going to happen. I like making out with you and I like you as a friend, but that is all I'm really looking for right now." Short, clean, to the point and it leaves the ball in his court as to how he deals with it.
DO NOT get pressured into something you don't want or you will probably hate yourself. Stand up for yourself like a big girl, say what you want and don't accept anything different. And if he can't deal with it and starts avoiding you, well, he isn't going to be the only guy in your life who will want to get with you. So no need to put so much critical stock in this one dalliance/friendship.
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then dont call him "my guy".. duh!
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Put your foot down and explain to him that the kissing has caused him to get the wrong impression. This is why I really wouldn't mess around with anyone I didn't plan on getting serious with.
Be straight with him and tell him you are not comfortable with the idea of sex and that the kissing has gotten out of hand. End it there
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solidadvice4teens is right in what she has said. I will put it another way.
First and foremost for sex to happen both parties must be consenting. If one party says no, that's it end of conversation. For the other party to continue to pressure or cajole the dissenting party into having sex with them. It is sexual harassment. If the dissenting party gives in to the pressure it is not consent it is rape.
Tell this to your guy friend for this is what he needs to learn. NO means NO and that is the end of the conversation. Continuing to pressure someone further can and could cause him a great deal of legal problems even as an underage teenager.
Sexual harassment has no age barriers within the law. Teenagers and adult are subject to the same laws when it comes to crimes of a sexual nature. The sooner young men learn of this the better.
An infamous line for young teenage boys to their girlfriends is; "If you love me you'll have sex with me." Wrong, sex is not in this instance the right way to show your love for someone. If ever a boy says something like that to you, he does not love you, he lusts for you. Teenage boys confuse lust and love. They believe lust and love are the same thing. It a hormonal reaction for them.
One other thing. Not knowing your age I will just add that you are correct in what you said about sex between friends. Sex between friends is a very good way to ruin a friendship. Something to remember as you go through life. It is not always the rule but generally speaking once you cross that line you can never go back.
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You should tell him that you really like him but find his request shocking and that you aren't interested or ready for intercourse with anyone right now for obvious reasons.
Tell him you don't mind the kissing or a relationship but that you're making it very clear where the boundaries are that you refuse to cross.
He'll get it and if not.. Move on! If not interested in kissing or a relationship or anything romantic with the guy tell him we're friends or we're nothing at all.
Sometimes and especially in these situations you have to be blunt and have courage put on the brakes if something isn't right.
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